money for wedding present

warmhands.coldheart

miserly_mum wrote: »

I'm getting married in Feb ..............we have been living together for several years.

:eek: :eek: LIVING IN SIN !! :eek: :eek:

:rotfl::rotfl:

warmhands.coldheart

In all seriousness though.... I think you should only give what you can afford... (provided it would cover the cost of your meal :rotfl: )

When you're getting married the present is a bonus in my eyes (well that's what I thought when I got married) It's all about the day itself.... Never smiled or laughed as much in my life...... the presents and money are just an added bonus.... and besides..... if the bride and groom are going to spend a fortune on some flash wedding I think it's wrong to somehow expect the guests to essentially pay for it for them.... (Which is what in essence the money will be used for!!)

If you can Afford £100 give it If you can't dont !! simple as that..

forrest38

£50 is the going rate. you will find thats what a lot of people will give

CL

We got married four years ago and I was very surprised by the generousity of our guests. We were in our mid twenties and virtually every couple who were friends of ours gave £100. Aunts and uncles gave anywhere from £120 to £250 per couple.

Since that we have always given £100 for the both of us to any of our friends weddings.

I agree that no one should feel under pressure to give more than they can afford. Just letting you know what our experience was.

miserly_mum

warmhands.coldheart wrote: »

:eek: :eek: LIVING IN SIN !! :eek: :eek:

:rotfl::rotfl:

What can I say......i'm a Tart :T


I got married the first time round 22 years ago and i'm still waiting on (promised) wedding presents from several ex in-laws. :rolleyes:

Apparently we had the cheek not to get married on the week they all got their Brew (thats the Dole to anyone outside Norn Iron).:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

zippychick

miserly_mum wrote: »

What can I say......i'm a Tart :T

:rotfl:message too short

marcowil

All this going rate stuff is a load of nonsense. If I thought I was being invited to a wedding simply because they wanted a present I would politely refuse the invitation.

You should be invited because the couple want to spend their day with you. If they CHOOSE to provide you with a meal, drinks or whatever that is their choice and should in no way be related to a gift.

I have been invited to 2 weddings recently and in with the invite to both was a little note which stated that the couple wanted to share their special day with friends/relations and that no gifts whatsoever should be purchased. Of course a lot of people ignored that and got them gifts anyway but at least there was no pressure for guests to worry if their gift was "enough".

NAR

zippychick wrote: »

None of this keeping up with the Joneses!

Sadly this is what tends to happen, with levels of gift being driven ever higher, which ends up putting pressure on people to match gift levels maybe above their means.

seatzie

I agree with marcowil all this going rate is a load of crap, you give what you can afford or would like to give, if they're going on honeymoon buy them foreign exchange - will be a lot more useful than something for the house if they've been living together for 2 years (we lived together for 7 and still an aunt turned up with a toaster lol!)

we invited people to our wedding to share our day not so we could make cash out of it and by inviting them for dinner it was because we wanted their company nothing else........

zippychick

NAR wrote: »

Sadly this is what tends to happen, with levels of gift being driven ever higher, which ends up putting pressure on people to match gift levels maybe above their means.

I genuinely wouldn't put myself out thinking about it, as I can only afford what i can afford. People need to understand for the guest there is often a fortune involed as well. Outfits, transport, money for bar.... it all builds up. Yes it costs the bride and groom of course, but they chose to have the basic/lavish wedding and cater for so many people etc.