Have You Ever Written A Telling Off Letter To An Employer?

Truegho

When you have been utterly disappointed and angry on receiving a rejection from an employer, have you ever felt like writing them a telling off letter saying how badly you wanted the job and how upset you are that they turned you down?

Sometimes, endless rejections can get you so demoralised and angry that you can feel like venting your frustration to employers!

McKneff

Dont even think about it.
the same job might come back in the limelight again if the person who they chose doesnt like it. You might be second on the list. Write a letter like that and yu wont be on the list at all. No point in anger. the end result is an ulcer.

Lollypop75

Lol! From the thread title I thought you meant a current employer, which would be bad enough!

I really recommend that you don't have a go at employers after they reject you. For one thing I had an interview a few weeks ago for a position I didn't apply for (really). I'd sent in an application to an organisation and not heard anything. Then some time later they got in touch with me and said they were recruiting another position and did I want to be put forward for it (without doing a new application form) - I got an interview for that. I doubt very much that would have happened if I'd sent them an angry letter saying how rude I thought it was that they didn't get in touch. (You could argue that I may as well have done, since I didn't get the job in the end!)

I hope you have better luck with your applications this week! It is pretty demoralising. I'm having trouble keeping myself going...

Truegho

Yes, I take your point. However, you do get so angry and frustrated at constant rejection all the time that often you DO feel like telling them exactly how you feel about them knocking you back!

McKneff wrote: »

Dont even think about it.
the same job might come back in the limelight again if the person who they chose doesnt like it. You might be second on the list. Write a letter like that and yu wont be on the list at all. No point in anger. the end result is an ulcer.

redstararnie76

Please don't - you want to keep them sweet.

My husband had an interview about a year ago, and he got what felt like a standard 'no thanks' letter, telling him 'blah blah blah... didn't get the job... blah blah... were impressed by you, would like to keep you on file.'
More recently, while he was working for a different employer, he was contacted by this other one again, out of the blue, who offered him a better job at a higher salary and guess where he is now?

At the time he was really frustrated because he felt like he kept being turned down,.. but we are so pleased that he kept that frustration to himself!!!

littleredhen

write down all you want to say and then shred it!

**Rab**_2

at the end of the day an employer will offer the job to whom they think will be best at it. rather than being bitter towards them you could go over your interview ask yourself if you could go back in time what would you do/say diferently

GotToChange

The thing is though - that the most recent potential employer to turn you down simply doesn't know that they are number 100 on your list of rejections so a disgruntled letter from a candidate who from their point of view didn't meet the requirements is a sure fire way to get yourself seen as a total weirdo (and they would be sighing with relief at not having taken on such a fruitloop).

Go and have a game of squash; that little green balls just asking to have the c**p beaten out of it.

Or take afew deep breaths and put your creative letter writing to a better purpose.

x

Truegho

I take your point, but I think it is a bit extreme to say that you would be labelled a "weirdo" for expressing your disappointment to an employer. It's a natural reaction at first to want to vent your feelings and your despondency at being turned down. Human nature and all that. That doesn't mean to say that you actually WILL go on and write that complaining letter to the employer. It's one thing to feel disappointment and anger, but it's quite another to actually put those feelings into practice!

GotToChange wrote: »

The thing is though - that the most recent potential employer to turn you down simply doesn't know that they are number 100 on your list of rejections so a disgruntled letter from a candidate who from their point of view didn't meet the requirements is a sure fire way to get yourself seen as a total weirdo (and they would be sighing with relief at not having taken on such a fruitloop).

Go and have a game of squash; that little green balls just asking to have the c**p beaten out of it.

Or take afew deep breaths and put your creative letter writing to a better purpose.

x

Voyager2002

It depends whether you want to be considered for any future vacancies there...

I am in the process of writing such a letter, to someone I know who is on the advisory board of an organisation that interviewed me but did not make an offer. The person who would have been my line manager was so rude, and asked such inappropriate questions, that I would certainly not have accepted an offer had one been made, despite my desperation at the time. I am writing to the director whom I know in the hope that their policies will be changed, and ideally that the manager in question will be "let go". They are publicly funded and do important work, and it is not in anyone's interest for that department to be run by the psychopath who is now in charge.

Voyager2002

It depends whether you want to be considered for any future vacancies there...

I am in the process of writing such a letter, to someone I know who is on the advisory board of an organisation that interviewed me but did not make an offer. The person who would have been my line manager was so rude, and asked such inappropriate questions, that I would certainly not have accepted an offer had one been made, despite my desperation at the time. I am writing to the director whom I know in the hope that their policies will be changed, and ideally that the manager in question will be "let go". They are publicly funded and do important work, and it is not in anyone's interest for that department to be run by the psychopath who is now in charge.