DIL is homeless with baby

00ec25

foxy-roxy wrote: »

Good Luck, how awful of her ex to see her in this situation with a child.
Makes me so angry the selfishness of some people.

don't pass judgement on the ex - its not his child,
yes he apparently "used" her to get the property, but he is also apparently trying for custody of his own child, so clearly there's another story there as well. (children need fathers too!)

foxy-roxy

00ec25 wrote: »

don't pass judgement on the ex - its not his child,
yes he apparently "used" her to get the property, but he is also apparently trying for custody of his own child, so clearly there's another story there as well. (children need fathers too!)

So because it's not his child then that makes it ok to see them out on the streets???
Well am sorry but if my friend had nowhere to live with her kids then i wouldn't hesitate in taking her in, and i dont even have kids but i do have a HEART!!!

Blackpool_Saver

call a solicitor and womens aid.

mistrihelen

I have no advice but just wanted to say that you shouldn't feel guilty for not being able to offer long-term accommodation when what you are doing is in itself a really generous act. She is lucky to have you helping out

krazykidskate

She should get the police involved to get her back in her home, (unless the guy is violent) he can't just 'not let her in' to her own home especially when she has a baby.

WASHER

krazykidskate wrote: »

She should get the police involved to get her back in her home, (unless the guy is violent) he can't just 'not let her in' to her own home especially when she has a baby.

Police will not do much unless she has been threatened, my sister went through the same thing last year, it took her 6 months to get the house signed over and "him" moved out, the council wouldn't do anything, but a little money from my parents made him see sense and move out, I'm not saying thats the right thing to do, but in my sisters case she was sleeping on the floor at my parents house (2 bedroomed house) and as she had two children they slept in the two single beds, the situation was getting desperate and no-one but no-one would/could help, Shelter couldn't really help either, the housing association couldn't help, they had no flats available for some time.

See a solicitor, as my sister did, it won't be quick, it may take months, but at the end of the day he is entitled to stay in the property if his name is on the tenancy, the solicitor could over time have her name taken off it and she could then apply for a council house. Its going to take some time, something my sister couldn't cope with (depression etc) hence my parents paying him off (we are not talking much money either, I think it was a couple of hundred pounds).

Its a messy situation, I feel for your "DIL", I know how my sister was during that time, your DIL needs support, I do appreciate you do not want to commit yourself to taking in your "DIL and granddaughter", its a huge thing to commit to, but your DIL and granddaughter don't appear to have many opinions open to them, I wish you luck and my thoughts are with your DIL and Granddaughter.

shellsmithcat

Just thought I would update everyone - DIL had solicitors yesterday and he has said she has a very good case - as they got the property on the basis of the child - which is not his - but first they have to go to mediation - something that is necessary before it goes to court - which will continue if he refuses to surrender the property on mediation - also the housing association are on her side (which I find hypocritical as she has to go through this legal nightmare because its not in their capabilities to move him out - i do not understand this as they are the landlord). Will keep peeps updated. Thank you for your support.

bandofbrothers

Fingers crossed.

Good luck.