family - feh! who'd have 'em!

*Louise*

You will need a list though eventually - they have a point there (although I think you have PLENTY time!)

Maybe quickly writing one up so they have an idea of what you want would be an easy way to get them off your case?

Yellowbug

thing is i do have a list, its in my wedding book...which also has all my notes etc in it
and i have a spread sheet for costs etc

they just want to know everything lol


they are apparently worried i will get to the day and realise i have forgoteen something....but my point is that if i have gotten to the day without thinking of this thing then its obviously not important to me

Every now and again i mention something i have done/bought for the wedding and they are like ooohhh so you have done something then..........bloody cheek lol

gettingthereslowly

I really feel for you - I went through all this when I was arranging my wedding. My motto, said tongue in cheek, was "why offend one when you can offend them all" :rolleyes:

I was continually told that I was not taking things seriously enough and that everyone wants to help but I always responded with "what is important to us has been dealt with and everything else is either being thought about or not wanted"

I also continually reminded everyone that the Ceremony and us actually getting married was the single most important thing about the day and that everything else was just icing on the cake - this also kept us sane throughout when planning and in the lead up to the wedding as it was putting things into perspective (yes a room filled with balloons and pretty table arrangments may look fab but will it really make the day any more special!!!!!)

I'm sure with mothers and mother in laws that they want to plan your day as theirs because they could not do their own!!!! Hope that makes sense :rotfl:

paulies_nixie

Thanks guys - nice to knwo I'm not the only one that's going through it.

And to make matters worse in a "it never rains but it pours" kinda way. Paulie has just been told his job is "at risk" Oh joy, redundancy. Triffic. Wedding plans on hold - plan C is how to pay the mortgage :rotfl: Ech! we'll cross that bridge when we come to it!

(I'm still gonna look at dresss-ies dont cost nothing to window shop )

nat82

I've made OH promise to shoot me if I end up being like that with my own kids!!! Lol!

SmlSave

Hi everyone and ((hugs)) too :-)

Paulies_nixie, I take it the date you want is special in some way to you? Is it important enough to put it forward/off a year? Same with the venue venue you want.

I'm uber praticial and couldn't have either the date or venue I really wanted but am steaming ahead anyway The way I've thought about it is is that the date will be special because I'm getting married on it and my now venue (whilst not as pretty and perfect) is much more friendly and affordable.

Gosh, I sound like I'm preaching sorry. I guess what I'm trying to say is that only you and your OH can decide what the most important things are and you should stick with them.

Re the family: IMO a) you can be blunt and make it clear that its your day and you will be organising it. b) be polite, listen to everyone and have chats with them to explain what you're thinking c) pick out bits that you're happy for your family to deal with and give them guidlines and ask for their help so they feel involved d) elope

I'm sure there's more letters in the alphabet...but I've run out of ideas...help, help....

Try and stick to your guns Nix I bet you'll never guess which a-d option I went with! :rotfl:

SmlSave

Just read your post about redundancy being on the cards. Extra big ((HUGS)) to you both

floss2

paulies_nixie wrote: »

(I'm still gonna look at dresss-ies dont cost nothing to window shop )

You could always start a wedding-dress fund by selling on Ebay, keeping the proceeds in a Paypal account. Then find your dream dress and order it from Landy

LabLover

oh dear thats not good about your OH's job. My OH lost his job last year and since then he has only had bits and pieces of work(he is now self employed) , but its amazing how you cope and how much more you appreciate things. We are still going ahead with wedding , it wont be flash by any means , it will be simple and classy ,and more importantly MSE style :money: lol.

paulies_nixie

Thanks guys

Wedding is still almost two years away. He best have another job by then :rotfl:
I'm sure when I was made redundant a few years back, it was just - sling yer hook - I dont think I was ever told I was "at risk" apparently we all find out officially Thursday. Is it daft to hold on to a ray of hope that it's only a risk and not final? Feh!

Anyway - Ebay wedding dress fund - good plan. I've seen some beautiful dresses for about £90 including shipping. I'm sure I could do exactly what was suggested Got a fair bit of "stuff" I need to clear out. Was gonna send it down to the charity shop. It's all lovely I mean there's a one piece set of bike leathers in the spare room - Loud colours, never been worn, a too big ball gown which I'm never gonna have the occasion to wear again etc etc LOL you've certainly got me thinking

And it's us getting together thats important. Hell we could get married in a pretty registry office, have a family meal and do the blessing bit when we can afford it.

I just want to be Mrs Paulie. Thats the most important thing.

His Mum has offered to pay towards it but I'm scared of it not being my ideas even more then. And I'd feel mega guilty

Urrgghhh always something going on isnt there I thought the wedding would be enough drama :rotfl: