NRPP's

PlayingHardball

Hi Dancing, how many more years does she get CS? I am sorry for your situation. Mine is completely opposite, I started taking on more hours as soon as I separated (used to just do part time while children younger). I've been working full time since DD was 10, and have managed just fine juggling job and child, and further increasing qualifications and skills. I am now at the point where I'm able to support myself and daughter fully, no frills mind you, so his lack of payinig CS is okay on the money front, however wrong on the moral front, for DD sake. (On the flip side, my ex's new wife sits on fat lazy a**....)its a long story but I'm with you, it makes your blood boil at times. I would think your hubbies ex and my ex's new wife would be great pals. Lazy so and so's.

At least you'll have the pleasure of seeing her having to go out to work once the graveytrain runs dry, with no job skills, etc, you'll have the last laugh.

Don't let it get to you, not worth it. Focus on the children and building yours and your partners relationship with them.

Blonde_Bint

lol. Do you know you sound a bit like me DS. I just wander aimlessly through life, dont want much, happy with what I've got never REALLY hated anyone. I can honestly say after about 7 yrs of her thats when I hated her at that point in the proceedings I realised she was not going to change and that this was how we were going to live.
but Playinghardball is right we will have the last laugh, as for the maintenance who knows what she spends it on, the important thing that I know is that its paid.

mind you, because of the way she behaves shes shot herself in the foot so to speak. years ago DH had a good job so her CM was quite substantial, however, if you look up the definition of credit crunch in the dictionary you'll find a picture of me n DH:rotfl:

DH has an ordinary paid job now nothing wrong with that it pays the bills but her maintenance had to drop, this is where she shot herself in the foot, recently DH found out we are entitled to some sort of tax credits I thought it was rubbish we've never been entitled to any type of benefit before not even nursery vouchers which apparently everyone but us was entitled too. Anyway we are getting these credits so now it means we definately have the money to pay her each week because we use this money, however the credits is more than we pay her, for 2 pins i'd just give her the 20 quid extra, but shes the type that if we rock the boat and do that she could very easily say I want 50 quid extra which we absolutely havent got. lol do you see what I'm getting at.

I think for now we will stick to paying her the 50 quid a week, and use the rest of it to pay the father in law back (we borrowed 3 payments from him bit back). It will be nice to know that the money is there. because we didnt have that money before so its money that we wont miss isnt it. Finally, we've had a bit of luck. we've been given a break I must say it has perked me up a bit lol.

PlayingHardball

Hi Blonde....can you clear something up for me? What are all the abrreviations?

DD, DH..etc? I'm imagining 'partners, children, etc'...would appreciate the info

enemes

PlayingHardball wrote: »

Hi Blonde....can you clear something up for me? What are all the abrreviations?

DD, DH..etc? I'm imagining 'partners, children, etc'...would appreciate the info

DD ... Darling Daughter
DS ... Darling Son
DH ... Darling Husband (also known to mean D*ck Head!)
CM ... Child Maintenence
CSA ... Cr*p System Anyway

Gorgeous_George

I'd like to pay one lump sum so that I never need to hear her name again. I have no problem paying for my son but I should not help support my ex wife.

I don't think that much of my 15% goes to my son and it annoys me. It is state enforced theft; goes against my human rights and is probably illegal on grounds of sex discrimination.

GG

enemes

Gorgeous_George wrote: »

I'd like to pay one lump sum so that I never need to hear her name again. I have no problem paying for m son but I should not help support my ex wife.

I don't think that much of my 15% goes to my son and it annoys me. It is state enforced theft; goes against my human rights and is probably illegal on grounds of sex discrimination.
GG

Hi GG ...

If I could, I would love to pay my ex a lump sum so I never need to hear her name again also. Unfortunately, she is the NRP, and as it is unlikely that I will ever receive a penny from her, I would willingly pay to see the back of her too.

PlayingHardball

Thanks for the abbreviations enemes!

PlayingHardball

GG, Your son will at least know that you've supported him, even if your ex is not a nice person. I agree, you shouldn't be supporting her! Let her stand on her own two feet, as I and others have done. This is, after all, child support that we are all on about.

LizzieS_2

Gorgeous_George wrote: »

I'd like to pay one lump sum so that I never need to hear her name again. I have no problem paying for m son but I should not help support my ex wife.

I don't think that much of my 15% goes to my son and it annoys me. It is state enforced theft; goes against my human rights and is probably illegal on grounds of sex discrimination.

GG

Do you mean your son is neglected, or just that you pay far more than he really needs and gets? In the case of the former, why not use that lump sum to put your son where he will be better looked after?

Dancing_Shoes

I never have had or will have an issue contributing to the childrens housing costs whilst they are in education but yes I can happily say I will delight in watching her life go down the plughole when we no longer have to pay. Having spoken to several solicitors along the way they are amazed at how amicable we have been and we have been told that we could have given her alot less previously. Most people would expect a marriage split to be less than amicable to begin with and we all have a certain tolerance with that but when it is years later I just think she is a sc*m*ag!

The things she has done to us I wouldn't even put into print and the hatred she has towards our children is disgraceful. In terms of whether she neglects her children that is very difficult ground, having been told by a solicitor that it would be extremely difficult to prove:mad:

At the end of the day when you make a choice to have children in most cases it is a joint decision so why should a pwc be entitled to survive on your income? Surely that is saying that they cannot support their children?

I have every sympathy for pwc's who just want to be fair and have some "support" financially for their children but none for pwc's who believe they should be able to sit on their a**ses and rely on the nrp's to raise their children financially on their own