Food for 2 weeks for lazy 18 year old!

mae

ceebeeby wrote: »

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MAE!!!! That's not good! But you must have let him grow up thinking that that was okay? Will not be sharing that with kids in the morning who will be helping do the weeding and gardening tomorrow, helping wash the cars, help with the laundry etc. (but they will get generous pocket money and be finished in time to go out with friends before you think slavery has come back into the ceebeeby house!):D

I know but in my defence I have tried I don't make it easy for him but he is so lazy he will wash up and if I ask again he says I did it the other day (translate to last week).

He can cook because I have encouraged him over the years but he has no motivation to cook he just wants something that jumps into his hand otherwise he says theres nothing in :rolleyes:

He irons all his own clothes and I make him sort his washing into the right colours before I will wash it and also make him strip and make his own bed so honestly I far from do everything for him.

He just has the laziest 'attitude' I have ever come across so I begrudge buying loads of luxuries while I go away so he can lie around doing as little as possible.

I think the recipe book and ask what he is going to make plus the basics like jacket potatoes, chilli, tuna pasta kind of stuff is the way to go.

McKneff

Just a reminder, ladies and gents - our children are like this because we have allowed them to be

mae

McKneff wrote: »

Just a reminder, ladies and gents - our children are like this because we have allowed them to be

I agree to a point but believe me I don't do everything for him, I only let him get away with so much hence why I am thinking carefully about what I am going to do about food while I am away.

I will not leave him any spending money because he is obviously not that bothered about money or he would work for it.

PasturesNew

Co-op frozen microwave oven chips. Cheap and really lovely (moist/not stick-like). 7 bags (1Kg/bag)
Pot Noodles - 2 trays should do it.

Job done.

Patchwork_Quilt

Beans are pretty instant. So are tins of soup. If he doesn't use them they will come in useful when you get back.

Leave some fruit. My son likes bananas. He also drinks a lot of milk. Chocolate biscuits go down well. You could leave a cake to slice up. Fruit cake and cheese is almost a meal. Also, those packets of filled fresh pasta last a while in the fridge and only take a couple of minutes to prepare

Could you persuade your son to cook with you, before you go? Make a couple of home-made 'ready' meals and stick them in the freezer.

Doom_and_Gloom

Wow mai I do feel sorry for you for having such a bone-idle son. My parents went on holiday not that long ago for just over 2 weeks and were able to trust my partner and I with £60 for all the food we needed to buy and another £60 incase something happened to the dog (we gave that back as nothing happened). We do pay keep so the money given was our share of the food money as it is (£15/week each). We budgeted so well we were able to treat ourselves to a takeaway, something I'm geussing your son wouldn't be able to do .

With regards to your son I would be cautious about leaving any fresh items that could easily go off because of forgetting about them due to the waste of money. Think about freezer/can/jar/packet items that will reduce waste and therefore keep money waste down. Microwavable pizzas are a good idea in this case but oven would be prefered (usually cheaper) if he can wait 10-15 mins . 'Meals' that come in cans only take around 3 mins in the microwave so would suit him. Leave some bread in the freezer so he can take out slices when he needs them to toast (beans on toast, spaghetti on toast etc). I know it's not that nutritionally sound and rather bland this way but if he really wants anything better while you are away he will just have to hand over the money himself! If he doesn't want to that's his own doing.

By all means leave a relative/close friend etc with some emergency (sp?) money but do not leave it with him! Leave him the basic needs for him for the time you are away, it may make him realise that life is not as easy as he once thought.

gizmo111

Pesonally I would leave him nothing as he can't be bothered to work, however its still your son whatever his faults and I doubt you would feel easy leaving him with nothing. To compromise I would be inclined to leave him £50 for 2 weeks which would be roughly the amount he would have to spend on food if he were surviving on benefits. He can then shop and cook as he sees fit and no doubt you have stuff in the cupboards and freezer, and maybe some relatives, grandparents etc nearby who wouldn't let him starve!

Alikay

My eldest son is 18 too, and also bone idle when it comes to food preparation. He'll zap a ready meal if desperately hungry, but that'll be it....a plain ready meal straight out of the plastic dish with no veggies (even though I always have bags of steam-fresh in which are a doddle!). He'll open a can of rice pud or custard and eat the lot cold, or a bowl of cereal but that's about as "Jamie Oliver" as he gets.

He moved away to London to start a new job a few weeks ago, and is coping OK - when we visited, his bedsit was tidy and smelt OK, he's keeping himself and clothes clean, managing his money and getting to work on time. He knows about healthy eating, but you can take a horse to water.......

I'd be inclined to leave the house without making any special effort for your son's catering - if he's hungry he'll sort something out or go to the chippy with his pocket money. He won't starve, and if he's off to uni in a few weeks the practice will be good for him!

Bronnie

I don't think I'd be stressing about this just before I went on holiday. I'd be too busy deciding on my holiday wardrobe, researching the place I'm going, wrapping things up at work, getting my hair and nails done, generally being a little bit selfish in anticipation of my well-earned break!

TBH he doesn't sound a particularly unusual 18year old to me (apart from ironing his clothes and sorting his washing into 'colours'...I reckon that's pretty unusual!!)

Do you really believe most 18year old boys are going to cook chicken fillets from scratch for themselves much while parents are away? Certainly few that I know! I would just put cheap and cheerful tins in the cupboard as suggested. Cheap frozen pizzas and sliced bread for toast in the freezer and cheese in the fridge. Apples in the fruit bowl and away you go, parental responsibility met!

If he's got pocket money, he's probably going to get chips, maybe bum meals at friends houses if he's smart!

Personally, I wouldn't go away and leave him without an emergency amount of money stashed somewhere , unless he had other adults close by to call on in an emergency.

Have a lovely holiday and come back nice and relaxed.......and on the journey home, promise yourself that NOTHING will spoil that feeling....not even the state of the house and garden!:D

JoolzS

I find this type of post incredibly amusing. This eighteen year old living in your house didn't suddenly hatch out of an egg.

I suggest you leave him enough money to indulge in pizzas, chinese and indian take-aways and as many kebabs as he wants.

You created the monster - now you have to feed it when you go away; and probably for another ten years or so. Don't feel shocked that he can't cook - you failed to teach him!

Julie