Daughter away to uni feel strange

worriedsik

Hi

I dropped her off yesterday and iam now home alone it feels weird ( except 3 cats )

she was my only child iam a single parent and iam feeling weird , not too sad but not happy ether
i guess i will be getting my life back lol she has been on the phone already to tell me there is no toaster !!

I have no Q really just feel weird anybody else's little darlings flew the coop to uni recently ?

cazziebo

You will get used to it - but it is very difficult at first.Console yourself at what a great job you've done bringing her up on your own to the extent she now has that independence. :T Use your new freedom to spoil yourself.

My oldest went to Uni two years ago and for the past two years has done CampAmerica so hasn't even been home for any length of time. She's home on Tuesday though :j:j

I really missed her then and still do now. I'm a single parent too and she was such good company. We always had a good relationship but I'd say it's even better now.

Primrose

It's understandable that you should feel her absence especially if you're now alone at home. But perhaps this is now the time for you to start your own "University experience" but in a different way, taking up new interests and hobbies. You don't say how old you are but look around for some organisations you can join. If you're interested in old houses & gardens, for example, the National Trust have lots of local groups which hold monthly meetings or outings, U3A (University of the Third Age) have common interest groups all over the country and if you Google them, you'll be able to track down a local one, your local library may have a Book Club if you like reading and want to meet once a month with others to share your views on books you like, and I'm sure your library will also have a list of lots of local organisations or charities which need volunteers which would help you broaden your social contacts and give you some new interests. Good luck. Don't let your daughter be the only one who's going to have lots of new friends and experiences.

Frith

Is she a long way away? I ask because my mum used to come up to Nottingham to see me on the day when I had least lectures. She would come up on the train and make a day of it. (She's in the West Mids).

Thinking back to the old days when none of us owned a computer or a mobile phone, we used to have to walk to the nearest phone box to phone home! Its good things have improved in that respect.

L

worriedsik

cazziebo wrote: »

You will get used to it - but it is very difficult at first.Console yourself at what a great job you've done bringing her up on your own to the extent she now has that independence. :T Use your new freedom to spoil yourself.

My oldest went to Uni two years ago and for the past two years has done CampAmerica so hasn't even been home for any length of time. She's home on Tuesday though :j:j

I really missed her then and still do now. I'm a single parent too and she was such good company. We always had a good relationship but I'd say it's even better now.

Hi cazzie

Iam proud of her and off myself too , as you will be it was difficult but like you i have a great relationship with her iam kinda glad in a way that she will be standing on her own feet now as finances are depleted lol but iam going to college soon to do a councelling coarse i ''think'' i will be good at it as the life experiances i have had ( as a single mum too ) are many , have you got something planned for when she comes back tuesday ? bet you cant wait hope you both have a great time and well done to you too

x

worriedsik

Primrose wrote: »

It's understandable that you should feel her absence especially if you're now alone at home. But perhaps this is now the time for you to start your own "University experience" but in a different way, taking up new interests and hobbies. You don't say how old you are but look around for some organisations you can join. If you're interested in old houses & gardens, for example, the National Trust have lots of local groups which hold monthly meetings or outings, U3A (University of the Third Age) have common interest groups all over the country and if you Google them, you'll be able to track down a local one, your local library may have a Book Club if you like reading and want to meet once a month with others to share your views on books you like, and I'm sure your library will also have a list of lots of local organisations or charities which need volunteers which would help you broaden your social contacts and give you some new interests. Good luck. Don't let your daughter be the only one who's going to have lots of new friends and experiences.

Hi primrose

Thanks......yes iam going to college she went with me last week to enquire on corses and i want to do counseling which does not start untill january but there is a computer course i may do in the meantime

thanks

worriedsik

ACEY wrote: »

Is she a long way away? I ask because my mum used to come up to Nottingham to see me on the day when I had least lectures. She would come up on the train and make a day of it. (She's in the West Mids).

Thinking back to the old days when none of us owned a computer or a mobile phone, we used to have to walk to the nearest phone box to phone home! Its good things have improved in that respect.

L

Hi ACEY

she is in Glasgow uni so its not that far away iam looking forward to spending time with her there & yes your correct we have mobiles now lol i kept mine on all night but nothing lol she was away meeting ppl in her halls

x

worriedsik

iam 47 primrose

worriedsik

Primrose wrote: »

It's understandable that you should feel her absence especially if you're now alone at home. But perhaps this is now the time for you to start your own "University experience" but in a different way, taking up new interests and hobbies. You don't say how old you are but look around for some organisations you can join. If you're interested in old houses & gardens, for example, the National Trust have lots of local groups which hold monthly meetings or outings, U3A (University of the Third Age) have common interest groups all over the country and if you Google them, you'll be able to track down a local one, your local library may have a Book Club if you like reading and want to meet once a month with others to share your views on books you like, and I'm sure your library will also have a list of lots of local organisations or charities which need volunteers which would help you broaden your social contacts and give you some new interests. Good luck. Don't let your daughter be the only one who's going to have lots of new friends and experiences.

Awww i searched the u3a primrose and nothing in scotland . pity because that was a great idea

Primrose

worriedsik - for locations of U3A groups in Scotland, check out
http://www.u3ascotland.org.uk/lindex2.htm
There seem to be quite a few of them listed.

worriedsik

wow thanks , i could not find the scottish ones

thanks