Wrongly Accused By Former Employer - Any Advice Please?

zzzLazyDaisy

I'm a bit concerned that you intend to set his e-mail address to ignore.

I can see why you might want to do this - if you don't receive any more e-mails you will have peace of mind, and hopefully he will get fed up and go away.

Except - you have replied to him, so he now knows your e-mail address is active, and he has wasted no time getting back to you, and thus keeping the pressure up.

If you simply put his e-add on 'ignore' this means that if he continues to e-mail you, you won't have copies for future reference should you need them later. If things escalate you will have denied yourself the evidence that you might need in order to get the police to take you seriously.

wigglebeena

That's a good point. I don't know if all spam gets deleted in your account but if so I'd follow zzzLazyDaisy's advice. I also retract my previous opinion: I think Zazen999 is right, contact the wife (without giving her your address!), put her in full possession of the facts and then WASH YOUR HANDS OF THE MATTER. You have no responsibility here and no-one can force you to respond.

Oh, and it's probably true that the cops wouldn't do anything at this stage. But it can't hurt to pass on the info, and to have him know that will be done every time he tries to get a response out of you (once you've told the wife this).

wigglebeena

Zazen999 wrote: »

No, it sounds naive. I would still go with my initial post which said

I would forward this email on to the wife and point out:

- you are not aware that they owe you wages
- you have never taken anything from their house and if they believed you had stolen something, you would have expected her to have contacted you by now
- you are not at school
- have they got someone who is perhaps younger than you who he is trying to harass, and he has got the email address wrong?

I would also state that to protect a possible minor who might be being harassed by this man, you are going to forward the email to the local constabulary for them to follow up.

But it's up to you. If you keep batting this back to him he will keep harassing you. You need to go to the wife because she was your employer not him. If she is not being copied into the email then there is something dodgy going on. You need to forward both emails to her, with the above.

You need to take the upper hand and make it clear that you are not going to be a victim. Do not keep responding to him.

They don't need to know this. You don't need to supply any potentially identifying information of any kind. If she knows already then fair enough, but you're under no obligation to give name rank and details. (And if she thinks he's grooming a schoolgirl he's really going to be in the s***).

(Zazen, I agree with most of what you say, I just think they are the ones who should be on the back foot and explaining themselves, not OP).

pinkshoes

I would just reply calmly and politely to the email (and CC his wife), stating that you have absolutely no idea about any of the mentioned items, and have never taken anything from the house, and perhaps he has the wrong person?

Tell him that if he feels he has been burgled, he should contact the police. (if you were guilty, you wouldn't be suggesting that he contacts the police, so this will hopefully prove your innocence...).

Also ask him to clarify what wages he believes he owes you.

wigglebeena

Heaven's sake. Responding to him to tell him you won't respond to him anymore is responding to him. Plus OP doesn't have to 'prove' a damn thing. Just contact the wife and the cops and then forget this dirty sod exists, apart from collating all evidence he kindly provides.

Sorry. Dirty old gits get on my wick. I wish the OP had a couple of Mitchell style bros to go round and ask him to explain about these 'ere CDs...

Paparika

Email him back telling him that you have no idea about missing items and that perhaps he would like to speak with your husband.........(lie if you haven't a husband), don't worry if later you have to go to the police they will see why you mention a husband, for your safety that you felt scared and intimidated.

watches the emails stop immediately or they will get nasty which is when you do take this up with the police


Do make it clear to him that you are not a single female, he may back off then

mrcow

absolutelynomoney wrote: »

OK, so this is what I'm planning to do:

- Email him back to reiterate that I don't know where his items are and I can't help them with finding them. Also say that I'm not going to talk to him anymore about this.

- Set their email onto junk/ignore in my account.

- If I hear by phone from them or if he turns up at my work, I guess I put the phone down straight away or contact the police again and let them know.

Does this sound reasonable?

No!

He is essentially accusing you of theft. Call the police up and let them know. Let them deal with it. Do not respond to this guy again.

wigglebeena

wigglebeena wrote: »

They don't need to know this. You don't need to supply any potentially identifying information of any kind. If she knows already then fair enough, but you're under no obligation to give name rank and details. (And if she thinks he's grooming a schoolgirl he's really going to be in the s***).

(Zazen, I agree with most of what you say, I just think they are the ones who should be on the back foot and explaining themselves, not OP).

Which he appears to think he is. Nice. Deffo get the cops involved. Actually I should think, from that angle, they would be more than interested. Criminal offence right there.

BillTrac

From the wording can it be taken that he isn't English?

Sort of wording scam artists use. Not saying he is a scam artist, but the use of words is a bit wierd.

Just go and talk to the Police, get there advice

absolutelynomoney

BillTrac wrote: »

From the wording can it be taken that he isn't English?

Sort of wording scam artists use. Not saying he is a scam artist, but the use of words is a bit wierd.

Just go and talk to the Police, get there advice

No, they're both french.

Although he works for a big company in the city, so I was very surprised that his wording was so poor!

I'm just leaving now for work and I'm going to drop into the police station on the way, ask them whether it would be ok to bring the emails in and whether it makes sense to make a complaint at this stage. Will let you know what they say.