Crossing road when children around?

janninew

Glen0000 wrote: »

Me too. I think it is very rude. I don't have small children now myself, but would never do this, just as I would not swear if kiddies around etc.

The number of people agreeing with the OP shows what a rude bunch we have become in the UK.

Why is it rude to cross the road as an adult when you feel it is safe?

Also the way i read the original post was that the Parents of the children used bad language at her for crossing the road - now that is rude and not a good example to set for their children!

becky_rtw

jinky67 wrote: »

Yes it is, but how can we teach our children how to cross safely ( for them ) when people like you pay little regard?

Jinky see the ops orginal post:
I never cross roads dangerously

janninew

Glen0000 wrote: »

This makes my point. Everyone just thinks of themsleves and no collective though for others or how their actions impact on society as a whole. If an old lady falls over that is not your problem either, but would it be right to leave her?

Thats a totally different situation, of course i would stop to help! I have no problem if parents see me crossing, then explaining to their children that they don't feel that is safe, i would have a problem getting abuse about it though!

DKLS

Seeing as we don't get fined for jaywalking in this country, there is no incentive for me to wait, I cross when I feel its safe, and certainly wont wait for the green man if there are a few kids around, my time is too precious.

And yes I am a selfish sod, I usually whistle "I'm alright jack" as I cross the road to annoy the do gooders and breeders. If somone pulled me up about it, I would return their abuse with a volley of mine, that they wouldnt forget in a hurry.

jinky67

becky_rtw wrote: »

Jinky see the ops orginal post:
I never cross roads dangerously

I did see that.

We as adults do, although I sometimes wonder:cool:, BUT kids dont know when it is safe do they?
Like I said above we should be setting an example

I dont understand why people just cant wait 2 mins for the lights to change. Is it that big a deal?

Katie-Kat-Kins

jinky67 wrote: »

Yes it is, but how can we teach our children how to cross safely ( for them ) when people like you pay little regard?

She isn't crossing unsafely, to be safe you don't HAVE to wait for the green man. She has stopped looked and listened, that is the message you should be giving your children, not blindly wait for an electronic device to tell you when it is safe.

If you have taught your children the green cross code it is easy enough to say either "that lady was naughty and should have waited" or "grown - ups can cross before the green man if they have followed the green cross code and are sure it is safe but you must always wait".

It isn't for the whole of society to bring up your children. What next aren't we allowed to eat a burger in front of your kids because it is a bad example??? You can't sheild them from everything and need to teach them to think for themselves.

newcook

I suppose it depends on where about you are crossing - if you are crossing right next to them then yes I think you are setting a bad example.

little kids look to adults as example figures and are obviously not as quick or know how to judge distances so if you are stood by a child and just step out (after YOU have looked) then the child thinks its safe to do so as an adult has done it.

janninew

Totally agree with Katp,

I was stood at traffic lights last month with my 2 dogs, the road was very busy and i was waiting for the green man. The lights changed and i just started to cross when a white van sped through the lights, i had to drag my dogs back quickly or they would have been run over. You need to do more than wait for the green man, you need to be looking constantly and listening, as there are some very bad drivers out there!

phunkles

i was always taught that the green man was an extra help it wasnt to be solely relied on? as children even with the green man flashing and beeping we had to still stop look and listen and do the looking both ways as one day there could be a stolen car, a police car, an ambulance, fire engine, car with no brakes etc who wont stop.
Just cause its a green man doesnt mean its safe!
However we were also taught that if while waiting for a green man it was safe to cross then you should cross the road.

I sometimes forget as an adult to do stop look listen if im preoccupied to be honest
However with any small children around(in my care) I always cross at the safest opportunity - if its a safe green man fair enough

But those people are rude - i dont get how setting an example to children can ever include swearing and shouting abuse kinda counter productive surely?

nervousftb_3

Glen0000 wrote: »

Me too. I think it is very rude. I don't have small children now myself, but would never do this, just as I would not swear if kiddies around etc.

The number of people agreeing with the OP shows what a rude bunch we have become in the UK.

to be perfectly honest, i think it is pretty rude to expect complete strangers to wait for your children before crossing the road! if you are not actively putting the child in danger, then it is up to you when you choose to cross. the person with the child is responsible for their safety, not the random strangers passing them in the street. every day children see adults doing things that they can't - staying up late, smoking, drinking, driving etc etc. should we stop all of these things in case it sets a bad example for other people's children?! kids have to wait for the green man because they are told to, regardless of what other people are doing. it is a lesson kids have to learn every day.