Blackmail over a will... please help

DVardysShadow

Mojisola wrote: »

I think the uncle needs to be asked if he understands the role of an executor and the legal obligations it puts on him. He has no choice but to comply with the arrangements laid down in the will. The estate consists of what was left when the person died. He has no power to change the arrangements or take account of what the deceased did with his money or possessions before he died.

Actually, if there is evidence of the estate being plundered, where the deceased gave stuff away due to being deceived or being not of sound mind, the executors do have a duty to recover assets

DVardysShadow

dizzybuff wrote: »

As if it isnt bad enough coping with the loss of a loved one ...

Sounds the same as when my grandad died , they all came out of the woodwork thinking he had something .

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My grandad just to inform you put 2 grand behind the bar .. bless him.. i miss him

Well, no wonder they thought he had something. It was probably more effective than Rentokil at getting woodworm out of the bar

dizzybuff

well . lol never thought of it like that , that tbh was probably all he had. His estate went to his wife . A house and garden and a mongy cat . Nothing else .

dont care really to be honest .. I just loved him and miss him so ...

valkirn

DVardysShadow wrote: »

Actually, if there is evidence of the estate being plundered, where the deceased gave stuff away due to being deceived or being not of sound mind, the executors do have a duty to recover assets

we are more than sure that the deceased was of sound mind and judgment when the items were given away, but i appreceate what you are saying x

valkirn

dizzybuff wrote: »

As if it isnt bad enough coping with the loss of a loved one ...

Sounds the same as when my grandad died , they all came out of the woodwork thinking he had something . I was just happy for the love he gave me and sad he never met my son - I was oregnant when he died and didnt know.

Sorry but my opinion is what an ungratful little sod your cousin is , he should count himself lucky it wasnt all left to tiddles the third . If I was his dad Id have slapped him into shape. Ungratfull little twerp , how dare he put you through even more pain..

As regards the black mail , if its letters keep them , they could give you a bit of ammo againsty him.. he will end up digging his own grave so to speak..

Hope it all works out enjoy the final farewell and have a good old drinky to celebrate the life of the deceased afterwards,

My grandad just to inform you put 2 grand behind the bar .. bless him.. i miss him

Im sorry your grandad never got to meet your son, he sounds like he was a wonderful man x

i was lucky as this familiy member got to meet my children even if it was for such a short ammount of time x but my brother is like you his wife was pregnant and he is upset that the deceased will never meet his daughter x

dizzybuff

valkirn wrote: »

Im sorry your grandad never got to meet your son, he sounds like he was a wonderful man x

i was lucky as this familiy member got to meet my children even if it was for such a short ammount of time x but my brother is like you his wife was pregnant and he is upset that the deceased will never meet his daughter x

All I can say is make sure u remindf your kiddies of the deceased ... My DS already knows hes Gate ganda hes 22 months by the way

Ill explain everything later in life

Hope it all works out hun , and the ungratefull sod takes what he was left or has nowt..

Money is of no importance when it comes to the loss of a loved one . Although yes it helps but u get what you are given and no more .

Big Hugs K

amersall

hi there, just want to ask a question please. my mum died last year, no will but a solicitor is dealing with the estate, there are 5 of us and when the house is sold we all get a fifth. my problem is this ,my brother has got rid of the entire contents of the house without asking any of us did we want anything, i have put a letter in with the solicitor asking for an inventory of the whole contents and my personal property back. does anyone know what happens under these circumstances? i would have thought that the solicitor should have asked for an inventory of the contents before now, or is that not right? thanking you in anticipation

valkirn

Im just finding it hard when my 3 year old runs round the house asking where he has gone, and ive been putting pictures up of him and the kids which is prompting more questions. my eldest has withdrawn into heself a little as this is her first real experiance of it all and she wanted to be at the funeral and it hurt so much to see her hurting.
I just cant believe my cousin is being so cruel so soon after x

valkirn

amersall wrote: »

hi there, just want to ask a question please. my mum died last year, no will but a solicitor is dealing with the estate, there are 5 of us and when the house is sold we all get a fifth. my problem is this ,my brother has got rid of the entire contents of the house without asking any of us did we want anything, i have put a letter in with the solicitor asking for an inventory of the whole contents and my personal property back. does anyone know what happens under these circumstances? i would have thought that the solicitor should have asked for an inventory of the contents before now, or is that not right? thanking you in anticipation

I dont fully understand it myself but i hope someone can answer you x

dizzybuff

Greif is horrible but it makes us strong. She will deal with it in her own way .. Offer to talk about it , prehaps make a scap book up of pictures. make a rememberance tree or poart of your garden ( with a gazebo if weather horrid ) Where she can go to talk to the deceased.

Its hard for anyone , unfortunatly its all part of growing up . there are a few websites she may want to look at ..

http://www.childhoodbereavementnetwork.org.uk/

a scrap book or diary ios a good thing. Even though you are also greiving , i think you may have to get her through it before u greive properly ..

At the end of the day a good cry and laugh about the deceased will make it easier.. be there for her ... Give her a scrapbook , copy loads of pictures of you and the deceased togather and sick away .. may help just a suggestion, she may find it hard theres no where to rememeber them ..

Big Hugs K