Ex leaving Scotland for Finland

Gailo

what do I do to ensure he supports his son?
Ex has worked out that moving from Scotland will give him the fresh start he needs, after years spent avoiding supporting/parenting his son. Whilst I and his son want him to move on and be happy, this move will mean more avoidance, he has so far disappeared from his address/job to avoid his responsibilities, purposely lost a job, and done so many other things to avoid the mess he's created.
I have read that there are agreements in place between EU governments, and Finland is one of the countries covered, but the company he will be working for is not British, and I believe he will move homes/identity to avoid being caught up with, as this is what has happened all along. I seemed more able to find out about his job/wages previously than the CSA did.
Is there anything I can put in place prior to his leaving the country to ensure less mess occurs this time than has with all his other previous actions?
He has stated that he will leave no belongings or property in this country.
Despite at the moment living within walking distance of his son, he makes no effort to establish or maintain contact, and hasn't for the past three years. He changes his mobile number constantly, and makes himself impossible to contact or get hold of.

DUTR

If there is a remo agreement for Finland then you should be ok, good luck with seeking financial support for his son.

Gailo

Apparently there is an agreement with Finland, will happily accept your good luck!

Zara33

Finland is on the REMO list.

http://www.csa.gov.uk/en/case/remo.asp#jump-f

CMAC_2

You need to get court order first before REMO can get involved. But if you sure he is leaving there is no reason why you should not apply to the courts before he goes

Gailo

Will do. Do they have much success once they are involved?

Zara33

Gailo wrote: »

Will do. Do they have much success once they are involved?

No experience of REMO, but i guess you will have a hard slog!

Gailo

That does seem to be true, I'm sure it will all work out in the end (which is exactly the kind of optimism that got me here!).

Zara33

Gailo wrote: »

That does seem to be true, I'm sure it will all work out in the end (which is exactly the kind of optimism that got me here!).

Good luck keep us posted how things go, IIRC playhardhall (another poster here) is going through exactly the same, maybe you can both keep each other informed.

Gailo

Getting things on the move more now, getting lawyer/courts side of things fixed, am prepared to be in this for the long run.

Gailo

Just wondered if anyone knows what we can do to move things on. Our delightful now in Finland NRP has basically made himself all but impossible to contact. We don't have a phone number, he doesn't respond to emails. He disappeared from Scotland a full month before he had told people he was leaving, strangely about a week after he got his first letter from our solicitor.
He told us he had a job waiting for him when he arrived, which turned out to be false. He told us he had contacted our solicitor to advise them of his new contact details and situation, it transpires he did not.
Despite living round the corner from us pre-leaving, he did not arrange to meet and say goodbye to his son.
He left all the furniture and goods we had lent him in the rented flat he had, the lease of which he broke, so we never saw our things again.
He refused to contact the DVLA, Tax Office, Benefits or any of the agencies that were contacting us at our address, as he had given our address as his. He refused to give the tax office his correct earnings to receive the tax credits he would have been due which also would have helped towards his sons payments.
Prior to his leaving the country, for years he refused to come to a mutual agreement with us regarding maintenance, and also refused to have any dealings with the CSA. So everything had to be sorted in the most awkward, unsettling way. And it was never resolved.
It took weeks of work to even get his supposed address in Finland from him, we have no doubt that writing to him will get ignored.
If there had been arrangements in place, we would have something to tell our son, as it is, we have no idea what his biological father plans to do, let alone if he plans to support him financially in the future.
His family believe he wants to have a fresh start, which sounds fair enough, but in doing so he has ignored his responsibilities here. They have stopped talking to us, and have not seen our son or enquired about him.
It's all very lonely and disheartening, but also a struggle financially.
How to we reach any kind of agreement with someone who won't communicate?
Our solicitor is having no luck so far in hearing anything back, our case with the CSA is still open as far as we can tell, but they don't have any contact details for him, and I don't want them to close our case.
Sorry to ramble on and on, but what is our next step, if we even have one?