Is my new husband liable

freyasmum

blimey40 wrote: »

To be fair, you did give equal advice.

In general though we are in 2010, and fathers don't have the same rights as the mother, thats a fact of life.

Depending on the age of the child, fathers who are named on the birth certificate do have equal parental rights - married or not.

It changed in 2006.

blimey40

Thats just a piece of legislation, in reality its not put into action

freyasmum

blimey40 wrote: »

Thats just a piece of legislation, in reality its not put into action

Yes, it is. Unfortunately.

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Loopy_Girl

blimey40 wrote: »

I think as a woman when you are hurt, you think all men are the same. You wouldn't get many PWC's feeling any sympathy for NRP#s whatever the circumstances.

Well I must be a right freak of nature then as I take people at face value and judge them for who they are and how they treat me and not carry the baggage from years ago.

I feel no hatred towards my NRP - he gave me the best thing in my life:j

I just feel sad that he chooses to do what he does.

And I do feel sympathy for lots of NRP's - particularly the ones today that didn't get a card and a dodgy bottle of aftershave from a child that they cherish

blimey40

we agree on that

kelloggs36

DUTR wrote: »

Yes they changed it from Absent fathers but the media still refers to them as so, did you not post not so long back that fathers who don't bother with their children but pay csa should be locked up, yet there was that girl that posted about her Mum not having nothing to do with her, you never said the mum in that case should be locked up. I can only go on what I see on the forum, but as it stands I don't see equality

No, you idiot. I didn't say that those who pay CSA should be locked up, I said that those who don't have anything to do with their children AND who don't pay should be locked up - you clearly don't read my posts properly.

The Government call NRPs as such, but the media like to hype things up too much - more fool you for being so gullible as to believe everything the media say.

kelloggs36

DUTR wrote: »

Yes they changed it from Absent fathers but the media still refers to them as so, did you not post not so long back that fathers who don't bother with their children but pay csa should be locked up, yet there was that girl that posted about her Mum not having nothing to do with her, you never said the mum in that case should be locked up. I can only go on what I see on the forum, but as it stands I don't see equality

And no, they never changed it from absent fathers, because it never was absent fathers, it was absent PARENT.

Wasteland_Drifter

DUTR.

You are wasting your time arguing with these muppets on this forum, these keyboard warriors clearly have far too much time on their hands to do anything contructive with their lives. I came here genuinely looking for advice. I was lambasted bacause I was an NRP and the CSA dictated I cannot pay my own rent from my own salary because they magically invented some regulation that classes me a 'non-dependant' despite my ex and children enjoyed the rent-free of my own house. The posters on this forum said the CSA was right but fortunately the tribunal judge wasn't so stupid and made the CSA pay it all back.

I was lambasted again when I sold my occupied house at auction to raise cash to buy another place to live, and one poster even challenged my right to dispose of my property in this way. There was never any CS legislation enabling the CSA to dictate what I do with my own house, it turned out the expression non-dependant had been borrowed from housing benefit regulations and the CSA court officer was stupid enough to admit I wasnt even claiming it.

I did it all for my children, my ex is back with her parents too lazy to get a job and a 'non-dependant' to borrow the CSA's ideals. She even speaks of suing the CSA! My decision to put the house under the hammer made me unpopular with the regulars on this forum but it was 100% legal. The fact is my children are now very happy and lets me have a normal productive working family life again.

If you need advice on CSA matters then get expert advice. If you are an NRP you wont get it here, they are too hell-bent on finding a way to screw their NRP's life up.

kelloggs36 wrote: »

If the NRP is not working but receives child tax credits, then…

Its good to see these experts know what they talking about.

kelloggs36 wrote: »

I said that those who don't have anything to do with their children AND who don't pay should be locked up.

I am grateful we dont have you running the CSA otherwise every NRP in the country would be out of a job.

DUTR

kelloggs36 wrote: »

No, you idiot. I didn't say that those who pay CSA should be locked up, I said that those who don't have anything to do with their children AND who don't pay should be locked up - you clearly don't read my posts properly.

The Government call NRPs as such, but the media like to hype things up too much - more fool you for being so gullible as to believe everything the media say.

Well this is what you said or typed on the 9/6/09 at 1023hrs in this thread
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1742357&highlight=prison

I remember as I do pay and I don't have nothing to do with my child, it is not against the law

DUTR

Wasteland_Drifter wrote: »

DUTR.

You are wasting your time arguing with these muppets on this forum, these keyboard warriors clearly have far too much time on their hands to do anything contructive with their lives. I came here genuinely looking for advice. I was lambasted bacause I was an NRP and the CSA dictated I cannot pay my own rent from my own salary because they magically invented some regulation that classes me a 'non-dependant' despite my ex and children enjoyed the rent-free of my own house. The posters on this forum said the CSA was right but fortunately the tribunal judge wasn't so stupid and made the CSA pay it all back.

I was lambasted again when I sold my occupied house at auction to raise cash to buy another place to live, and one poster even challenged my right to dispose of my property in this way. There was never any CS legislation enabling the CSA to dictate what I do with my own house, it turned out the expression non-dependant had been borrowed from housing benefit regulations and the CSA court officer was stupid enough to admit I wasnt even claiming it.

I did it all for my children, my ex is back with her parents too lazy to get a job and a 'non-dependant' to borrow the CSA's ideals. She even speaks of suing the CSA! My decision to put the house under the hammer made me unpopular with the regulars on this forum but it was 100% legal. The fact is my children are now very happy and lets me have a normal productive working family life again.

If you need advice on CSA matters then get expert advice. If you are an NRP you wont get it here, they are too hell-bent on finding a way to screw their NRP's life up.


Its good to see these experts know what they talking about.

I am grateful we dont have you running the CSA otherwise every NRP in the country would be out of a job.

I won't lower myself to calling some of the posters names, I was making a simple observation of the slant of this forum, I know not all PWCs are the same and some of the PWCS on this forum are very nice people.It is far from balanced as you have found from your own experiences too.
The OP won't have to pay or won't have to pay anything substantial , children cost the same to raise irrespective of the gender of the PWC. The way the system is setup will see to that, since no spite is being levied (the new PWC may not even log a claim).
What concerns me more from the OP is that the child wants to move 150miles away to live with somebody he has had little or no contact with, naturally there has to be some discussing concluded in that household, since something must be troubling the boy big time :eek: