Wrongly Accused By Former Employer - Any Advice Please?

zzzLazyDaisy

I know this isn't the same thing, but many years ago (when I was young and green) my cat went missing. I put an advert in the local paper. A man called me to say he had found my cat - then the conversation went something like... 'Is your husband at home? Do you want to see your cat again? What's it worth to you?....'

At that point I said, 'Oh, my husband has just come in, wait a minute I'll put him on'.

The caller hung up immediately, but I was frantic - I thought this man really did have my cat. I actually phone the police who said 'ignore it, it is just a crank call' (of course)

The point is, there are some strange people out there.....

Zazen999

I would forward this email on to the wife and point out:

- you are not aware that they owe you wages
- you have never taken anything from their house and if they believed you had stolen something, you would have expected her to have contacted you by now
- you are not at school
- have they got someone who is perhaps younger than you who he is trying to harass, and he has got the email address wrong?

I would also state that to protect a possible minor who might be being harassed by this man, you are going to forward the email to the local constabulary for them to follow up.

dacouch

I agree with a previous poster, the former employer could have sent this email to you by mistake instead of someone else.

When you do reply to him using the other advice the other poster have given it could be worth also saying something to the effect of "I have no knowledge of any incidents and assume you sent this to me instead of a different former employer. I am Miss X and worked for you from X to X"

absolutelynomoney

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

I would not reply to this e-mail.

Look at the facts.....

• It is five months since you worked there and you are not aware of any money outstanding
• Normally you dealt with the wife, so if they needed to contact you, it would normally be her
• He is threatening to go to your place of work... but doesn't know where you work
• He is threatening to go to your school, but isn't aware you don;t go to school
• He is demanding the return of some items but hasn't said what they are

Do you even know that it is the husband? Do you know the husband's e-mail address? Could it be someone with access to their e-mail address who is playing a 'joke'. Could it be someone who is trying to find out where you are?

The more you tell us, the more this thing sounds highly dodgy.

I definitely would not answer the e-mail. It sounds like some sort of scam. If you answer it he will know your e-address is still active (for all he knows you might have changed your e-mail address in the last 5 months and may never have received his e-mail).

I would copy the e-mail and take it to the police. Explain everything to them - including the inconsistencies - and tell them you feel threatened and harassed.

wigglebeena wrote: »

And the minute you say, 'Well I played a couple of DVDs, maybe I put them back in the wrong cases.' he will say, 'YES you THIEF it was the DVDs give them back now or perhaps we can come to some arrangement instead and I won't go to the cops...' What a creepy ****.

Oh dear, I already emailed them back before I posted on here. I just said that I wasn't aware they owed me any money and that I hadn't stolen anything (which I haven't!). I stated that the only things in their house that I handled whilst I worked for them were the babies' toys and clothes and kitchen & cleaning/household products and equiptment (for feeding and cooking for the children and cleaning up after and for ironing).

I'm pretty sure it is the husband as I know his name and his name was in the email address. I think I am going to print it out and go to the police. I really have no idea why they would write to me and say those things after all this time! What I was really worried about, apart from him hassling my parents and trying to show up at my work, was that he might me able to get the police to search my home or something. And whilst in principle thats not a problem because I don't have anything of theirs, it still wouldn't pleasant to be under investigation and for police to be going through your possessions.

But by the sounds of what you have all posted on here, I am able to do something about this.

Zazen999

absolutelynomoney wrote: »

Oh dear, I already emailed them back before I posted on here.

Why on earth ask advice and then go and do your own thing anyway?

absolutelynomoney

Zazen999 wrote: »

Why on earth ask advice and then go and do your own thing anyway?

No no! It wasn't like that:

I emailed them back straight away after I received the email in a kind of shock to state that I didn't have any idea what they were talking about. Then afterwards I realised I could probably ask some advice on the issue and see whether I had done the right or wrong thing and see if I could do anything else. So I created the thread on here.

I've had a lot of good advice and I'm going to take it all! I'll be going to the police on Monday and if he writes another email to me, I will have more of idea of what is a sensible course of action.

rosie-lee

Do keep us updated with how you get on please.

jenhug

I am thinking he was thinking you were a teenage girl that had done a bit of babysitting in the past and he was hoping to black mail you into a bit of you know what on the quiet, dirty git.

zzzLazyDaisy

Whatever this is about, it is very strange.

Do take care, and let us know how you go on.

Zazen999

jenhug wrote: »

I am thinking he was thinking you were a teenage girl that had done a bit of babysitting in the past and he was hoping to black mail you into a bit of you know what on the quiet, dirty git.

Me too - which is why I would forward the email to the wife with the points I made earlier.