Don't know what I want

eeyoremadness

Superstar please listen to me. Your playing a very dangerous game one that I fully understand. Infact I could have written your post myself only ive been married 12 years and have 2 kids. On the surface we are an ideal couple but the sparks gone and hes treat me like an idiot for the last 3 years. So a month ago what did I do? go and sleep with a friend and did for several time. Hubby found out and has forgiven me. Great you think only I cannot get this bloke out my head. Why you ask. Simple its naughty sex when we can find time. Thats all it is just sex hes married and wont leave his wife no more than I want to leave my hubby. Yet 2 weeks ago Id gladly have left him. This guy is well and truley in my head and I know im being used. Weird hey. While you can walk away before you end up like me. Im lucky like I said ive been forgiven yet ive still been with the guy since. Dont judge me please im just trying to tell you to get other men out your head while you can. Sounds like you have a good bloke. Try and put some spark back in your relationship.

Ivrytwr3

Talk to your partner about your concerns and keep your legs together with other guys.

GPedro

Ivrytwr3 wrote: »

Talk to your partner about your concerns and keep your legs together with other guys.

Sounds easy when you say it like that, doesn't it? :rolleyes:

eeyoremadness

If only it was the easy! wouldnt be sat here given the advice ive given above
Life is what you make it.

sarahs999

I think you know deep down that it's over with this non-affectionate guy. It's just hard to let go after four years. But look at the facts. He's not giving you what you want, and you've told him what you need. The jerk isn't interested in you enough to do that simple thing. So in the words of my favourite sex columnist, DTMFA (can't spell that out on here sadly).

The guy you kissed sounds like maybe he's a bit of an !!! too. But you know what? That doesn't matter. There are lots of great men out there who don't need endless chances and forgiveness and understanding. They're just nice, regular, reliable and HOT human beings. Go and find one that rings your bell.

fi_trix29

Regardless of where things are going and if you decide you want to make a go of it with your OH or not, you NEED to tell him what's going on, especially if you are saving up for a house. My ex and I bought a house together in April, and last week he left me, and it turns out he had been cheating on me. Everything is a huge mess, and one of the things that hurts the most is that he didnt tell me how he felt. I really think if I had known he wasnt happy we could have made a go at sorting things out, but instead he didn't, we bought this house, and lo and behold he's off with his floozy leaving me to pick up the pieces.

It's all about respect and common decency - if you don't love him, he deserves to know. You are getting to choose if you want to be with him or not, he has the right to make that same choice.