!!!!!! oh my God... this is a mess now.

brians_daughter

sorry couldnt remove title, but deleted post -

dmg24

Please edit your language, both in the title and the post text. I understand that you are upset but this is a family forum. Thank you.

Loopy_Girl

I'm assuming that you must be in a playful mood and having a laugh dmg as surely no one would be as patronising as that if they were being serious?!;)

existentialist

It happens. I'd try & plan your life for one that has no input from him, financial or other.
Not ideal, not fair, but less aggrevation.

MrsE_2

existentialist wrote: »

It happens. I'd try & plan your life for one that has no input from him, financial or other.
Not ideal, not fair, but less aggrevation.

I had a clean "financial" break from my first husband 18 years ago when my DD was about 4.

It was hard, but at least he couldn't call the shots with money;)

existentialist

dmg24 wrote: »

Please edit your language, both in the title and the post text. I understand that you are upset but this is a family forum. Thank you.

Necessary?

brians_daughter

mrs E - it wasnt a clean financial break - he has tried to kill himself this evening - his reasons given are me and my persute of £s for our son.. i only wanted £20 pw to help with his sporting activities not the £55pw the csa had calculated and he was aware of this. I did use some abreviations on my original post that maybe shouldnt be used... but youngsters shouldnt know what they are.. i am now sat here planning if i have to/need to tell our son what his dad has done

iceicebaby

How old is your son?

brians_daughter

he is 10 almost 11 years of age.

CMAC_2

? not sure what this post is about

MrsE_2

brians_daughter wrote: »

mrs E - it wasnt a clean financial break - he has tried to kill himself this evening - his reasons given are me and my persute of £s for our son.. i only wanted £20 pw to help with his sporting activities not the £55pw the csa had calculated and he was aware of this. I did use some abreviations on my original post that maybe shouldnt be used... but youngsters shouldnt know what they are.. i am now sat here planning if i have to/need to tell our son what his dad has done

I'm saying a clean financial break can be the best thing.

If his £20 means he can have you sitting there feeling like you are is it worth it?

Don't let him blackmail you, those are his problems, not yours.