Should I inform the DWP that my bf's ex is working whilst claiming benefits?

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

I recently had a home visit by the customer compliance team as someone (I think it was my bf's ex) had reported that my bf was living with me (he isn't & the DWP have agreed).

Imagine my suprise when my bf brought his daughter round at the w/end & his ex phoned to ask him to bring her back late as she had to work when she is also on benefits.

I was furious & im so tempted to report her but would this just be tit for tat?

What would you do?

(Btw I wasn't sure whether to post this here or on the discussion board.)

bestpud

I work and legitimately claim IS, HB and CTB, so it may not be fraud.

If it is, then yes, report her:

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/MoneyTaxAndBenefits/BenefitsTaxCreditsAndOtherSupport/BenefitFraud/DG_10014876

alwaysonthego_2

I think you need to think of the child in all of this who will suffer from this situation. I hate benefit cheats, but before you try and seek your revenge think of the little girl.

You need to get your facts right first though!

Jomo

If she is cheating then it was very stupid of her to report you and then let you and your boyfriend know she was working whilst claiming benefits.

I would wait until you know for sure that it isn't legit, as you know.....it's not nice being 'dobbed in' for something that isn't true and it is also wasting the authorities time as well.

Jomo

alwaysonthego wrote: »

I think you need to think of the child in all of this who will suffer from this situation. I hate benefit cheats, but before you try and seek your revenge think of the little girl.

You need to get your facts right first though!

I agree it's always the children who suffer but they will only suffer more when the cheat is found out....

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

alwaysonthego wrote: »

I think you need to think of the child in all of this who will suffer from this situation. I hate benefit cheats, but before you try and seek your revenge think of the little girl.

You need to get your facts right first though!

Thats the reason I havent so far, she also has 2 other kids altho the eldest is 21& on benefits.

The mum was working up until a few months ago when she was sacked from the taxi firm she worked at.

Apparently she has been filling in when they are short staffed.

She told my bf on Sunday when he took his daughter back that they want her back but she would rather sunbathe.

alwaysonthego_2

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

Thats the reason I havent so far, she also has 2 other kids altho the eldest is 21& on benefits.

The mum was working up until a few months ago when she was sacked from the taxi firm she worked at.

Apparently she has been filling in when they are short staffed.

She told my bf on Sunday when he took his daughter back that they want her back but she would rather sunbathe.

If she is cheating the system you do need to report her, but as mentioned before you need to be sure of the facts first!

Jomo

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

Thats the reason I havent so far, she also has 2 other kids altho the eldest is 21& on benefits.

The mum was working up until a few months ago when she was sacked from the taxi firm she worked at.

Apparently she has been filling in when they are short staffed.

She told my bf on Sunday when he took his daughter back that they want her back but she would rather sunbathe.

This is the type that give people on benefits a bad name!!!

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

alwaysonthego wrote: »

If she is cheating the system you do need to report her, but as mentioned before you need to be sure of the facts first!

Maybe I should just let it go then, I think she is working cash in hand but I can't prove it.

My bf thinks I should as he obviously knows her better than me & he said she has had many a bf live with her whilst on benefits as well.

I guess he doesn't want to do it himself as his daughter would be caught up in it & he would feel guilty.

Jomo

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

Maybe I should just let it go then, I think she is working cash in hand but I can't prove it.

My bf thinks I should as he obviously knows her better than me & he said she has had many a bf live with her whilst on benefits as well.

I guess he doesn't want to do it himself as his daughter would be caught up in it & he would feel guilty.

Was she thinking about her daughter when she 'dobbed in' you and the father?

That's the thing you see, these decisions aren't necessarily made to improve their kids lives...just so they can go off and sun bathe....

So yes, sounds like she 'has it coming' if you ask me!

Tarja

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

Maybe I should just let it go then, I think she is working cash in hand but I can't prove it.

My bf thinks I should as he obviously knows her better than me & he said she has had many a bf live with her whilst on benefits as well.

I guess he doesn't want to do it himself as his daughter would be caught up in it & he would feel guilty.

Seems to me your boyfriend is playing you off against each other.

Your decision to let it go seems wise. There is unfinished relationship power play at hand.