roughly how much CSA

speedster

Nicky321 wrote: »

But is it likely that he can get 50/50 shared care? If the mother isnt co operative, is there anything he can do?

yup. straight to court and apply for a SRO.

success rate varies depending on a lot of factors and how strong you present your case.

Nicky321

speedster wrote: »

yup. straight to court and apply for a SRO.

success rate varies depending on a lot of factors and how strong you present your case.

SRO? is that a shared responsibility order?

speedster

sorry Shared Residence Order.

if you give me a few datais i maybe able to assist? how far apart do they live, how awkward is the ex?? sleeping arrangements? provisions for school runs in future.

it may be a case of getting a contact order originally and tacking an application for a SRO on at a later date once he has sustained and established contact.

Soubrette

If he wants to go for shared care then he and the mum will have to thrash out what will happen with the child benefit as only one person can receive this, whoever receives this will be deemed the main carer. It is very unfortunate that our society is not geared up for true 50/50 care yet.

However, I would have thought that he could easily sell the idea to his ex as it is unlikely he would be liable for any child maintenance at the moment and she is going to be working hard on her own course too - so by sharing both get some free time to do coursework and a social life while at the same time both getting a relationship with their child.

Is the mother uncooperative? If not then negotiation is probably the best - going in heavy talking about going to court etc may get her back up.

Sou

Nicky321

speedster wrote: »

sorry Shared Residence Order.

if you give me a few datais i maybe able to assist? how far apart do they live, how awkward is the ex?? sleeping arrangements? provisions for school runs in future.

it may be a case of getting a contact order originally and tacking an application for a SRO on at a later date once he has sustained and established contact.

Would I be able to PM you?

Nicky321

Soubrette wrote: »

If he wants to go for shared care then he and the mum will have to thrash out what will happen with the child benefit as only one person can receive this, whoever receives this will be deemed the main carer. It is very unfortunate that our society is not geared up for true 50/50 care yet.

However, I would have thought that he could easily sell the idea to his ex as it is unlikely he would be liable for any child maintenance at the moment and she is going to be working hard on her own course too - so by sharing both get some free time to do coursework and a social life while at the same time both getting a relationship with their child.

Is the mother uncooperative? If not then negotiation is probably the best - going in heavy talking about going to court etc may get her back up.

Sou

At the moment it is unclear as to her cooperation, as she only split with him today. I am just trying to get a head start on the info, just in case.

speedster

yep. fire away!

soubrette is also correct. court should really be last option.

was unavoidable in my case as i have a complete tool of an ex who is convinced she owns our littlun and that i'm "lucky" she "allows" me to see her.

luckily, the court doesn't agree with her and i whoop her !!! at every hearing! :T

speedster

Nicky321 wrote: »

At the moment it is unclear as to her cooperation, as she only split with him today. I am just trying to get a head start on the info, just in case.

my advice would be to strive to keep it ammicable first.

Soubrette

Nicky321 wrote: »

At the moment it is unclear as to her cooperation, as she only split with him today. I am just trying to get a head start on the info, just in case.

A good resource might be family need fathers (not just for fathers), there is a small joining fee and they have lots of resources if things get a bit tough.

Also if she split with him then I think she will probably be much more conciliatory than if it was the other way round - this does mean that your son has to be able to show no resentment towards her though, very difficult when you've been dumped

Sou

Nicky321

Soubrette wrote: »

this does mean that your son

Sou

? Not being rude, im grateful for info, but who mentioned the father being "my son"? Just getting advice for the father of the child.