Visiting friends who are broke??

foxy-roxy

Iheartfreebies wrote: »

Jay, I have to agree with most of the other posters, how very rude!

If, however, we've all got the wrong end of the stick and she really still wants you to visit then I think it's up to her to arrange the weekend seeing as she's the "hostess" and you're the guests.

Agree with the above.
If they were coming to visit you, wouldnt it be up to you to entertain them? And vice versa!!

kezzae

Jay83 wrote: »

I live in London and my best friend lives up north. Bf and I are going to visit her and her bf this weekend. Reason why we arrange to come up was because they had planned on having a big night out with all their friends and invited us so we thought why not treat ourselves to a trip (our only holiday away from home this year) we have been saving up since May and have enough for this weekend . Anyway my friend decided she wanted us to spend quality time together just the four of us so had the big night out last saturday. Now they are broke and i dont know what to do. We still plan to go up there everything has been arranged (hotel and travel) but feel awful that they are having problems getting money together to spend time with us. What can we do? I mean if they had their own place we could buy drinks and have a meal at home but they dont so it be awkward to impose on their family. Any cheap ideas or suggestions please? thanks so much

Im wondering if the op's 'friend' wants to cancel but hasn't got the balls so is hoping that by saying they are broke that the op will, if you see what I mean???
The 'friend' must have known that the op was looking forward to it and had been saving since may.

cats_whiskers

Hi

If it is to late to cancel the hotel and get a full refund or transfer the booking then go as planned but treat it as the mini holiday you and your OH have been saving for.

Maybe arrange to meet up with your "friend" for a coffee as this will give you a chance to catch up and spend some time together. If you end up having to pay for the coffee then it should not make too much of an impact on your budget. It will also give your friend a chance to explain herself in person, ie. is there a genuine reason for being broke, apart from going out last weekend. If you decide to you want to spend more time with her then maybe opt to go and visit a museum or an art gallery that has free entry or maybe go for a countryside walk and take a picnic lunch so that you do not end up paying for lunch out for you all.

However, tell her that you and you OH have saved for this holiday and you wish to spend some quality time together, just the two of you. Arrange for just the two of you to go out for a meal together or visit somewhere together, look on the other boards for discount vouchers for restaurants and local attractions.

Above all treat it as the holiday you deserve.

Cats

barbie_babe

Jay83 wrote: »

I live in London and my best friend lives up north. Bf and I are going to visit her and her bf this weekend. Reason why we arrange to come up was because they had planned on having a big night out with all their friends and invited us so we thought why not treat ourselves to a trip (our only holiday away from home this year) we have been saving up since May and have enough for this weekend . Anyway my friend decided she wanted us to spend quality time together just the four of us so had the big night out last saturday. Now they are broke and i dont know what to do. We still plan to go up there everything has been arranged (hotel and travel) but feel awful that they are having problems getting money together to spend time with us. What can we do? I mean if they had their own place we could buy drinks and have a meal at home but they dont so it be awkward to impose on their family. Any cheap ideas or suggestions please? thanks so much

You could arrange to just meet them in day time and as another poster said treat them to a buffet lunch. You could tell them before hand that you and your OH want to spend the evening alone. As they didnt save any money for you coming to see them i would just see them the one day.