Help my DD ran up a £240 mobile phone bill

Lunar_Eclipse

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

What on earth is wrong in punishing her for deceit and lying? What's wrong with being seen as a parent with strong ideas on discipline?

Some would say nothing wrong with the punishment, others wouldn't see it as purposeful or constructive in guiding their children to make good choices which is usually their goal. I mean if it was the husband that lied about the situation instead of the daughter, I'm not sure people would be supporting punishment in the same way, yet it would be no different.

There is also nothing wrong with a parent with strong ideas on discipline, as long as it isn't merely misguided power displayed through control and bullying tactics, as is sadly very often the case.

One has to ask what the objective of the punishment is and whether it is likely to produce the desired effect, before jumping in.

Most people are capable of making good decisions and mistakes, something I have noticed is fairly unrelated to age.

red_devil

niceday999 wrote: »

I give a lot of money to charity and i do volunteer work also when i have time. AS someone said the kids want all these gadgets and things now not when they are 40

you go out to work before you are 40 dont you!

red_devil

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

No, but I wouldn't expect them to be since thankfully, we are not (generally) living in poverty and starving.


nor were we when i received them! I have never been starving!

It was small things in a stocking expectations were less.

Mme.Hibou

red devil you need to leave the final [/QUOTE] at the end of what you're quoting for it to work.

That's all, I'm sure the OP has decided what to do.