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***Weekend Chat Thread ~ 8th and 9th August***

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  • Snaggles
    Snaggles Posts: 19,503 Forumite
    Toto wrote: »
    Spill....

    No reply to my email, I'm guessing she must be away though because she's usually pretty quick at that sort of thing :D

    Weird, she was definitely online on Friday because he was chatting to her.

    But he had a little panic about privacy and asked me not to talk about him in any detail - I got really quite peed off about that because it was incredibly Shrek-like, and he was going to explain why he'd said it this weekend, but of course he didn't.

    It's so frustrating. I asked him outright if he fancied me, and he said he does. I asked him if he hadn't enjoyed 'things' and he said he had more than enjoyed them. He likes me, he likes my company, but he's not willing to risk working on a relationship that might not work out, because he can't cope with it failing, and he doesn't want his kids to get hurt.

    The first bit I can understand, but the kids thing is an excuse - they don't need to even know we are dating.

    But the he said he was sad that he's messed up another potential relationship. :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:
    "I wasn't wrong, I just wasn't right enough."
    :smileyhea
    9780007258925
  • Toto
    Toto Posts: 6,680 Forumite
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    so, did you get the explaination snags?
    :A
    :A
    "Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" - Albert Einstein
  • Toto
    Toto Posts: 6,680 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    Snaggles wrote: »
    Weird, she was definitely online on Friday because he was chatting to her.

    But he had a little panic about privacy and asked me not to talk about him in any detail - I got really quite peed off about that because it was incredibly Shrek-like, and he was going to explain why he'd said it this weekend, but of course he didn't.

    It's so frustrating. I asked him outright if he fancied me, and he said he does. I asked him if he hadn't enjoyed 'things' and he said he had more than enjoyed them. He likes me, he likes my company, but he's not willing to risk working on a relationship that might not work out, because he can't cope with it failing, and he doesn't want his kids to get hurt.

    The first bit I can understand, but the kids thing is an excuse - they don't need to even know we are dating.

    But the he said he was sad that he's messed up another potential relationship. :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:


    So, don't get the kids involved until the time comes when he knows it's going to work out. I assume you aren't exactly inviting yours into the bedroom either :rolleyes:
    :A
    :A
    "Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" - Albert Einstein
  • Burlesque_Babe
    Burlesque_Babe Posts: 17,547 Forumite
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    it doesn't sound like he is ready for a relationship Snags :(
    :D"Stay Wonky":D

    :j:jBecome Mrs Pepe 9 October 2012 :j:j
  • Snaggles
    Snaggles Posts: 19,503 Forumite
    Toto wrote: »
    so, did you get the explaination snags?

    Kind of - see above. But there are things I'm still not clear about.

    We had a really long chat, and I said 'there's no more to say, we want things the other can't give, you wont risk us being more than friends in case you get hurt, I can't be just your friend because it's hurting me, there's no room to compromise here, and that's really sad'

    He agreed and said we should sleep on it - I said I would IF he was going to think about it too, and not just expect me to wake up and suddenly agree to do things his way. He said 'Yes, I'm wondering if we could find a compromise, finding a bit of common ground would be good, don't think we can resolve all the issues straight away but I will give it thought'.

    He could have easily walked away, not really sure why he didn't. I'm going to give him a little bit of time (a couple of weeks), but after that, some decisions need to be made, before I get in too far over my head. :o

    Maz, yes, absolute torture. Because we are so blatantly un-touchy-feely, it actually has the completely opposite effect on me to the one it's supposed to, and now my heart leaps into my mouth if he so much as brushes against me. Not good! :o:o
    "I wasn't wrong, I just wasn't right enough."
    :smileyhea
    9780007258925
  • Burlesque_Babe
    Burlesque_Babe Posts: 17,547 Forumite
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    It sounds as if he needs to majorly get his head sorted out from whatever has gone on in the past Snags. I would guess he isn't the kind of guy who wants to hurt someone by walking away, but at the same time, that isn't a good position to be in from your side.
    :D"Stay Wonky":D

    :j:jBecome Mrs Pepe 9 October 2012 :j:j
  • sammy115
    sammy115 Posts: 15,267 Forumite
    Snags, I am worn out just reading about it all......I can't understand when men got so complicated.
    Quality is doing something right when no one is looking - Henry Ford
  • Snaggles
    Snaggles Posts: 19,503 Forumite
    It sounds as if he needs to majorly get his head sorted out from whatever has gone on in the past Snags. I would guess he isn't the kind of guy who wants to hurt someone by walking away, but at the same time, that isn't a good position to be in from your side.

    It's not - I'm certain he doesn't want to hurt me, I can see that he cares about me. But regardless, it IS hurting me.

    Think I'll have a little sleep, very tired now!
    "I wasn't wrong, I just wasn't right enough."
    :smileyhea
    9780007258925
  • Burlesque_Babe
    Burlesque_Babe Posts: 17,547 Forumite
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    edited 9 August 2009 at 4:47PM
    I would give him a very set timescale and say if he can't make a decision by then, you will not be in contact with him. It's not fair of him to leave you hanging on. The beginning of a relationship should be the fun bit!!
    :D"Stay Wonky":D

    :j:jBecome Mrs Pepe 9 October 2012 :j:j
  • Burlesque_Babe
    Burlesque_Babe Posts: 17,547 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Photogenic Combo Breaker
    I have wasted £9 on the world's worst designed mop :rolleyes: Folks, don't buy the JML Twista Mop - it's really pants!
    :D"Stay Wonky":D

    :j:jBecome Mrs Pepe 9 October 2012 :j:j
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