Should blame be part of the equation

bdt1

Blonde Bint, I also have a new episode of Eastenders - or Coronation Street kicking off in my household every week, not through choice, my friends say I should write a book it would be a best seller!!!!!

A very bitter PWC some 16 years down the line is still plaguing us, although she has always said, and note the quote marks 'as long as she has breath in her body she will ruin us', she's a nice girl really :rolleyes:

I feel sorry for her children (and my 2 step-daughters), they were denied their father, and step-siblings, but one day oh yes that day is getting nearer

Blob

Agreed, to all the PWC that think that it is just the NRPs that are being a pain, remember the kids have a free will, and when they become of age, they will make thier own decisions and 'May God have mercy' on the pwc when the children have thier revenge! A friend of mine who avoided the probs of the CSA, well he is an accountant is now seeing this.

His ex tried to turn thier 3 kids aginst him and failed. His daughter was the last to try to see him, she has just got married, and guess what, her mother was told not to come, for what she had done.

As they say 'revenge is a dish best eaten cold' and some! Personally I look forward to the day when my ex gets her come upance in this respect, and she has already been told by our daughter that she is not welcome at her wedding!

CRANKY40

You can't attribute blame for a breakup. Would you blame my mum for cheating on my dad, would you blame my dad for working all the hours he could to try and give my mum the stuff she thought she needed, so not paying her enough attention.
Would you blame the man that my mum cheated on my dad with for 16 years or so, would you blame his wife for not reporting him to the police when he battered her (maybe if he was in prison my mum would have stopped seeing him). Then maybe you could blame my mum's friend for introducing her to her best friend, who then became the wife of the man she was cheating my dad with (yes it's true, my mum was having an affair with her best friend's husband for 16 years or so).
No matter who's to blame, my mum never paid my dad any maintenance for my sister, so we know who we respect most in this sorry and tatty little tale. People forget that children have long memories too, and one day they grow up and will be able to decide for themselves right from wrong.

Blob

Aint that the truth.

Gorgeous_George

CRANKY40 wrote: »

You can't attribute blame for a breakup. Would you blame my mum for cheating on my dad, would you blame my dad for working all the hours he could to try and give my mum the stuff she thought she needed, so not paying her enough attention.
Would you blame the man that my mum cheated on my dad with for 16 years or so, would you blame his wife for not reporting him to the police when he battered her (maybe if he was in prison my mum would have stopped seeing him). Then maybe you could blame my mum's friend for introducing her to her best friend, who then became the wife of the man she was cheating my dad with (yes it's true, my mum was having an affair with her best friend's husband for 16 years or so).
No matter who's to blame, my mum never paid my dad any maintenance for my sister, so we know who we respect most in this sorry and tatty little tale. People forget that children have long memories too, and one day they grow up and will be able to decide for themselves right from wrong.

They would all be on my special list :eek:

But the contract (or marriage) was between your mum and dad. She broke that contract - her fault.

GG