Wrongly Accused By Former Employer - Any Advice Please?

absolutelynomoney

Ok, so I had an email response from the email that I wrote when I said that I didn't know what they were talking about.

This email said that he would like to get more information about some music and recordings at least. He says he is concerned about many missing ones and could I please let him know what's going on.

Now that I know what he's lost - I still don't know anything about them!

I was planning to go to the police this lunchtime with the emails, as people have suggested here, but I was thinking yesterday that maybe going to the police is a bit drastic? What do you think? Maybe I just need a bit of encouragement - if I go to the police, what will they actually do? I don't remember ever having to go to the police for anything before.

Zazen999

absolutelynomoney wrote: »

Ok, so I had an email response from the email that I wrote when I said that I didn't know what they were talking about.

This email said that he would like to get more information about some music and recordings at least. He says he is concerned about many missing ones and could I please let him know what's going on.

Now that I know what he's lost - I still don't know anything about them!

I was planning to go to the police this lunchtime with the emails, as people have suggested here, but I was thinking yesterday that maybe going to the police is a bit drastic? What do you think? Maybe I just need a bit of encouragement - if I go to the police, what will they actually do? I don't remember ever having to go to the police for anything before.

Interesting.

Have you got a contact number for the wife? or an email address. She is your contact and my first answer applies, she should be the one contacting you if there are any issues.

I'd contact her myself, and ask her what is going on. Just as in my first response.

You really should speak to her first, to make sure she knows this is going on.

absolutelynomoney

Zazen999 wrote: »

Interesting.

Have you got a contact number for the wife? or an email address. She is your contact and my first answer applies, she should be the one contacting you if there are any issues.

I'd contact her myself, and ask her what is going on. Just as in my first response.

You really should speak to her first, to make sure she knows this is going on.

I think I have an email address for her ... I'd have to dig it out.

If it turns out I don't have her email anywhere, do you think maybe I should go over to her house to speak to her? Or is that crazy maybe.

Zazen999

absolutelynomoney wrote: »

I think I have an email address for her ... I'd have to dig it out.

If it turns out I don't have her email anywhere, do you think maybe I should go over to her house to speak to her? Or is that crazy maybe.

Can you call her? You really don't want him to answer the door.....

wigglebeena

Crazy bordering on dangerous, if he's really a perv. Are you just having a game here? Is anyone this naive?

Considering if you have her address, then you could perfectly well write a letter anyway. I would certainly go to the police at the same time, and inform her you are doing so. If he's trying it on it will give him a very nasty shock indeed just to hear you have done so.

Oh and do I need to add, not to put your own address in if you write a letter, nor send from your little village P.O. next door?

TBH I wouldn't bother contacting her, it may be extortion for money not sex, she could be in on it. Just let the cops have the details for future reference, go through your email preferences and set this dirty old git's address as spam. Put him on ignore.

But what do I know.

zzzLazyDaisy

I'd suggest phoning the wife, if you have the number (or can get it from directory enquiries, if they are not ex-directory).

It is crazy to contact you about some missing CD's 5 months after you left - for goodness sake, any number of people could have had access to them since then!

maninthestreet

I would avoid visiting the home of this man. You need to keep him at arm's length. Do not engage in any face-to-face communication with him, or his wife - it's what he wants/needs to happen for him to intimidate you further. Reply to his most recent email that you have none of his possessions, nor have you ever had any of his possessions. It's not up to you to explain to him what is going on - you are not responsible for him losing these recordings, whatever they might be. Going to the police at this point in time might be a little premature - they may consider it just a civil matter and tell you they can't help.

absolutelynomoney

OK, so this is what I'm planning to do:

- Email him back to reiterate that I don't know where his items are and I can't help them with finding them. Also say that I'm not going to talk to him anymore about this.

- Set their email onto junk/ignore in my account.

- If I hear by phone from them or if he turns up at my work, I guess I put the phone down straight away or contact the police again and let them know.

Does this sound reasonable?

maninthestreet

absolutelynomoney wrote: »

OK, so this is what I'm planning to do:

- Go to the police this lunchtime with the emails, tell them the situation and details.

- Find out their address and write a letter to them (I really don't want to talk to either of them on the phone! And although I can find my way to their house, I don't know the building number or postcode.) Actually, maybe I shouldn't write a letter - what more can I say in it except that I don't know what's going on?! And if I address it just to the wife, as though she doesn't know what her husband is doing, then in essence I am accusing him of ulterior motives towards me, which is more hassle and accusations flying around.

- Set their email onto junk/ignore in my account.

- If I hear by phone from them or if he turns up at my work, I guess I put the phone down straight away or contact the police again and let them know.

Does this sound reasonable?

Don't speak to either of them. Reply to his latest email that you have none of his possessions, and you cannot help him further. Going to the police is a little premature at the moment.

Zazen999

absolutelynomoney wrote: »

OK, so this is what I'm planning to do:

- Email him back to reiterate that I don't know where his items are and I can't help them with finding them. Also say that I'm not going to talk to him anymore about this.

- Set their email onto junk/ignore in my account.

- If I hear by phone from them or if he turns up at my work, I guess I put the phone down straight away or contact the police again and let them know.

Does this sound reasonable?

No, it sounds naive. I would still go with my initial post which said

I would forward this email on to the wife and point out:

- you are not aware that they owe you wages
- you have never taken anything from their house and if they believed you had stolen something, you would have expected her to have contacted you by now
- you are not at school
- have they got someone who is perhaps younger than you who he is trying to harass, and he has got the email address wrong?

I would also state that to protect a possible minor who might be being harassed by this man, you are going to forward the email to the local constabulary for them to follow up.

But it's up to you. If you keep batting this back to him he will keep harassing you. You need to go to the wife because she was your employer not him. If she is not being copied into the email then there is something dodgy going on. You need to forward both emails to her, with the above.

You need to take the upper hand and make it clear that you are not going to be a victim. Do not keep responding to him.