divorce

caris

Hi

I would like some advise on behalf of our would be son-in-law please.

He was with his ex for 14 years, they had meet whilst still at school, they had been married for 4 years. Two years into the marriage he came home one day and found her in bed with another man, after this they continued to share the house but not as a a married couple for a further 2 years, until one day she just walked out. They sold the house they had bought together the money was split 50/50, she had virtrually everything from the house including the car except the bed, tv, dvd player, sky plus remote (although she took the sky box), and his computer.

Whilst they were married he fully supported her money wise whilst she studied at college to be a nurse, since they split he has found out that she managed to save over £5000 during their marriage, yet she was not earning any money.

They have now been apart just over 2 years and he wants a divorce, but if possible without bearing the full cost, what would be his best option to go about this?

thanks
caris

Pee

The divorce will cost a few hundred quid. Sound like everything financial sorted already, so he could do this himself through the court. Why wind up trouble over a couple of hundred pounds? You can use two years apart with consent as the grounds.

He is entitled to half of the £5,000 but I doubt he can prove it or would ever get it.

never_enough

You can do it very cheaply by just filling out the forms from the court. There is no real need to involve a solicitor which wd just ramp up costs. He could ask his ex for a contribution towards the divorce, but if she says no what's he going to do, stay married?

Theoretically he should get a share of the money saved, but I'm sure it would end up costing as much in legal fees (that wd need a solicitor). Suggest he walks away from it & gets on with his life.

[Pee types faster than I do!]

caris

Hi

Thanks for the replies, how much will it cost through the court and how does he find out this information, would it be just a case of going to a court and asking? as he has a full time job and we dont have a local court.

caris

Pee

I am sure that you do have a local court. The best place to start is the website. HMCS (Her Majesty's Court Service.) They will have the contact details. He can phone in a lunch time and get the forms have a go at filling them in ring again if any queries, have another go, ring again if still stuck and then take them in one day with the court fee.

never_enough

caris wrote: »

Hi

Thanks for the replies, how much will it cost through the court and how does he find out this information, would it be just a case of going to a court and asking? as he has a full time job and we dont have a local court.

caris

You want a County Court for the forms, they'll post them to you if you phone, or you can just call in.

Cost about £340 in total.

More info here...

http://www.hmcourts-service.gov.uk/infoabout/divorce/index.htm


And again Pee beat me to it~hmphhhh! ;0)))

Pee

Ah, but you gave a link to the website, much better than my suggestion!

celyn90

You can print the forms off the website - you need a D8. The accompanying notes are on the website and it's best to read them before you fill it in

http://www.hmcourts-service.gov.uk/HMCSCourtFinder/GetFormsCat.do?court_forms_category=divorce


It's best to ask her if she'll consent though as you don't want the ensuing mess if she doesn't co-operate, trust me.

I would also get a solicitor to look over it before you send it in. cel x

never_enough

Pee wrote: »

Ah, but you gave a link to the website, much better than my suggestion!

Oh well...I guess I wont stomp anymore then!

Pee

If there is any suggestion of arguing about money, it would be wise to get a solicitor involved. i doubt that you will be able to get one to look over paperwork you have prepared - that is putting them to a lot of risk for which they would be charging you less than an hours work... Nice idea if you can find one who will.

celyn90

Pee wrote: »

If there is any suggestion of arguing about money, it would be wise to get a solicitor involved. i doubt that you will be able to get one to look over paperwork you have prepared - that is putting them to a lot of risk for which they would be charging you less than an hours work... Nice idea if you can find one who will.

OH got his petition checked over in a free initial appointment. She was lovely and made some alterations to it If it's fairly straight forward then you may be lucky. cel x