Big girls - we are beautiful! Aren't we??

tara747

Can I just say that I love this thread, it is full of good vibes and great advice!

MrsE_2

vik6525 wrote: »

The thing is though, you can MAKE yourself like fruit and veg. Trust me, Ive done it. We'd ALL like to sit round eating pasties, pies and chocolate all day, but dont (not that Im saying thats what you do!!)
I used to be massively 'big'.... Oh alright then, for 'big' read 'fat'.... But its just a case of mind over matter.
Im no expert on 'visualisation' techniques, but I taught myself to look at a chocolate bar, and actually 'see' it adding to the rolls of fat around my tummy. At the same time, I taught myself to look at an apple, and see the rolls coming off....
It IS hard work, but you CAN do it.

Vik 'used to be 20 stone, is now 9stone13 and proud' 6525

xx

Wow Vik, you're incredible:T:T:T

Will take note on the 'visualisation' techniques;)

vik6525

MrsE wrote: »

Wow Vik, you're incredible:T:T:T

Will take note on the 'visualisation' techniques;)

I think that one of paul macennas 'things' is to teach people to think of their favourite food, like chocolate and whatever, but to imagine it mixed with hair, and fag ash, or whatever it is that repulses you!

But it does work! I used to visualise chocolate and bread as tasting like fish (I hate fish), you get into the habit of doing it after a while....

These days though, I live by the mantra

'No food tastes as good as being thin feels'

GrammarGirl

vik6525 wrote: »

These days though, I live by the mantra

'No food tastes as good as being thin feels'

Isn't that a slightly dangerous mantra to live by, though? I think people who have complex relationships with food end up being dangerously thin or severely overweight. The problem is not the food itself - it's the relationship between the person and the food that causes problems. If you can't stop yourself from eating when full or from eating too much of the unhealthy stuff, you need to change your attitude, so you can enjoy a bit of chocolate or a bag of crisps.

Obviously, everyone needs to follow a healthy, balanced diet. But people also need to be positive about eating and enjoy it, not avoid it. I think choosing thinness over a delicious, well-balanced meal is crazy!

That's just my opinion. I'm not overweight but I am a foodie, I couldn't imagine giving up the delight of cooking and eating. Maybe there's another point of view though?

vik6525

GrammarGirl wrote: »

Isn't that a slightly dangerous mantra to live by, though? I think people who have complex relationships with food end up being dangerously thin or severely overweight. The problem is not the food itself - it's the relationship between the person and the food that causes problems. If you can't stop yourself from eating when full or from eating too much of the unhealthy stuff, you need to change your attitude, so you can enjoy a bit of chocolate or a bag of crisps.

Obviously, everyone needs to follow a healthy, balanced diet. But people also need to be positive about eating and enjoy it, not avoid it. I think choosing thinness over a delicious, well-balanced meal is crazy!

That's just my opinion. I'm not overweight but I am a foodie, I couldn't imagine giving up the delight of cooking and eating. Maybe there's another point of view though?

Oh I totally see your point, but for me, its a case of 'do i want this second chocolate bar, or do I want to stay thin?'
Its a good way for me to remind myself how far Ive come, and not to go down that road again...
Im an absolute glutton by nature. I come from a family of foodies, where birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, you name it, are celebrated by lavish meals out, and endless wine. It'd be very very easy to fall back into my 'old' ways, so my mantra is a way to keep myself in check.

GrammarGirl

vik6525 wrote: »

Oh I totally see your point, but for me, its a case of 'do i want this second chocolate bar, or do I want to stay thin?'
Its a good way for me to remind myself how far Ive come, and not to go down that road again...
Im an absolute glutton by nature. I come from a family of foodies, where birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, you name it, are celebrated by lavish meals out, and endless wine. It'd be very very easy to fall back into my 'old' ways, so my mantra is a way to keep myself in check.

Ah, I understand. Throughout my teens I had a very fast metabolism... I've never been super skinny but maintained a slim, healthy weight for a very long time with no exercise and no dieting. I have always eaten healthily (ish) but I love treats and don't deny myself them! In the last two years my metabolism has slowed lots and I now have to be more careful about what I eat, but I still couldn't bear to diet or follow a regimented plan. I have a deep-rooted hatred of exercise so am just getting into yoga/pilates as a compromise. I don't want to lose weight as I'm still slim (ish, enough for me any way!), just maintain. I guess it's different if you've lost so much weight and know you cannot go back there again.

Well done to you for taking control and losing it all.

Pinkylouloubell

vik6525 wrote: »

Oh I totally see your point, but for me, its a case of 'do i want this second chocolate bar, or do I want to stay thin?'
Its a good way for me to remind myself how far Ive come, and not to go down that road again...
Im an absolute glutton by nature. I come from a family of foodies, where birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, you name it, are celebrated by lavish meals out, and endless wine. It'd be very very easy to fall back into my 'old' ways, so my mantra is a way to keep myself in check.

I completly understand what you mean about the family thing, mine too would go out for huge meals for celebrations and also as 'treats'.
I gre up eating excessive amounts of food and only realised when friends and a particular boyfriend would coment.
e.g my mu would normally have for her lunch a round and a half of sandwiches, a cup of soup, a packet of crisps and a chocolate bar.
So thats what I do/did.

He once said to me how can you eat all of that for your lunch, why cant you just have the sandwich and say the crisps.

I didnt quite see where he was coming from at the time.

So maybe it does have alot to do with you upbringing.

Well, Im off out to give my car a thorough clean, as ex OH is over later to get it valued. ( we bought it between us and now he wants to sell it as he wants his half! but thats another story, LOL)

XX

vij

Im finding a keffir and Fruit smoothie at work stops me from wanting to eat things I shouldnt. I put some oats in when I blend my fave is blueberry and banana. It has improved my skin and hair condition (been doing it 1 month about) as well might be worth trying something like it.

bank_of_slate

I love the innocent smoothies!
...Linda xx

Pinkylouloubell

OK, so went back to work yesterday on just over an hours sleep!!
Bit of a shock to the system after 6 weeks off. (work in a a school)

I have my appointment with the practise nurse later on today to discuss my weight issues and the previous enthusiasm seems to have gone for a walk.
But Im going to go anyway with an open mind as I really want this to be the time I succeed in getting healthier.
For my own healths sake as well as the feel good benefits.

I had to make a dentisit appointment too to get my wisdom tooth taken out and the dentist couldnt do it so they refered me onto the hospital who say they wont be able to sedate me uness I go on a much longer waiting list (app is 18th Sep) so Im very nervous about that too.

so all of this is having a huge affect on my eating habits at the moment.

Ill post later when back from the docs.