Alcohol self help thread II

No_self_control

Hi everyone

Just wanted to pop in before I go to bed to say thanks to you all again and to let you know that today was better and I'm stone cold sober right now

Sorry I haven't replied to any of you who pm'ed me last night and today, I've tried to keep myself really really busy today and haven't been online much. I do appreciate all you lot have done to support me and I've just re read my posts from last night. OMG I think i type more eloquently when I'm drunk than I do when I'm sober :eek: (not really)

Anyway I'm off to bed. so night night everyone

and thanks again :T :T :T :T :T :T

mariauk

Night , Night Selfie

Thanks for popping in, Glad you had a good day :T :T :T :A

Catch you tomorrow

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mariauk

Oh GP How unlady like :eek:

harrie_2

nite nite all glad today was good selfie :A :A :A

RacyRed

I think someone lost something!

Is this yours too?

grex9101

Ok, first time poster on this thread, so go easy on me (!)
Been a lurker for a while, trying to get in the know on the disease (and don't flame me but i'm still not convinced that it is)...
I'll elaborate:

Both my mother and my mothers' father were (are?) alcoholics. Mothers father died three years ago in june of a stroke aged 74 approx (possibly alcohol related, i don't know).
My mother always had, what i thought, were alcoholic tendencies, certainly binge drinking friday/saturday nights, and at least a bottle of wine to herself Thursdays/Sundays (part of the weekend, dont'cha know...).
So, growing up, you could say I was exposed to alcoholism a fair bit (mothers second husband was a confirmed alcoholic, had to go to "dry out" at various places over the five or so years they were together). I always thought that being exposed to the dangers of alcohol would make me less likely to fall into the trap myself.
My house was, and still is, full of alcohol. Staying with my parents, there was always a box of wine in the fridge, a decanter of cognac in the display unit thing, masses of gin/whisky/vodka/rum in the pantry and various beers/liquers kicking about as well. Anyways, to cut a long story short, mother kicked me during one of her drunken binges, and I haven't spoken to her since. Any time I have seen her, she's ventured into a pub where i've been and drunkenly shouted my name at me in an attempt to get talking, but i refuse to acknowledge her when she doesn't make any attempt when she's sober.
I still can't quite forgive her for the time she raided my bedroom and stole the Krug champagne that i had been given as a present by someone very special and had been saving for an occasion - found her passed out on my bed, she had drank it straight from the bottle. Not only that, but she also managed to obliterate all the other stuff i had brought back from various holidays in just a few days. I shudder to think what she found before she got to the drink-not that i had anything major to hide, but privacy is privacy.

anyway

Sitting typing this, i'm aware that no less than twenty feet away in my own flat, there are at least 40 litres of spirits and liquers sitting there in my OWN house, not to mention the beer sitting beside me (on my fifth stella).

I dunno, I guess i'm just looking for some reassurance that i won't "inherit" the same problems that my forebears have had. Certainly, I can go (and do) for days without a drink. But conversely, I can go for a month without a "dry" day. Mostly i'm with friends, but I sometimes (like tonight) just stay up 'til early morning, surfing the net or whatever, with a few beers for company. My girlfriend works 9-5, as do most of my friends. I work shifts, so I'm totally awake at times when everyone else is asleep.

Just worried I suppose, and I can't fully justify why, other than that I can see what damage alcohol can do.
By the by, I don't drink anything stronger than wine/baileys as vodka/whisky etc turns me into a total psycho-i do realise that alcohol is still alcohol though.

any comments appreciated. thanks

ac

hi grex :hello: & welcome to this thread......

well done you for posting :grouphug:

no one can say or judge you if you have an aclcohol problem....

its all down to you xxxx

take a step back...

do you think you have somekind of alcohol problem......????

you have to answer the question truthfully to begin the next step xxxxx

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hi guys :wave: ...........................

tiss 5 18 in the a.m. and im upto my old tricks ! ............

well at least i aint got a school run to do ....


(i would normally say 'sorry', but i no it wouldnt count)

be good, and keep fighting the fight xxxxxxxxxx



please dont hold it against me xx

susiesaver

Hi Grex and welcome, Hi ac

Grex, well done for getting up the courage to post, it also took me ages and I have just had my second dry day. Coming on here and getting all the support and help from these guys has given me the strength to get this far. I have to say I'm finding it very hard but hanging in there just now. Your family history sounds very like mine and it's really hard having lived with an alcoholic parent and seeing ourselves doing the same thing. We are all here for you grex, good times and bad so once again, welcome.

Ac, course we don't hold it against you. We are allin same boat - hugs to you.

mariauk

Mornin` Shirl and Susie :hello:

How you both doing?

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Morning Al, you feeding the GPig`s?

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Al_Mac

Hi Grex

Agree with others, you have to decide if you have a problem, I think you do, it isn't of your making, nurture and society are doing it to us.

Talking about having a problem is a first step. Where you go from there is up to you.

Doctor is supposed to be a good start, some have their own counsellors, others just have contact numbers. I picked the works help line. I couldn't do AA.

You may find alcoholism is just a symptom of other things, people keep banging on about my low self worth, I only feel low when I'm drinking, or just after.

Look at your drinking patters, I hit a stage when I was having the morning sip and the lunchtime slurp, had to do something.

Its going to be hard, look at yourself, what you do and why you do it. If there is a friend to talk to, talk, find someone.

Not wanting to hurt or offend anyone here, this thread isn't a cure, it helps, but you probably do need other help.

Have a good day all, breakfast, shower, then off to get car fixed, I hope. Wish it would stop raining.

Just happily out my sig back up to 2, not been that for a week:j