very angry!

tipsychick

Hi Lukemed1

I agree with you that it surely would have been better just to mention the problem to you face to face. There would have been no need even to knock on your door - I'd have just "accidentally" bumped into you on the landing and mentioned it!

Not sure how many neighbours you have but presumably it can only be those directly above, below or to the side of you who have complained. I think that shows a certain mindset and you might not have heard the last of this!

If you haven't already posted it, I'd consider sending the letter direct to the management company but copying in those neighbours that are likely to have made the complaint. I think I'd want whoever it was to know that you are in fact a reasonable person, capable of drafting a well worded letter (just in case they're thinking of legal action in the future!) and are aware of their noise too!

looby75

sarah_elton wrote:

Agree completely. Also, the irritation should be directed to the neighbour, not the m'ment company. They will respond to a complaint if they get one. By moaning to them that your neighbour didn't come to you direct, you're doing exactly the same thing.

But the OP doesn't know which neighbour it is that complained about the noise, so he really doesn't have much choice but to reply via the management co does he.

I live in a semi with very thin walls. My neighbours have built a rather large conservatory, well actually it's more like a half brick half glass extension along the back of their house, they use it as a sitting room and when ever they have their tv or stereo on they may as well have it on in the garden for all the soundproofing the extension has. I haven't complained though as I'm sure they get sick of hearing me shouting at the kids or the kids fighting with each other for hours at a time too lol

Oh and our bedrooms adjoin (not sure if that's the right word, the houses mirror eachother so we share the same wall). I have been woken up in the early hours many a time to the sounds of enthusiastic intimate relations. I'm single at the moment but if I do ever meet anyone new I will make sure the neighbours are out before I get jiggy in the bedroom

hazeyj

looby75 wrote:

But the OP doesn't know which neighbour it is that complained about the noise, so he really doesn't have much choice but to reply via the management co does he.

But as he was unaware he was making excessive noise then all the other residents will be unaware also. So if he wrote a friendly note to all residents saying that he has been informed he was making noise but was unaware that he was doing so and ask that all other residents bear this in mind when going about their daily business. Eveyones happy then.

jazzyjustlaw

It doesnt necessarily go hand in hand that other neighbours hear excessive noise. Only the person above me is aware of the ones that cause a nuisance to me and they are above him. My next door neighbour shouts and goes just like most mums and that doesnt bother me as its in the day.

If OP has someone below him its prob them that complained.

hazeyj

jazzyjustlaw wrote:

It doesnt necessarily go hand in hand that other neighbours hear excessive noise. Only the person above me is aware of the ones that cause a nuisance to me and they are above him. My next door neighbour shouts and goes just like most mums and that doesnt bother me as its in the day.

If OP has someone below him its prob them that complained.

I meant that if another person in one flat can hear noise then all residents will hear noise from their neighbours to some degree, so making all residnets aware of the fact that the building is not well sound proofed might encourage all residents to think of others.

In flats most people forget that they they have to think of others.

jazzyjustlaw

hazeyj wrote:

I meant that if another person in one flat can hear noise then all residents will hear noise from their neighbours to some degree, so making all residnets aware of the fact that the building is not well sound proofed might encourage all residents to think of others.

In flats most people forget that they they have to think of others.

I didnt mean any offence just my other neighbours claim not to hear them - anyway its a t shaped block as opposed to the usual.

hazeyj

jazzyjustlaw wrote:

I didnt mean any offence just my other neighbours claim not to hear them - anyway its a t shaped block as opposed to the usual.

None taken, I think my reply came across as a bit stroppy. I was just editing the post then!

sarah_elton

meanmachine wrote:

Surely "DIY fanatic" and mental health issues go hand in hand?

OK, now I'm confused. Safe bets appear to be very recent new builds with concrete floors and walls and 200 year old houses made from granite.

Anything built in the 198 years between those two dates are to be avoided like the plague.

I live in a purpose built 1980s flat, put up by the wonderful Wimpey.

I'm now top floor. When I was renting one in the same development, I was first floor (in the middle). Noise comes down where I am, but never up (unless someone really is jack hammering or having a full blown nightclub in their lounge). So for instance when I rented I could faintly hear the neighbours upstairs washing machine spinning. That was about all though.

We have concrete floors, which yes, are great. And I haven't seen a flat here yet where someone's changed the carpet to laminate.

Our buildings are very well designed, in that there's 2 flats per floor and hallways in the middle. The only wall that adjoins my neighbour on my floor is one side of my 2nd bedroom. Beware blocks with adjoining lounges for instance.

To be honest unless you're in detached there is a always a risk that someone noisy will move in. By renting where I am first, I learned that it's just never noisy round here. It's mainly young working couples, with a few elderly people thrown in.

mishkanorman

our old house was in the middle of three others and on the odd occasion we could hear them sneezing and yawning !! they also frequently made a "joke" out of the fact they claimed that every time my husband went up or down stairs they had to straighten the pictures. Adding to that though they also later claimed it must have been me as they heard it when my husband was out one day, at the time i was nine months pregnant and huge, and just about crawled up the bloomin things.

To the OP perhaps if you knocked on your immediate neighbours doors and said that you had received a letter from the management company and was extremely upset to think you may have disturbed them in such a way and that you would from now on be aware of the noise you made. Its a bit of sucking up but its good PR on your part and will help no end if things go any further.

also think some people on here have mis read your meanings in your posts and been a bit unfair towards you !


mishka

dander

I used to live in a 1950s purpose built flat - it was very solidly built. I couldn't really hear anything from the other people. The only noise that did travel was the sound of the chap upstairs having a wee.