money for wedding present

miserly_mum

almillar wrote: »

£20 won't cover the cost of your meal at most weddings...

True, but I didn't choose my guests on wether I thought they'd give us enough to cover the cost of their meal or not.

I'd rather someone give me a tenner and not leave themselves short than scrape together £100 they can't afford.

Hilltop666

HOPE wrote: »

I had two nieces married last year and I gave them £100 each. I think this is reasonable.

I got married 6 months ago and got £100 from practically everyone who gave money its the going rate and what i always give, - although a few who simply couldnt afford that gave us around £50-£60 and we were happy with it, as we understand its alot of money too!

Jaime-V

We got varied amounts from £10 - £250 from relatives. We were really shocked at the higher amounts. I would not have expected a certain amount if anything. People give what they can afford. At the end of the day you don't invite people to get a present or money, you invite them to be part of your day.

If you can afford £10 or £100 does it matter? Friends or rellies should understand if you cant afford to give a lot, and they shouldn't expect it either. Just give what you can afford and enjoy the day.

slippyg

Myfamily prob wouldnt give too much as theyre all tight as farts. But, I have been known to give £100's worth of Dollars when the exchange rate was good. £100 for another wedding where I was only invited to the after-do.
£50 if youre going alone and £100 from a couple is standard.

miserly_mum

slippyg wrote: »

Myfamily prob wouldnt give too much as theyre all tight as farts. But, I have been known to give £100's worth of Dollars when the exchange rate was good. £100 for another wedding where I was only invited to the after-do.
£50 if youre going alone and £100 from a couple is standard.

Who sets the standard though?

I wasn't aware there was a standard amount for a wedding gift. I don't expect any set amount from any of our guests.

At the end of the day my the time you've said your vows and everyones had their meal it's all already been paid for anyway. So any money you get as a gift is a bonus.

I really hate the idea of a guest being expected to cough up (all be it indirectly) for the cost of their meal.

x12yhp

It is an impossible question to answer - how long is a piece of string? If your family is from a council estate and survives on benefits then you are going to give something different to if your family makes a tidy living off the back owning a multinational company!

Only you can answer that question but, in my case, I would probably assume to give a £50 gift to a friend at a wedding - a close relative would get significantly more.

slippyg

miserly_mum wrote: »

Who sets the standard though?

I wasn't aware there was a standard amount for a wedding gift. I don't expect any set amount from any of our guests.

At the end of the day my the time you've said your vows and everyones had their meal it's all already been paid for anyway. So any money you get as a gift is a bonus.

I really hate the idea of a guest being expected to cough up (all be it indirectly) for the cost of their meal.

The standard is set by the average amount given/witnessed to be given in my experience.

I agree, it's expensive and unnecessary.

thriftyminx13

If it's a good friend I give £60-80. I know my dad gave his nieces £200-250 from the family to cover 4 of us. It's hard to know.

almillar

Sorry, I sound like a tightwad don't I?! I meant that I wouldn't want to turn up to a wedding and have a free feed and leave the couple out of pocket! Weddings cost loads to host and you should judge what you spend on what you can afford and how much you think you should buy them.

zippychick

I think in the hundreds is excessive!:eek: Your niece should be greatful for what ever you are kind enough to give and can reasonably afford. None of this keeping up with the Joneses!