what we you do - daughter had stone thrown at her

rachel6188

i hope the school deal with it.
hugs to your dd xxx

Katie-Kat-Kins

dipsy wrote: »

yes she has an older brother, but he is on the upper site....

hopefully school will sort him out, if not it will become a police matter if he touches her again

Perhaps her borther could arrange to walk her home in a obvious fashion a couple of times. Maybe with a few hard mates....... Often that sort of thing works better than parents/teachers having a word.

Just having a couple of older kids keeping an eye out can be great. I remember a friend of mine being picked on by some older girls, until her brothers mate had a quiet word with them...... I also recall a couple of boys in my class sticking up for my sister, just because they new me, she never had a moments bother again. Neither example involved anything more than telling the bullies to leave them alone, no violence, bullies just like easy targets and/or people who look weak. Once your daughter looks like a risky/tricky target or a strong person they will move on to someone else.

Encourage her to be confident and not to be frightened of them and to stand up to them whenever safe to do so and they will be less likely to bother her.

tandraig

i wouldnt approach the boy myself - he could get you into real trouble if you lose your temper - or even if you didnt - as he could allege anything. the school seems willing to handle it - let them. i do sympathise with you - my DS2 was very badly bullied in school and even the presence of his older brother made no difference - they just waited until DS1 wasnt around! the school were ruddy useless (unlike yours seems to be) and i ended up changing DS2s school.

Rummer

The school can't really do much if it was outwith school premises or hours. I would however make them aware of the situation.

carolan78

They can until they get home and are out of school uniform..the ones in our area can anyway.

galvanizersbaby

dipsy wrote: »

well have heard back from head of year, he is going to track the boy down, after having daughter and her friend in to find out what is going on

also going to let the schools police liasison officer know and have requested that she contact me once the school have spoken with her.

I would go and speak to the boys parents, but I don't know his surname and dont know where he lives otherwise I would have been around over the weekend.

am picking daughter up today after school and dropping her home so i will look out for him on the way home see if he is hanging around the same place as on friday and if he is I might well be having a "word" myself....

How did DD get on today OP? - no more incidents with this boy hopefully
I think you are doing the right thing - I would think it would only be worth approaching the parents once you have a bit more background on the boy and see if it is a worthwhile exercise (i.e. are they the sort of parents that would care what their son is up to)

Hope DD is ok

galvanizersbaby

juby_2002 wrote: »

this is horrible, i hope your daughter and her friend are ok.

i would go to the boys house. and tell the mother what he has done.

i had something similar with DD (i dont recommend you do this but it worked for me, didnt mean to do it, i was just so mad)

dd was sat in the `chalk square` in the playground chalking on the floor when a boy came and kicked her in the head for no reason TWICE. i rushed over and dd was sat crying (she wont hit back as we have taught her violence is wrong). i marched over to his mum and told her what he did, she just shrugged her shoulders and said he wont listen to her so there is no point telling him off:eek::mad: and seemed angry i approched her. it was obvious she didnt give a hoot about what had happened so i told her if her son touched my daughter again i would go to her house and do the same 10 times as hard to her.

he didnt touch her again:D

Ironic :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Money_maker

The schools police liason officer will deal with incidents out of school. Would hope they can sort it out for you. Any further incidents can be pushed further with the police.

Hope its all sorted for you by now. Would strongly advise not to approach the boy.

barnaby-bear

dipsy wrote: »

well have heard back from head of year, he is going to track the boy down, after having daughter and her friend in to find out what is going on

also going to let the schools police liasison officer know and have requested that she contact me once the school have spoken with her.

I would go and speak to the boys parents, but I don't know his surname and dont know where he lives otherwise I would have been around over the weekend.

am picking daughter up today after school and dropping her home so i will look out for him on the way home see if he is hanging around the same place as on friday and if he is I might well be having a "word" myself....

If some feral chav threw a stone at me - regardless of whether it made contact - I'd be straight down the police. Do not even contemplate trying to liase with chav-scum (the phrase you can blame the parents is usually appropriate).

barnaby-bear

dipsy wrote: »

my first thought was to go to his house and speak with his parents and then I thought about contacting the police as it was assault

what would you do???

If someone in a homebase uniform chucked a rock at me at 7pm - I'd go to the police, I wouldn't be faffing with homebase...