Son just started reception and behaviour at home atrocious! Anyone else??!!

chivers1977

My son started school on 7th September and is being an angel at school and granny's house where he goes in the afternoon as still half days.

Unfortunatley he has turned into the devil child at home, hitting, shouting and throwing things :eek:. He went to FT day nursery so is used to be away from us but I realise that it is still a massive change for him.

How long should I be expecting to have to put up with this......... not that I am putting up with it........ more confiscation and privelidge removal:rotfl:

kerry13238

he is prob realy tired my daughter has just started senior school and is absolutly worn out she was the same when she started year r. its a massive change for them he is prob feeling a bit unsettled

Sarahlou_2

chivers1977 wrote: »

My son started school on 7th September and is being an angel at school and granny's house where he goes in the afternoon as still half days.

Unfortunatley he has turned into the devil child at home, hitting, shouting and throwing things :eek:. He went to FT day nursery so is used to be away from us but I realise that it is still a massive change for him.

How long should I be expecting to have to put up with this......... not that I am putting up with it........ more confiscation and privelidge removal:rotfl:

Hi, our little boy (now 4) did exactly the same last year when he started school and a new childminder in the same week :rolleyes:, he also was in FT day nursery prior to this. His behaviour was fine at the beginning but became out of control after a week or so.

Just stick by your guns regarding discipline, he needs consistency and it sounds like you're doing just fine! My DS gradually got better and after a week or two he was back to his normal self.

Fast forward 12 months and he has just started reception. He's been very "clever" this week, answering back etc but he is shattered and I think that has a lot to do with it.

Your DS will soon settle down I'm sure.

Good luck!

Gingham_Ribbon

Don't panic! It will pass. He has to behave at school in quite a formal way and as one of my son's friends put it, 'I just can't keep it ALL in ALL day!' Some of the kids started hitting their parents or hitting siblings or crying in the evenings or having tantrums or simply falling asleep for the night at 4.30!

It's a massive change for them, even if they've been to nursery full time. Obviously you can't let him hit, but if you can help him find ways of expressing himself in a more socially acceptable way that will help!

Be patient - as far as I know, all of them settled down just fine!

Bootski

chivers1977 wrote: »

My son started school on 7th September and is being an angel at school and granny's house where he goes in the afternoon as still half days.

Unfortunatley he has turned into the devil child at home, hitting, shouting and throwing things :eek:. He went to FT day nursery so is used to be away from us but I realise that it is still a massive change for him.

How long should I be expecting to have to put up with this......... not that I am putting up with it........ more confiscation and privelidge removal:rotfl:

You need to nip this behaviour in the bud, straight away. Don't put up with it a minute longer. Don't conficsate nor remove privaliges as that won't work - maybe you should have given him so much to start with - he's already got you over a barrell. Tell him how it is & it won't be tolerated by you nor anyone else that should cross his path through life.

balijay

Bootski wrote: »

You need to nip this behaviour in the bud, straight away. Don't put up with it a minute longer. Don't conficsate nor remove privaliges as that won't work - maybe you should have given him so much to start with - he's already got you over a barrell. Tell him how it is & it won't be tolerated by you nor anyone else that should cross his path through life.

Bootski unless you know the family personally I don't see how you can know how much the child has been "given" What a ridiculous comment.

OP We had the same with our daughter when she started school a couple of years ago. It will pass when your son gets used to the new routine so don't make too much of an issue of it - just be sensitive to your child needs (which it sounds like you are doing).

sporedude

Bootski wrote: »

You need to nip this behaviour in the bud, straight away. Don't put up with it a minute longer. Don't conficsate nor remove privaliges as that won't work - maybe you should have given him so much to start with - he's already got you over a barrell. Tell him how it is & it won't be tolerated by you nor anyone else that should cross his path through life.

Hmmmmmmmmm total moron. Congratulations.

chivers1977

THanks for all of those who commented with positive encouragement! No comment to the other poster....

I am so pleased to hear that it is not just my son! My son is always a very self-confident individual and therefore we have had to ensure that the discipline structure is consistent otherwise he will take advantage!.

The behaviour this wk has just been out of character! I will wait and see then and hopefully things will calm down.....

jcsc01

Had the same thing with my son, spoke to the teacher about it and this is what she said.
Imagine a spring, full of movement, as the day goes on it gets tighter and tighter, the bell rings mummys outside and whoooooooooosh the spring is freeeeeee. it will settle down after a couple of weeks.
its all new to him, sounds like hes trying hard to be good at school.

mrcow

Chivers, I've never had this before but school is a big change for a small person.

Do you think he's overtired? I'm just saying this as my daughter is just 4 and has started recpetion half days last week. She's gone back to having an afternoon nap some afternoons as she's been quite cranky in the evenings. Not hitting or being cheeky as such......but very loud and quite sensitive which can be quite grating when everyone else is behaving.

It may be worth asking the grandparent if they can get her to have a lie down after lunch perhaps?

Just a suggestion......

chivers1977

Mr Cow, when he isn't being naughty he is exactly as you describe....loud,trying to hang on us, making mess. He is tired as just turned 4 in June. At nursery they had to rest even when they didn't sleep but he won't as "big boys don't sleep". Also it is more difficult as he will be full time in 3 wks and then after the end of term 1 he will be at afterschool club as well. Therefore I need him to get used to missing the rest.

We are just trying to do quiet games etc in the evenings to encourage calmness........