how to get spark back

elisamoose

Not money saving in any way whatsoever but ......................we bought a boat! It is something we can do together at weekends and holidays and can meet other likeminded folk.

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The_Banker wrote: »

Start dropping little hints to make him jealous.

Just say things like...........


Isnt there some interesting people on the internet.

Ive got 5 friend requests on facebook from blokes I dont even know......shall I allow them?

Start calling him Tom or Harry by mistake.;)

I think that this is a very dangerous game to play!!! getting the spark back is one thing but doing something stupid like this could bring the relationship to a very quick halt!!!

Errata

Bless, he's very comfy in his comfort zone isn't he. How about a mixture of things: find something to do on your own like learning salsa; tell him what you've decided you will do together; tell him 2 goes down the pub = one suggestion from him for you both to do something together. Men can be a bit like dogs - they respond well to clear and full instructions

Spirit_2

I agree 30 plus years is worth a lot of effort. Mr Spirit & I have been married for 26 years.....

We do other things which include his friends who he plays tennis/shoots with & goes to the pub with....could you....

Make up a four with his friend and wife to go to the Theatre.
Invite his friends round plus wives for supper
Make up a four with a couple of friends to go to a Quiet pub

For just the two of you..could you...
Go for walks, woods, beaches, riverbanks .......hold hands, kiss
Go out for lunch together
Light a fire, open a bottle of wine, Watch a movie cosied up together
Ask him to massage you with something delicious smelling.........Origins have a lovely salt scrub - Mr Spirit has lovely soft hands now:o
Try camping........We have a camper van - it makes us laugh just camping in it
Play music you both like, suggest new things to listen to
Attend a festival, be it music or literature or sporting event
Tell him you love him, frequently.

Plan ahead for your special events. ....It was our wedding anniversary this week....we make a big deal of this...its not important to any one else but a celebration for us .....we met up in London (he had a meeting) I had a day off, went up to meet him, had a glass of champagne by the Thames outside of the national, had supper, went to a concert (I had booked tickets months before) . He had sent me lovely flowers that morning and customised a shop bought card for me. We would have liked to stay away overnight but we had spent as much as we could, so went home to our own comfy bed with freshly laundered sheets.

Good Luck

jenhug

what about joining a walking group?

The_Banker_5

jenhug wrote: »

what about joining a walking group?

That is even worse than my advice.:D

jenhug

The_Banker wrote: »

That is even worse than my advice.:D

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

mrcow

jenhug wrote: »

what about joining a walking group?

Or suggesting you both wine dine & 69?

Whatever floats your boat.

londoner1998

toile wrote: »

now there's an idea! i may just do that. Also seen an advert for salsa dancing for beginners....no partner needed very tempted just hope the hip holds up!

Yes, yes, yes!!!! That is a lot of fun- if he is not interested, fine- You go along and have fun- instructors tend to be young, fun and good-looking... if at some point you organise a 'end of term/year' performance, he can go along as audience... and see you in action!:D

I know what you mean about free time and getting the spark back- I have been with my wonderful OH six and a half years and we are finding oursleves in that place, mainly due to a bereavement, the subsequent depression and the chronic fatigue brought upon my by all this plus a relentless work schedule ...adding a child in the weekend. BUT, I have detemined this is going to change and we are taking the first steps- I am feeling better and taking more care of myself as well as doing things for myself... he is also making an effort and I am sure we will be rocking the foundations of the house soon enough...:D:D:D

I told him on Saturday that when I am 50 or 60 i am planning to go to salsa, mambo and tango...he can come if he can follow me...

I go to yoga classes and they are no only a lot of fun, they are great for you too!

toile

hi again and thank you for all your replys. I havn't been around much cos had to prepare for an interveiw i had yesterday......will hopefully hear tomorrow. If successful it will hopefully shake us up a bit as it will involve longer hours and longer travelling so out present routine will have to change. Suggested lunch out with OH after interview, no thanks he said, so went with afriend anyway. thanks again for all your inspiration.