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Flower08

N.I.M wrote: »

Flower theres this little thing you might have heard of called timing. When it comes to this issue you will REALLY need to time it right.

Trust me when it comes to this issue, there will be no right time. He left me a note this morning saying he wouldnt be home til late and we'll talk about it tomorrow. So we'll see how that goes.

Dinah93

At least he is willing to talk, rather than it being a no-go conversation.

N.I.M

Just make sure he knows you realise that this puts him in a tough possition and that your not doing this lightly, make him aware she has forced this situation into being.

Tete_en_l'Air

Cinny91 wrote: »

If I were you I'd start taking what Nims Mum says as a joke, like if she comments on what you're wearing just agree. Completely throws people like that!

OR - are you brave enough? - if she makes a comment about you teeth or whatever, make one back about her wrinkles or something? She's bound to have more than you... I'd never have the nerve though I have to say!

Dinah93 wrote: »

Wait until he's in a better mood, this evening or the weekend, and explain you need to talk about it because of how she is affecting you, and it cant be ignored anymore.

Agreed, this needs addressing.

On the subject of the English oppression of the Irish - this gets my back up a fair bit. Surely having a grudge against modern Brits is just pointless - it was not us!! We're not responsible for events 100s of years ago!

Mmm, spa day! Tomorrow's our work's day at the races, I shall be checking in early to make full use of the sauna

N.I.M

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

OR - are you brave enough? - if she makes a comment about you teeth or whatever, make one back about her wrinkles or something? She's bound to have more than you... I'd never have the nerve though I have to say!

I would LOVE to see the end result of that.



Agreed, this needs addressing.

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

On the subject of the English oppression of the Irish - this gets my back up a fair bit. Surely having a grudge against modern Brits is just pointless - it was not us!! We're not responsible for events 100s of years ago!

Firstly its not specific people that a grudge is held against as such, its the english establishment that the grudge is held against (Who have still yet to apologise for the actions of their forebears by the by, and the queen is not permitted to come to Ireland in her official capacity until an official apology is recieved by the irish state) by the majority of irish people. Also most of us have moved on. We may not forgive or forget but we can move on regardless.

And much Much MUCH more importantly, I only ever bring this up in a joking manner. If anything was anyway different I might never have found Dinah so I wouldnt change a damn thing.


Still want my apology though :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Dinah93

You might claim its a joking manner, but the amount you bring it up would suggest you are quite serious about it, and since you say you're one of the people who has moved past this, it makes me truely terrified to have so many Irish and English in the same place at once.

Flower08

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

OR - are you brave enough? - if she makes a comment about you teeth or whatever, make one back about her wrinkles or something? She's bound to have more than you... I'd never have the nerve though I have to say!

:rotfl::rotfl:You would have to be very brave to do that!!

Tete_en_l'Air

Dinah93 wrote: »

You might claim its a joking manner, but the amount you bring it up would suggest you are quite serious about it

I know, my friends are exactly the same - ALWAYS banging on about it they are!

Dinah93 wrote: »

and since you say you're one of the people who has moved past this, it makes me truely terrified to have so many Irish and English in the same place at once.

Nah it'll be fine! I've yet to meet a non-lovely Irish person

Cinny91

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

Surely having a grudge against modern Brits is just pointless - it was not us!!

I think they're just jealous of our effortless superiority.

On another none Irish hating Brit kind of note - I've got my new phone for when my contract runs out! Managed to get a Samsung E1120 (pretty basic phone mind) for £29.50 - with free £20 credit and a free £20 HMV voucher :T On the Dolphin SIM so I'll get 300 extra texts on a £10 top-up. Free del too. How MSE is that?!

Tete_en_l'Air

Yay, well done Cinny, but wot no cashback?!