Can I stop money going into my account?

JimBlizz

If he knows you were struggling this month and the children depend on you - could it be intended to help with the kids? It might imply he knows you cannot pay it back immediately.

MumOf2

Hi Alison

How about setting up an easy access savings account, and then drip feed it as and when you can - if it was him who credited your account and he then asks for it back, you'll have some in there to give him. If any more arrives in your main account just put it straight into the savings account if you can.

Does it not say on the bank statement/online who the originator was? Usually there's a reference which should tell you who/where it came from.

MumOf2

littlemrtinkle

how about just asking him? If the money is not intended for you better to own up, sooner rather than later because he could get his bank to come after you for the money.

johnmoney05

Well, you have his bank account details. Send it back online, can't you? If that is what you want? Or you just want to keep it. Then better just use it and forget it....

Fire_Fox

alison18671 wrote: »

Are you saying that it's a case of doing the 'right/decent' thing? - He def wouldnt have sent money through remorse etc, no chance, its def a mistake - i am absolutely sure, but at the time i had an overdraft in minus minus, so was desperate, and the money eased a bad period, now i am real concerned, i do have a conscience even for an ex, but cant afford to give it back - least not at the moment.
Was £600 that was paid.
I find it real damn hard to be able to think that someone wouldnt notice £600 disappearing out of an account especially when hes not flush u know.

Alison

Have you spent all of it? If so you obviously did that knowingly. Either he isn't as broke as he is telling you, or he meant to pay that £600 to someone else and is now in debt to the other person. If you don't own up he will eventually find out and stop child support, and you will be in a bigger mess financially. Better to say you just noticed and can you pay back at, say £60 a month.

Extant

Fire_Fox wrote: »

Have you spent all of it? If so you obviously did that knowingly. Either he isn't as broke as he is telling you, or he meant to pay that £600 to someone else and is now in debt to the other person. If you don't own up he will eventually find out and stop child support, and you will be in a bigger mess financially. Better to say you just noticed and can you pay back at, say £60 a month.

I may be wrong, but is child support not paid to the Child Support Agency, which then forwards it on to the parent? If so, I doubt you can just "stop" paying it without recourse, regardless of the situation.

Fire_Fox

BarclaysManager wrote: »

I may be wrong, but is child support not paid to the Child Support Agency, which then forwards it on to the parent? If so, I doubt you can just "stop" paying it without recourse, regardless of the situation.

Only if you don't have a private arrangement to pay directly.

jadex

How can money be claimed back by someone who logged in into his account, filled in all the required details of receiver, clicked submit and then confirmed payment (maybe even by card reader)? As for my liking too many steps to say it was a mistake. Am I missing something here?
On top of that he is a father of OP's child.
Don't parents give presents to their kids? Is it so unusual to be worry about?
I'd get kid to send him a "Thank You, Daddy" letter rather than returning money.

Fire_Fox

jadex wrote: »

How can money be claimed back by someone who logged in into his account, filled in all the required details of receiver, clicked submit and then confirmed payment (maybe even by card reader)? As for my liking too many steps to say it was a mistake. Am I missing something here?

My internet banking has a list of account numbers I have previously transferred money to - I click the one I want, type in the amount and click confirm. If you clicked the wrong account in the first place ...

dzug1

MumOf2 wrote: »

Does it not say on the bank statement/online who the originator was? Usually there's a reference which should tell you who/where it came from.

MumOf2

Only if the originator of the payment fills that field in when sending it


And Alison - no the bank cannot refuse to accept payments in