Were you sad to finish uni?

mark1234567890

I will be leaving uni at the end of this week and for some reason I am feeling pretty sad. Ok so technically I finished uni months ago and what I really mean is that I will be leaving my university city.

The thing is I didn’t expect to feel like this as I wouldn’t consider myself to be a “typical student”. However today was the last day at my part time job and all of a sudden it has just hit me.

I moved away from home to come here and have experienced all of the typical student issues; fighting with housemates, money problems and assignment stresses etc but now looking back on my 3 years here I don’t want to leave.

It is weird because I really hated it here at first and considered leaving. Time used to drag soooo bad. However all of my friends and colleagues have recently left and I am the last man standing (so to speak).

I didn’t intend for it to be like this - I wanted to stay. I have tried desperately hard to find a job but in the end no one would have me and I am returning home to live with my mum.

Did anyone else feel like this? Please can you share your thoughts? Any input is appreciated.

Thanks

Mark

MORPH3US

I know exactly how you feel Mark. I was gutted when I left Uni, so much so that I felt like crying some days (and i'm a tough as nails 6' 1" blokes bloke).

Uni days are the best days of your life, living so close to so many friends, not having to work and just generally having fun day in and day out.

Then all of a sudden everyone bug*ers off to all corners of the country and it suddenly dawns on you that its time to get a job and only see your uni mates on spare weekends etc.

I too moved back home and all my old friends back home had moved on in their lives, or they had not moved on at all and I didn't want to hang out with them because of that....

I ended up going travelling for a year with my girlfriend which was amazing, could you do something similar?

chicacherrycola

I feel your pain.

I was heartbroken to leave in the middle of June. My course finished, my tenancy ended and it was time to go - but I didn't want to. I felt so at home there. The whole experience of moving out, going to lectures, making and keeping new friends changed my life completely and I couldnt imagine going to live at home again after all that independence.

I've been back about a month and half and its been ok. I miss the city sometimes but know i can go back, if not to live then at least to visit. I have such happy memories of being at university and they will always stay with me (and yours will stay with you) and thats the most important thing.

Bear in mind although this chapter of your life has ended a new one is about to begin

GrammarGirl

I left two years ago and still miss it! I live in my university city, so am surrounded by students (although I've moved to a more 'young professional'-friendly area) and constant reminders of the good times. But instead of being able to go out on a Wednesday at 5pm and get in at 5am, I got to bed at 11pm and wake at 7am for work. Sad times!

There are lots of things to look forward to now you've left though - there's your graduation for starters (unless you've already had it, in which case there's the photos), starting your career, having money, eventually moving into your own home, meeting new people, etc etc. Lots of fun stuff to come!

Lokolo

All of you shut up. You're all depressing me.

I still miss school let alone uni!

Polydactyly

Ahhh the uni days! Came to England for university and stayed ever since! Couldn't bring myself to sever myself completely so I got a job nearby to the campus!

I felt just as you did. Made a lot of great friends who I am still very close with today. At the time, I couldn't wait to graduate and leave the campus. Then it hit me...... no more lectures, clinical placements or dreaded exams!

mark1234567890

Thank you for all of your replies :j

I ended up going travelling for a year with my girlfriend which was amazing, could you do something similar?

I have considered this and even made a post on here to discuss the idea with others.

I've been back about a month and half and its been ok. I miss the city sometimes but know i can go back, if not to live then at least to visit. I have such happy memories of being at university and they will always stay with me (and yours will stay with you) and thats the most important thing.

Bear in mind although this chapter of your life has ended a new one is about to begin

Agreed - happy memories and hopefully a new chapter that is just as good will now begin.

There are lots of things to look forward to now you've left though - there's your graduation for starters (unless you've already had it, in which case there's the photos), starting your career, having money, eventually moving into your own home, meeting new people, etc etc. Lots of fun stuff to come!

Hopefully I will be able to achieve all of that in my life :T

All of you shut up. You're all depressing me.

I still miss school let alone uni!

It soon comes around mate - make the most of it whilst you have got it.

Couldn't bring myself to sever myself completely so I got a job nearby to the campus!

I have been trying but I haven't had any luck.

Once again thank you for all of the posts.

frostyglow

I graduated in 2005 and I was really sad to leave at the time. But in the last 4 years I have done so much cool stuff!

When you leave uni you're taking a step into the (usually) unknown world of working full time. All you can see is other people trudging to work every day, same routine, nothing exciting.

What you don't see is the amazing feeling of passing your first interview and getting a job offer; the first pay cheque going into your account; meeting up with your school mates who you had to leave when you went to uni in the first place Meeting new (and hopefully cool) people at your work place and going out and having fun with them.

Not only all that but if, like me, you don't feel your job is right for you; you wait until you have enough experience to look good on your CV (I did just over a year) then find a new job because then you have both experience AND your university education.

There really are so many more doors open to you once you start earning a full-time salary. Also if you're lucky you can start looking for a place to rent to get back that element of independance you felt whilst you were at uni.

The friends you had at uni aren't going to stop being your friends just because you all live in different places... once you're working you can afford to return to your uni city and paint the town red with them when ever you want to.

As mentioned above, travelling is another very cool option. I left uni, worked for a year and a half, then went to Japan and worked for a year as an English teacher. It was the best thing I ever did! And with the money I saved from working in Japan I was able to travel for over a month around the whole country before returning to the UK.

The world is your oyster

Shoshannah

I was at university for five years, I'm going to miss it! I've spent the last three years of my course in Hertfordshire and throughout that time I've lived with my boyfriend (who has a full time job) in our flat.

I start a new job in Staffordshire on Monday so we'll be moving up there. I was thrilled to be given the chance to move to a lovely rural area (short drive from Peak District) and out of Hertfordshire. Hertfordshire is expensive, full of traffic and my car got stolen.

But now it's starting to hit me and I realise I have become quite attached to the place, and I'm really going to miss my little flat!

power100

I left a couple of years ago and really miss the whole university experience. It is basically total freedom and having to get a full time job, when you leave, is a massive shock to the system especially if you are a lazy git like me.

I am actually working for my self now, which offers a lot more freedom than being an employee, but it still does not compare to uni. It is not possible to just drop everything and go out with your mates or if you do you end up losing money and feeling guilty.

MORPH3US

Shoshannah wrote: »

I start a new job in Staffordshire on Monday

Welcome to my part of the country :T