Is my new husband liable

Zara33

DUTR wrote: »

What concerns me more from the OP is that the child wants to move 150miles away to live with somebody he has had little or no contact with, naturally there has to be some discussing concluded in that household, since something must be troubling the boy big time :eek:

Kids always think the grass is greener on the other side, i wouldn't say there must be something troubling the child in question. Kids create this vision in their head as to what they think their NRP is like.

Surely it is better that the OP is thinking about it rather than denying the child that right.

Zara33

Wasteland_Drifter wrote: »

DUTR.
You are wasting your time arguing with these muppets on this forum, these keyboard warriors clearly have far too much time on their hands to do anything contructive with their lives.[/QUOTE]

:kisses3: I do hope i'm included in the list of muppets.

DUTR

Zara33 wrote: »

Kids always think the grass is greener on the other side, i wouldn't say there must be something troubling the child in question. Kids create this vision in their head as to what they think their NRP is like.

Surely it is better that the OP is thinking about it rather than denying the child that right.

Sometimes the grass looks greener and is greener, I was out for lunch yesterday (Father's day) What surprised me apart from how many restaurants were full, was the amount of children obviously out without their father, now this could have been for a whole host of reasons, however amongst our party were to PWCs with their children.
From my child's mum I do know that kids feel the 'pressure' when at school and the class are making cards n stuff in prep for father's day

Siren1974

Yes it is a case of the grass is greener. I've not commented on his father as this would be unfair and would also open a floodgate of posts because I've said exactly what the man is like. I would rather try and retain a little bit of dignity. My son is 14, a difficult age. It is a case of "the grass is greener". He doesn't get beaten, he doesn't get abused, what he does get (and what a lot of kids these days can't deal with) is disciplined when he cannot follow house rules. I can assure you he isn't sent to clean the chimney, house rules involve bad language, being in on time and not downloading filth from the internet. I am not a bad parent, just have a boy who is rebelling

Siren1974

Oh, he goes for a trial two week stay on Saturday and quite frankly I am devastated

Wasteland_Drifter

Siren1974 wrote: »

Oh, he goes for a trial two week stay on Saturday and quite frankly I am devastated

Why are you devastated?

My two from my ex were rebels when they lived with her. When I got them I took them down the caravan with my two nieces for a week and they loved it! never a cross word out of them, pleased as punch and not so much of a grizzle since.

It was a complete change in scenery they needed. A holiday to recharge their batteries, a change of school (who reports substantial improvements in their work) and a change of routine. The CAFCASS officer said it would not be conducive to the best interests of the children if they lived with me. So much for the experts, it was all about the money.

Give your son a chance, if he wants to come back he'll shout it from the rooftops soon enough.

DUTR

Siren1974 wrote: »

Yes it is a case of the grass is greener. I've not commented on his father as this would be unfair and would also open a floodgate of posts because I've said exactly what the man is like. I would rather try and retain a little bit of dignity. My son is 14, a difficult age. It is a case of "the grass is greener". He doesn't get beaten, he doesn't get abused, what he does get (and what a lot of kids these days can't deal with) is disciplined when he cannot follow house rules. I can assure you he isn't sent to clean the chimney, house rules involve bad language, being in on time and not downloading filth from the internet. I am not a bad parent, just have a boy who is rebelling

Yes teenage years can be difficult, and yes you are correct not to bad mouth the father (he was good enough to make a child with so he can never be that bad really) . Dads can often offer knowledge, wisdom and discipline that mothers cannot, just as Mothers can offer a side of life that fathers cannot, kids need both parents and it is good that you are not 'standing in the way'.

blimey40

Lot of bitterness on here, which is understandable, but each case should be treated on its merits

The PWC's do come out in force when challenged.

Zara33

blimey40 wrote: »

Lot of bitterness on here, which is understandable, but each case should be treated on its merits

The PWC's do come out in force when challenged.

Just like the father's for justice do.

Zara33

Siren1974 wrote: »

Oh, he goes for a trial two week stay on Saturday and quite frankly I am devastated

Oh my it must only be a PWC thing I know exactly how you feel.