declared br today but partner taking it very badly

headoutofsand

dalip wrote: »

In that case han i would say he is feeling deeply ashamed,a let down,a failure,ect ect. Give him time girl and try to shut your ears. He must be hurting bad. I know you are too but you know what these men are like.""" me tarzen you jane";).
Maybe after a good nights sleep or a few he will see things differently.Dx

Now now Dalip. In my house it's me who's Jane and the OH Tarzan. Good job she never looks on here:eek:

philnicandamy

Time....thats the only thing that helped me
he'll be feeling stupid..ashemed..you name it (I was) BUT time will help....

and yep HOOS if Mrs HOOS ever saw how you behave here boy I wouldnt want to be you!!!!

headoutofsand

philnicandamy wrote: »

Time....thats the only thing that helped me
he'll be feeling stupid..ashemed..you name it (I was) BUT time will help....

and yep HOOS if Mrs HOOS ever saw how you behave here boy I wouldnt want to be you!!!!

Whatever do you mean Phil? I'm a good boy

fiveyearplan

I have been with my OH over 20 years and never really knew he could react the way he did about our situation and my BR. All the negative feelings and him blaming me etc etc etc. We just about got over that but I really thought that was it for my marriage. Then i went through an anger phase - "how dare he treat me like that' " I was only trying something to secure our future and it didn't work" What was he doing or contributing.
I think blame and guilt are both a waste of time - learn from mistakes and move on. It doesn't do anyone any good and can only serve to make the recovery process longer.

dalip

headoutofsand wrote: »

Now now Dalip. In my house it's me who's Jane and the OH Tarzan. Good job she never looks on here:eek:

Oh you mean you wear a skirt:D...whatever turns you on HOOS.lol

fiveyearplan

philnicandamy wrote: »

and yep HOOS if Mrs HOOS ever saw how you behave here boy I wouldnt want to be you!!!!

I think we could safely assume your life wouldn't be worth living either if Mrs PN&A ever came on here either! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

headoutofsand

dalip wrote: »

Oh you mean you wear a skirt:D...whatever turns you on light.lol

" Oh you are awful";)

philnicandamy

fiveyearplan wrote: »

I think we could safely assume your life wouldn't be worth living either if Mrs PN&A ever came on here either! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

that dearest FYP is indeed very very true......I always consider here my little escape room! :rotfl:

besides....thinking of changin my user name to philnicamyandflump!

hanstar

well 2 days after bankruptcy and my partner still wont talk to me, but has informed me today that he is going to get his bankruptcy revoked, and has looked into a way that he can do this. if he does it means are joint debts will go into his name meaning that i will have gone bankrupt for about £3000! we spent months discussing bankruptcy so not like we just jumped into it, plus we had numerous meetings with the cab to discuss options. he now believes he can somehow raise enough to make final fee offers and clear his debts this way instead. but if he does do this then i will be left in bankruptcy. what do i do?? or say? i am feeling so fed up, but trying to keep smiling for 18 month old son.

Bethankim

Oh sweetie,
not easy at all, it must feel like a very dark place.

It is not easy to get a bankruptcy null and void and if it wasnt possible before hand id be surprised if its possible now.

Is there anyone (friends or family) who could support you and talk to him?
I know its easy to say hang in there, like you say you have your little one and you to think of.

How does he normally react to difficult situations, or when he has something big to deal with..this may help you figure out how to handle it.
you need some support m'lovely - i know we can help here is there anyone else who knows you both who can listen and support you, cause you will have an emotional response too..one he seems to have forgotten about

hugs

B
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