The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

honeybear_2

blinkin' flip, how did we make it to 200 pages already?!

budget_babe

Hi Guys,

I really need your help.

As you know I only ever really post on this thread apart from 2 other posts that I have made on another thread. One being tonight.

I came across a post from someone whose partner had fell off the wagon after 7 months of being af.

I posted what I thought was a message of support, informing her of our thread where we have recovering alcoholics etc.

I only meant for her to have some support but apparently a couple of posters have reported my post to the abuse team :eek:

I really really don't know what to do. You all know me on here and know that I would never ever intentionaly upset someone.

I really don't think I can carry on posting now

I feel so upset.

Oh heavens, what can I do?

Please help

maman

:grouphug: Oh fedupski, I can't empathise with what you must be going through after 12 years but, I do sympathise. I think you are doing really well to have AF days under such provocation. You have us virtual friends to 'talk' to, but do you have any family/friends close to home that can help? I do wish I could come round and chat but then I would probably bring a bottle:o

honeybear_2

Budgie, I'm so sorry *hugs*

However, it's ridiculous! I had to play detective & find out what the posts/thread/context etc was. There is nothing wrong with your post, some people have made an assumption & acted on it. What they have reported is NOT WHAT YOU POSTED!

Any forum monitor peep will be able to see that.

I can understand why you're upset but truly they are the ones out of order not you.

maman

budget_babe wrote: »

Hi Guys,

I really need your help.

As you know I only ever really post on this thread apart from 2 other posts that I have made on another thread. One being tonight.

I came across a post from someone whose partner had fell off the wagon after 7 months of being af.

I posted what I thought was a message of support, informing her of our thread where we have recovering alcoholics etc.

I only meant for her to have some support but apparently a couple of posters have reported my post to the abuse team :eek:

I really really don't know what to do. You all know me on here and know that I would never ever intentionaly upset someone.

I really don't think I can carry on posting now

I feel so upset.

Oh heavens, what can I do?

Please help

Oh budgie, poor you. I had a quick look at your post on the other thread and I can't imagine what they could have taken offence at. They obviously don't understand our thread at all nor do they understand support!! I don't know enough about how the boards work to tell you what 'being reported' means but I'm going back there to try to explain to them RIGHT NOW that you only meant to be helpful!

budget_babe

Thanks Honey, :A

I really really did not mean to give offence in anyway. I was only trying to give support.

It just goes to show how careful you have to be.

It has made me think of Dear Fluffy though and all of the problems she has had and she has been missing and not posting too.

But thankyou I do appreciate you replying.

Its just such an awful thing, kinda tops the day.

Hugs Budgie (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

So_Sad_Angel

BB - Honey please keep posting. Explain as you have here...that the post was kindly meant & as a gesture of support & not intentional.

Sometimes it happens...on certain boards emotions can get over-sensitive on difficult subjects. I think I saw that thread last night but did`nt see your comment or at least did`nt notice anything...however I do know that (on there) most threads seem to self-destruct after a few days or so anyway.

Personally I read but won`t post...I know folks need help & reassurance but I`ve read too many that turn out to be bogus posters.

Please don`t make this stop you posting...it happens & you are a kind person that wants to help others & if sometimes that gets taken the wrong way then that can`t be helped. I`ve done it many times.

Angiexx

budget_babe

Sorry Maman and SSA we crossed posted.

Thankyou for your support but I just feel so upset, I really do.

But hugs and thankyou :A
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxx

honeybear_2

Budgie, sweetie, more big hugs. Try not to worry, I also echo what Maman & Angie have said

I'm off to bed shortly; been a long day & busy tomorrow. Just have to report that I went to the cupboard to pour another glass of wine, took the bottle out, looked at it, then put it back in! Round of applause for me for not drinking just for the sake of it :T

Night everyone

bearhugs
xx

maman

Hope you're OK budgie, please don't let it worry you. We know you only meant to be kind.:A

I wasnt aware that fluffy had similar problems, must have hapened when I was on holiday. I do miss her as she and I seemed to have come on here for the same reasons and had similar targets. I so admire the givers-up but can sometimes feel like a lightweight because I'm a cutter-down.

Sleep well all.