Motivating the other half

Kimitatsu

Whiteboard
dry board marker

Make them a list - give them a time scale by when it has to be done and let them get on with it.

MrK will do it that way, if I ask him to do something, he breathes and its gone, so I write it down for him and let him get on with it. If I interfere it will only make things worse so I have learnt to sit back and let him do it his way.

I dont ecpect him to dust (whats dust then he will say?) but he will hoover, empty the dishwasher etc and if its on the list do the windows.

LameWolf

Maybe Mr LW is unusual, but there's no household job he refuses to do. He might need prompting, but he never complains or refuses.:A

I'm at home all the time (chronic illness, too disabled to work) so I do what I can manage by myself while he's at work, and the rest we do together, and incidentally have a good laugh in the process - even dusting. Jobs that are now beyond me because of my health, he does, with a smile. Hoovering and ironing come in this last category - I can iron, but need the board set up for me, so he just gets on and does it all.:o

We cook together a lot; he does anything requiring sharp knives, and he also clears washing up while I create more of it!:D He will, whenever asked, prep veggies and leave them in a bowl of salt water ready for me to make a meal the next day.

Reading this thread, I realise how extremely lucky I am.:)

Primrose

nonoz and looblo, Get yourselves a big white poster on a stick saying "Housewife's Strike" and on Friday night before you go to bed, stick it up in your kitchen. Stay in bed all week-end and don't do a thing. By Monday morning you may find your partners ready to adopt a negotiating position.

I can't complaint about my OH. He does most of the cooking & shopping, as well as cleaning baths & loos, and the monthly dishwasher & hob extractor clean. He also cleans the oven, I job I hate doing. He doesn't see dust though, and HATES gardening, so that is virtually 100% my province. He is also one of the untidiest men I have ever come across which does drive me to distraction at times as it's so much easier to clean and dust when all surfaces are clear of clutter.

wogglemaker

Think I must have married Mr LW's brother.

I'm very restricted with what I can do due to disability, and hubby will do anything I ask him to. He dos not see dirt dust etc but will do more than his share even the Ironing when I'm feeling particularly rotten. We do a lot of things togeather as I run out of puff very easily, and always have a good laugh especialy when batch cooking.

Sunnyday

Mr SD will empty the dishwasher in the morning (he won`t fill it though)

He is another one that will hang up washing in a lump, either that or he pegs it out without thinking so that there are peg marks in places where they are difficult to iron out. He`s seen me peg it out for over 21 years so he must have missed something there.

He will hoover at a nag or three and will wipe the kitchen sides down using half a bottle of washing up liquid leaving suds everywhere.

He can`t cook to save his life and wrecks the kitchen making beans on toast, burnt toast a shrieking smoke alarm and beans either welded to the bottom of the pan or stuck to the roof of the microwave are the norm.

He can`t iron and can`t do any of the diy things that fellas seem to do either so i`m stuffed

He will very occasionally mow the lawn and cut the hedge but as thats only about twice a year it doesn`t really count as i usually do it.

Sometimes i could happily strangle him as i`ve tried almost everything and nothing seems to work long term.

When i`ve had enough of his untidiness i`ve put things lying around in his car as thats the only way i can get him to take notice Other things i`ve just hidden and if they`ve not been missed for a few months they`ve gone in the bin.

I`m sorry that i can`t offer any help, i read the thread hoping that i would find a miracle cure

Although he can send me to the very brink of insanity sometimes we must be doing ok as we`re both still under the same roof.:D at the moment:rotfl:

SD

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

how do you make him keep it clean?

Tell him just how h*rny it sounds to you to do 'stuff' on sparkling kitchen counters/washing machines, hallway floors, and that you can't wait to have a lovely clean, shiny house with sooooo many new places........