Kids father staying with me for 3 months? How will this affect benefit?

carerof3

I was told, when a friend moved in after leaving his wife, that if we weren't actually sleeping together (he had his own room) and he wasn't contributing to the household, other than paying for his own expenses, then he didn't count as a partner.

AndysDad

Teahfc wrote: »

Can scrape together money for an air ticket and enough funds to stay in the UK for 2-3 months yet cannot pay any money towards his Children

Even a few ££££'s per month would help surely ?

AND a part owner in the business.

dmg24

carerof3 wrote: »

I was told, when a friend moved in after leaving his wife, that if we weren't actually sleeping together (he had his own room) and he wasn't contributing to the household, other than paying for his own expenses, then he didn't count as a partner.

That is a far too simplified explanation. Each case would be judged on its merits. Personally, I would be dubious of the situation the OP has described, but it is ultimately up to the JCP DM.

HopeAndDriftWood

This thread isn't to debate whether he should pay maintenance, it's about whether he can stay.

Tell them, and I'm pretty sure it'd be fine as long as he is not going to claim benefits, contribute to the family finances or share your bed. Don't keep it from them though, as they will find out, and then they will stop all of your benefits and you'll have a much harder time convincing them of anything then, as they'll be wondering why you kept it from them if it's all above board.

If you are still worried, phone the benefits advisor at your local CAB.

Teahfc

Sorry but I am hoping it would encourage the opening poster to ask for some help from her childrens farther rather than be fed some BS about how he cannot afford to pay,I think it is great he is comeing to see the childrfen but would be even more pleased if he would put his hand in his pocket and help the OP with bringing the children up fiancially and not have to rely on benefits.
We all have thoughts about absent parents and as taxpayers having to fund families that are victims of non paying fathers/mothers but sure as hell if I was in her shoes I would not stand for putting up the father for several weeks if he had not helped with some sort of cash aid to raise the kids !

Ps mentioning friend on income support going to Oz for 4 weeks has not exactley won over many members either I would have kept that info under my belt .

Zara33

I'm lost! whose going to Australia whislt on IS

Teahfc

inchinga wrote: »

Another friend of ours went on a holiday for 29 days to australia with her kids (she had 2 family weddings to attend, and the 29 days was essential to be able to go to both, and it was the only holiday they'd had for years).

She told the income support office, and gave them the exact dates and reasons for her long trip, and was verbally told she would be fine.

When she was on holiday, she had no money in her account and they had stopped all housing benefit and income support a week after the holiday started.

This caused no end of hassle, as she had a 4 week interruption in rent money, which got0 her into a lot of debt etc etc. The really annoying thing for her was she got a job soon after her return, and wasn't entitled to the extra £60 per week that you get if you've been out of work for over a year as she had now had this interruption in her claim.

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Zara33 wrote: »

I'm lost! whose going to Australia whislt on IS

OP quoted in her second post of ther thread ...... Not going to win over a lot of people using that as an example surely :eek:

SomeBozo

Is it unreasonable to ask these questions?

1) This guy is coming to stay in your house for about 3 months and is not going to contribute? Really? He is living rent-free? Eating your food? Using the electric for a shower? And he is not going to contribute at all? He doesn't intend to spend money on the children? Really?

if so can I come and stay rent free for 3 months?

2) He can afford a air ticket and money to stay for 3 months yet can't contribute to his children? I( take the point of the exchange rate but he still, has to pay a)the air fare and b)meals and board for 3 months (as you say he isn't contributing).

Hard questions, typed in case the DWP ask you it.

Bozo

cattie

Honesty is always the best policy where DWP & benefits are concerned. Far better to have to jump through some hoops now in an effort to ensure you can rightly retain benefits whilst your ex stays with you than risk being considered claiming fraudulently if you say nothing.

If you want to make your initial enquiry anonomous then perhaps you can arrange to see an experienced welfare rights advisor who could make the enquiry on your behalf.

Rich44_2

SomeBozo wrote: »

Is it unreasonable to ask these questions?

1) This guy is coming to stay in your house for about 3 months and is not going to contribute? Really? He is living rent-free? Eating your food? Using the electric for a shower? And he is not going to contribute at all? He doesn't intend to spend money on the children? Really?

if so can I come and stay rent free for 3 months?

2) He can afford a air ticket and money to stay for 3 months yet can't contribute to his children? I( take the point of the exchange rate but he still, has to pay a)the air fare and b)meals and board for 3 months (as you say he isn't contributing).

Hard questions, typed in case the DWP ask you it.

Bozo

If that's the cost of getting the childrens father in their lives then....