MSE Parents Club Part 5

My_Fathers_Daughter

BrunoM wrote: »

Oo thanks

I stayed quiet for quite a while though, only a post every couple of months or so at first!

The threads were much quieter then though - only 10 or 20 posts a day on the pregnancy thread and in here!!

Soon changed that didn't we girls

feelinggood_2

MDW - I love that final family shot, very lovely!

emlou2009

lovely pic MDW!

seth is asleep in his cot, bars and all, went down without a fuss! let see how the night goes...

elle_gee

feelinggood wrote: »

One thing I want to say, Elle, I don't think I ever respoded to any of your posts when your LO was born, and I'm sorry.

Aww, bless ya! No need to be sorry but thankyou xx

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

.. I posted from my bed in hospital to let you ladies know that I had finally had Benjamin

Cos we'd been waiting so blinking long for news!


Lovely photos MDW!

SusanC_2

Bruno, just had a few more thoughts on the napping situation (or more specifically the crying part).

If a baby is just "trying it on" then they will stop crying as soon as you go in to them and they won't be "recovering" from crying as it wasn't genuine. If you go in and are struggling to calm him down then (even if originally he was just making a fuss for no reason) he is genuinely distressed/in a state and not putting it on.

Also, what does your wife do while she is trying controlled crying? It sounded like she stands outside Elijahs door waiting for him to stop which is probably the worst thing (in terms of stress for her) that she can do. If she is doing it, she needs to set a timer for a certain length of time and go away and not think or worry about the crying until the timer goes off. When the timer goes off, she should go in and try to calm him down/reassure him (whatever she would normally do) and then leave (not go back and forth repeatedly).

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Eggs
Don’t give raw or lightly cooked eggs to babies. Eggs can be given to babies over six months, but make sure they are thoroughly cooked until both the white and yolk are solid.

:mad: I checked this very thoroughly before giving Alice HM mayonaise and there was nothing in my NHS book (which I read from cover to cover multiple times) or in any of the weaning leaflets from the HV. Mind you, personally as long as I'm using eggs with the lion mark on I'm not to worried as they are vaccinated so the risk is very low.

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

sounds like I will be asking HV about peanuts next week then. I miss them so! (I've been good due to peanut allergis plus asthma and excema and hay fever all affecting every single member of my family.)

:eek: We have all those between as but nobody has all of them. We asked HV about weaning and peanuts (because of OH's peanut allergy) and she said that she couldn't advise on it and we would have to see the GP who told us just do follow the standard advice. Then when Alice appeared to have a reaction to cashews (which can be more serious than peanut allergies) he acted like I was just making it up and just said that we'd best just avoid all nuts indefinitely. (But we knew we were moving so are going to see the new GP once we register.)

And MIL said she ate loads of peanuts while pregnant with OH so I just avoided them anyway (not that I have them really with OH being allergic).

Krystaltips wrote: »

Feely, if I couldn't feed my own children myself I would rather give them someone elses milk than formula... Just to add my feelings... If your friend is the kind of person you can approach about this sort of thing then you should just offer her the choice...

Me too.

feelinggood wrote: »

Skinty - from what I've read, we should aim for 10-12 feeds a day.

:eek: My MW said 8. (Alice wasn't even always 8 in the beginning, sometimes she was 7 but she had really long feeds - up to 90 minutes.)

jillie1974 wrote: »

off to buy my nursing bras next week.

how many have people bought and do i need diferent sizes as the weeks go by
If that makes sense--- like do your boobs shrink after b/f for a few weeks or do they stay bigger till you stop....

I just got nursing sleep bras so they weren't a set size. (Didn't get them for that reason - just because it saved all the bother of measuring and trying loads of bras on and I was ill.)

feelinggood wrote: »

About the breastmilk thing, I feel responsible for this baby being born and I'm terrified it is going to have an awful life

I'm sure if you hadn't introduced your friends, she would have got pregnant at some point in her life anyway - most women do. (On reading that sentence back I realise it may sound a little sarcastic but it is not intended to be.)

skintchick wrote: »

Also, bedtimes, we tend to have her up with us until about 9.30pm when she goes to sleep naturally. This suits us sso I've not tried to put her down earlier. Is that OK? Everyonee seems to be talking about 7pm bedtimes but we don't do that.

