Have You Ever Written A Telling Off Letter To An Employer?

maninthestreet

Truegho wrote: »

Yes, I take your point. However, you do get so angry and frustrated at constant rejection all the time that often you DO feel like telling them exactly how you feel about them knocking you back!

If they have more than one person apply for a post, all bar one are going to get rejected.

Alikay

No, I wouldn't write if I'd wanted the job and not got it, for the reasons already mentioned.

I have however emailed to complain when I submitted a job application electronically, only for it to be deleted unread well before the closing date :eek:. The post had obviously been filled before closing date, so it wasn't personal, but it was bad manners and poor business practice. Hopefully the individual concerned was then advised of the "receipt" button on emails!!

I also complained after an interview when the first question I was asked was whether I had children and the second was what my childcare arrangements were. There was no point in making a formal complaint as it was a small and poorly run firm, but I was annoyed enough to let them know they were out of order. Oh, I knew I didn't want the job instantly, otherwise I'd have probably kept quiet!

GotToChange

Truegho wrote: »

I take your point, but I think it is a bit extreme to say that you would be labelled a "weirdo" for expressing your disappointment to an employer. It's a natural reaction at first to want to vent your feelings and your despondency at being turned down. Human nature and all that. That doesn't mean to say that you actually WILL go on and write that complaining letter to the employer. It's one thing to feel disappointment and anger, but it's quite another to actually put those feelings into practice!

OK - fair enough; weirdo is too strong a term....

The fact remains that they don't know about your constant disappointment do they? Telling them you are hurt and angry serves absolutely no purpose, at best it will make you look a little bit pathetic; the professional thing to do is suck it up and carry on (I'm afraid).
Unless - of course - (as above) the interview was carried out appallingly and they need something to be pointed out to them from an interviewee perspective.
This is all just my humble opinion though.
x

Truegho

Cheers. Everybody is entitled to their opinion.

GotToChange wrote: »

OK - fair enough; weirdo is too strong a term....

The fact remains that they don't know about your constant disappointment do they? Telling them you are hurt and angry serves absolutely no purpose, at best it will make you look a little bit pathetic; the professional thing to do is suck it up and carry on (I'm afraid).
Unless - of course - (as above) the interview was carried out appallingly and they need something to be pointed out to them from an interviewee perspective.
This is all just my humble opinion though.
x

DVardysShadow

Truegho wrote: »

When you have been utterly disappointed and angry on receiving a rejection from an employer, have you ever felt like writing them a telling off letter saying how badly you wanted the job and how upset you are that they turned you down?

Sometimes, endless rejections can get you so demoralised and angry that you can feel like venting your frustration to employers!

Just once in a while, such a letter might be justified. This would be if they messed you about, for example by calling you for interview and discovering something at interview which you had included on your application and you had come back off holiday a day early or something.

But excluding process failures like that, it is very much par of the process for a substantial proportion of applicants to be rejected, so the advice given applies.

fablad75

Don't do it. The satisfaction of telling them off is NOT worth missing out on any future opportunities with the whole company. You might even be their second choice right now, you never know.

coffee_prince

No, what really annoys me is when you apply toa job and then a month later it is back up on the jebcentre website. I start to rage, its like, give me a break!

Hermia

We have had a few letters/phone calls like this where I work. The sad thing is that all the ones we have received have been from people who were just not very good at the interview. One guy wrote an angry letter saying he really wanted the job and couldn't believe we turned him down. He had spent the entire interview looking bored, slouching in his chair and giving one word answers to our questions!

Write a letter by all means and then burn it!

glossgal

I know how you feel! I've had two interviews in recent weeks and neither bothered to let me know the outcome-we are talking well paid roles in professional (allegedly) organisations as well, I am absolutely shocked, this has never happened to me before.

Just today I e-mailed one for feedback to get standard ' oh yes, sorry you have been unsuccessful on this occassion' etc. The most frustrating thing of all is that I am more than capable of doing the job and didn't really want it anyway-it's also been readvertised to add insult to injury! I am very sorely tempted to reply stating that I have dodged a bullet and would not want to work for a company who can't be bothered to notify a handful of people who've taken time to go for interviw. But I won't.

One thing I never do is suffer fools gladly on the job front-I've never been so desperate as to take a job from someone who's messed me about, you have to set standards for yourself. Also, although it's hard you have to bear in mind that lots of jobs are earmarked for someone else before you get through the door-either an internal candidate or someone who fits the 'quota' better than you. My employer will always give a job to someone already there rather than an external candiditate, pretty rotten really and does nothing for quality control let me tell ya!

glossgal

I know how you feel! I've had two interviews in recent weeks and neither bothered to let me know the outcome-we are talking well paid roles in professional (allegedly) organisations as well, I am absolutely shocked, this has never happened to me before.

Just today I e-mailed one for feedback to get standard ' oh yes, sorry you have been unsuccessful on this occassion' etc. The most frustrating thing of all is that I am more than capable of doing the job and didn't really want it anyway-it's also been readvertised to add insult to injury! I am very sorely tempted to reply stating that I have dodged a bullet and would not want to work for a company who can't be bothered to notify a handful of people who've taken time to go for interviw. But I won't.

One thing I never do is suffer fools gladly on the job front-I've never been so desperate as to take a job from someone who's messed me about, you have to set standards for yourself. Also, although it's hard you have to bear in mind that lots of jobs are earmarked for someone else before you get through the door-either an internal candidate or someone who fits the 'quota' better than you. My employer will always give a job to someone already there rather than an external candiditate, pretty rotten really and does nothing for quality control let me tell ya!