Seriously in debt and really need help!!

wattapain

Hi - sounds like you need advice re the domestic problems.
Why not contact www.victimsupport.org.uk - they are a good source of help and will advise you as to what to do/contact..
Also www.relate.com might be a good one to try.
Do something about this NOW, as controlling behaviour is a serious form af domestic abuse, and can lead to actual violence to women and/or the kids too.
Good luck,
Terri x

wattapain

Another one

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/CrimeJusticeAndTheLaw/VictimsOfCrime/index.htm

geranium72

Please contact Refuge

http://www.refuge.org.uk/

this kind of behaviour from your husband is totally unacceptable - domestic abuse is not just causing physical harm. There is always help available

good luck

dorisday

Please take heed of the person about and contact refuge, it will only get worse and why waste YOUR life.

needtopaymydebts

I just wanted to reply as others already have done to urge you to seek help for your difficult relationship. I work on a daily basis with the perpetrators of domestic violence and I hope that you can find the strength to do what is best to protect yourself. Domestic violence isn't just physical violence but includes controlling your emotions, relationships with friends and financial abuse as well.

I really do hope that you can find the courage to get this sorted out first, the people who help you with your relationship should also be able to give you some advice or point you in the right direction to deal with your money worries too.

big hugs to you

Katy83

I'm a new user and not allowed to post links yet but there is a sticky thread at the top of the money saving in marriages etc. forum about a refuge guide about being able to afford to leave abusive relationships. This might be of some help. Please, please seek help for this, this is your life you are talking about - why waste it. In the grand scheme of things being in debt is nothing compared to living your whole life in fear. Good luck and big hugs to you.

RAS

Katy83 wrote: »

I'm a new user and not allowed to post links yet but there is a sticky thread at the top of the money saving in marriages etc. forum about a refuge guide about being able to afford to leave abusive relationships.

This is the thread http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/...html?t=1276963


It explains that economic abuse is a fairly common type of domestic abuse and every bit as bad as physical violence.

lise61

Thank you all for your kind words and support. I have spent the day out of the house at my sister in laws just talking over how i have been feeling. I know I need to act on all the advise I have been given by yourselves. I just need to find the strength to act on it, I am finding it really difficult to think of me for once as I have always put everyone else ahead of me. I will let everyone know how things go as I want to start getting my life back on track again as soon as possible.. xx

geoffky

you only ever get one shot at life...never waste that life.....good luck

wattapain

Hey Lise - just think - if not for yourself, then do it for your kids - they see what is going on and it has an effect on them too.
Boys grow up thinking it's ok to abuse women, & girls that it's ok to be abused!!!
CAB is also a very good place to seek help/advice.
So just do it - they are very good re confidentiality.
Thinking of you,
Terri x