Depends what you want. We always put Alice to bed at 7 because it gave us the evening together just the two of us and also it meant if she didn't settle, it was still early evenign rather than our bedtime so less stressful. I can see that there are possible advantages of a later bedtime but it just depends on you as a family and what works best for you and you are happy with. Don't change to 7 because other people are doing it - only change if you think it is the best for your family.

feelinggood wrote: »

I had to give a couple of formula feeds and despite knowing logically that it was that or starve I feel terrible about it.

We gave Alice 2x3oz on night 3 and 2oz (after 1oz of EBM) on night 4. I wish I hadn't had to do it but I was so sore that it really was necessary. At that stage if OH had said to me, "Lets switch to formula" I probably would have agreed. Next time I will be more psychologically prepared (instead of believeing all the info leaflets which say it only hurts if the baby doesn't latch on properly :mad:) so don't expect it to happen next time. What really annoys me is that because of that tiny amount of formula, the HV wrote in Alice's red book at ten days that she was being partially breastfed even though she hadn't had any formula other than those two mights.

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Oh, back to peanut butter, you can get cashew nut butter and pumpkin seed butter in Holland and Barret (and probably other health food type places too!) which do the same job of being something not sweet, but high in callories to spread on bread/crackers Izzy loves her pumpkin seed butter, but it is very sticky stuff. Sometimes it is easier to pop her in the bath afterwards!

You can get them at Sainsbury's too (and almond butter). Of course the cashew one which Alice can't have is the cheapest of the three.

Lu_T wrote: »

My boobs don't feel like they're 'filling up' before feeds at the moment. Is it anything I should be concerned about? Krystal?

I believe that is normal. They fill up early on because you have an oversupply before your supply settles down to what the baby demands.

weezl74 wrote: »

Sami, sugar is on that list of no-nos, does anyone know what to do about giving fruits like rhubarb which are far too acidic to be tolerated by babies or adults without added sugar?

Why not try him without and see if he likes it? I love rhubarb and only found out when I was 23 that people put sugar on it. My parents never put sugar in rhubarb, gooseberries, cooked apple, custard, semolina, rice pudding etc. and we always loved them. I had no idea people put sugar in any of those things except for custard until I was 22/23.

tiamai_d

I feel no guilt whatsoever about giving Amber her bottle of formula at night. Partly because it gets me some sleep and partly because I am very proud of myself for breast feeding the rest of the time for over 3 weeks and through 2 bouts of mastitis even in the first week when I knew I could have gotten her out of special care by switching to formula. My best was 2 weeks with DS1 and DS2. :D:D

MadDogWoman_2

The advantage of being at a family wedding with a professional photographer.

I've just put BBC 2 on for the proms - trying to introduce DD to a bit of culture and she's just handed me the remote asking me to turn it up!!!

Re Bedtime - DD generally goes to bed between 7&8pm, when she first born I would just take her upstairs at 7pm and do everything quietly and in a dim light, it just helped her wind down and be ready for bed once she was tired.

MDW

emlou2009

i just found mine! so long ago now...

i didnt join til i was nearly dropping though!

MadDogWoman_2

My first post.

Nothing to do with children, it was a full 12 months later DD appeared.

This post was around the time I had my failure at IVF.

MDW

Krystaltips

Just watching Planes, Trains and Automobiles, I love it!

Got this for Caitlyn today, was only £6.99! They had a pink one too but hubby wouldn't let me because it was £3 more lol...

I also won one of these for Aimee from eBay for £56 BNIB. Really pleased because it's only £1 more than her earlier toys sold for so it means we can get her a couple of room sets too...

And a couple of my favourite photos of Caitlyn..