Motivating the other half

mrbadexample

LilacPixie wrote: »

He is now complaining the jeans he wants to wear tomorrow are in the ironing pile wrinkly. Oh apparently I should be grateful he took OUR kids to the local park for 45 minutes today 'to give me a break' why did i not do the ironing then!!!!!!!!!!

Dump him too.

Hardup_Hester

Blame his mother, lol. My 1st husband was trained from birth to to ignore anything that was womens work, my current one was trained that no-one sat down till everyone could.

Rowan9

We tend to have 'jobs' - DH cuts the grass, washes the cars and does heavy stuff. I make the packed lunches , cook. We both clean though - he's much better at me at doing dishes etc as he does the whole job, even down to wiping down kitchen surfaces. I would leave things to drip dry and then have a sit down with a book . We;ve been together 11 years - bit of trial and error in the beginning until we found what worked for us. I know ours is a bit of 'pink and blue' jobs but it works for us.
Good luck!
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thriftlady_2

momoyama wrote: »

I'll gladly vacuum clear but I'll look at you with confusion if you ask me to "Hoover".



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You poor thing:rolleyes: who else doesn't understand what is meant by 'doing the hoovering'?

By the way the word 'vacuum' is a noun, not a verb. But let's not be picky:rolleyes:

Anyway back to the OP's problem I think the answer is to make a list or rota of jobs as others have said. If that doesn't work I would say 'no more sex until he starts helping':D

Hardup_Hester

Anyway back to the OP's problem I think the answer is to make a list or rota of jobs as others have said. If that doesn't work I would say 'no more sex until he starts helping':D[/QUOTE]


Lol, I'm glad I don't have to use this one on my hubby, I'd cave in before he would, he's so stubborn.
Hester

maggie111

The only way I've solved this with OH is to explain that I need help and that in order for the house to be in a state I'm comfortable with I need his help.

I am VERY reasonable in what I asked of him, and how often. It's not as often as I would like it done, or as often as other people would do it (for example hoovering) but he agreed I needed help and that by talking with him and agreeing the routine for his cleaning we're both happy.

Note as well that these are they only things he *has* to do, it's no use setting up his chores, coming home and then complaining he hasn't taken the mug out to the kitchen, made dinner for you etc. This way I get help and he gets to know that ALL he has to do is x,y,z and then all of his household duties are free. This is still infinitely preferable for us both than having to nag.

cyclingyorkie

i have been married nearly 22 years...and been sick with swine flu for a week.

today is the first day he has put the washing out without being asked!

he still can't hang out washing to save his life......

Rummer

If I had a pound for every time my OH said I promise I will get it in a minute I would be able to afford fabulous cleaner!

Butterfly_Brain

We have always worked as a team from day one, I think that I am very lucky to have him. The only thing I have to nag him about is decorating because he hates it and I used to do all of it until my knees finally gave out ...Literally! I am waiting for both of them to be replaced.
But he does try and I love him to bits:lovethoug
Why not try asking him to do things instead of telling him that this or that has got to be done and explaining that you work just as hard as he does and that you could really do with some help around the house. Sometimes you have to act like a feeble little woman to get men to do something

janeym8

why not try

i will do......
if you do.......

and stick to it no matter how hard it is not to

eg i will do all the cooking this week if you do all the dishes and stipulate ?sp that means wash,dry,put away and clean counter tops,cooker top etc

may work!!!


oh look isnt that snow got a bluey tinge to it ?????

janey xxx