Rant - please excuse me!

The_New_Caz

I would like to say a big thank you to everyone:T

You have made me feel a whole lot better and made me put things back in perspective. When I remember the things that make me happy in life its nearly always time I spend with people or various (relatively free) experiences.

I have fond memories of visiting family and friends in the past but if you asked me what wall paper was in the background when I was laughing out loud, what wood the table was made out of when giggling to ourselves, or whether the crockery I served the meal on matched I would be hard pressed to tell you because it wouldn't matter to me and just for a moment I forgot!

Thanks all!!!!

Josie64

The_New_Caz wrote:

I would like to say a big thank you to everyone:T

You have made me feel a whole lot better and made me put things back in perspective. When I remember the things that make me happy in life its nearly always time I spend with people or various (relatively free) experiences.

I have fond memories of visiting family and friends in the past but if you asked me what wall paper was in the background when I was laughing out loud, what wood the table was made out of when giggling to ourselves, or whether the crockery I served the meal on matched I would be hard pressed to tell you because it wouldn't matter to me and just for a moment I forgot!

Thanks all!!!!

you don't need friends like that, proper friends come to visit you not your house.

the way i look at it , if you don't have the latest whatever then hopefully you are less likely to be broken into and as for decorating on the cheap , before i got married as a single parent , I once decorated my bedroom for 7.50 , small tin of paint for top half of walls, 1 roll of wallpaper from bargain box for bottom half of walls (missed out behind the bed, wardrobe and drawers!!:rotfl: ) and again from bargain box, 1 roll of stripe wallpaper cut sideways for the border, I've got a photo somewhre, personally I find it challenge to do things as cheap as possible...:D

if you can get to car boots, you can get curtains for £2 ( I make 10 pegbags from a pair of curtains = sell £1 each = £10 = £8 profit!, not much but better than nothing!) or get old pillowcases from charity shops/jumble sales , which makes 1 pegbag, sell for £1, or get 4 pillowcases = 4 chair covers or cut pillowcases in half lenghtways then join together = 1 valance for curtains

QueenB.

It is so hard when you are trying to live in a way different from what has become the norm especially if most of the people surronding you are not and don't understand what you are doing.

You know what makes you happy and you know you are on the right track, hard as it is and yes there will always be moments of doubt and frustration, at the end of it all you will be free and extremely happy.

We moved into a new house last year and it needs loads of work doing to it, the place is a bit of a building site and one thing after the other is going wrong and we just have no money to do anything. It does get me down but like someone else said i am trying to decorate as cheaply as possible but in a creative way. Your home should be a place for you to enjoy and be happy, and now i realise that yes i could have a perfect home if i used credit but then the debt would make that home more of a constant terrible reminder which i would come to hate.

You are doing the right thing so be proud and next time one of your friends says something like that put them in their place LOL.

I hope you are fully enjoying your garden in this fantastic weather.

calleyw

Please keep living your life the way you want to. Not the way someone else thinks it should be lived.

To many people seem to think that it is ok to just bung it on the credit card and be damned.

As long as you house is tidy and clean so what.

We moved in to our house last year and every room needs decorating. Needs a new bathroom and new kitchen. New carpets and even new ceilings as they are cracking :eek: It will get done very slowly.

At least you know that you have debt and are dealing with it. Most people are in denial. They claim they don't have a problem but owe a few thousand on cards.

Well done and keep up the good work and hope you are debt free soon.

Not keen to have people around if all they do is moan about my choice of decor. Don't think I would invite them around again :rotfl:

Yours


Calley

tomstickland

I'm endlessly fascinated by consumerism and attitudes to money.
Really, there are people out there whose who self worth is based on what they own and outward appearance. Their own insecurity then means that they have to expect that all others will behave in the same way. It's like laughing at someone's car because it's old. Fighting it involves knowing yourself and knowing what you want. For example, I've got an old car and I love it, I don't care what other stupider people might think of it.

Molanole

Hear hear. Loads of good advice here. The bottom line being that as long as YOU are happy, then to hell with what other people think - although I know that is easier said than done. Your true friends will love you for who are are, debts and all. In fact, they would be proud of the way you are tackling your situation. :T

And anyway, living a basic, simple, non consumerist life is becoming all the more fashionable these days as people realise that burning out at the age of 40 because you had to work to pay off debts accrued earlier is not what life is meant to be about. So, if your "friends" challenge you again, you can tell them that actually you are ahead of the times and tres chi-chi with your new holistic approach to life.

Keep it up!

beer2006

ts_aly2000 wrote:

ME, I do the complete opposite of everyone else anyway so was being self-rightious when at university digging junk out of rubbish skips inbetween lectures while everyone else was in the student bar. Yayyyyyyy
!!! Bloody awkward and solvent. Grrrrrrr!!!

That made me laugh, thats so much me as well......self rightious :rotfl:
scruffy, a PITA and solvent