housing and bad neighbours

kellyjelly_2

Hello there (newbie alert) :j


I have just come across this website and i hope someone may have some advice with regards to my current situation.

I am currently living in a council house with my 2 children, we moved in around 1 year ago and there has been alot of problems with one family down our street and there relatives who live just down the road.


For instance playing music until late hours, swearing while my children are playing in the garden, and children from there family actually having my little boy in tears because they where swearing at him, they urinate on the front of my fence and cause endless problems.

I am sick to death of children knocking on my door to see if my children will play out which ends up with around 13 children playing in my garden, I am too scared to tell them no because i know they will go to there parents and then they might start and cause problems. A 12 year old boy came into my garden and pushed her off her bike (she is only 3) and she grazed all her knee's.

I know they only seem like small problems but i go to my mothers house at 8 in the morning and dont come home while 7pm, i should be at home enjoying my life and not have to worry about what tonight will bring, its starting to effect my health and i am 8 months pregnant, which cant be good for my baby.

I am too scared to tell the anti-social team because they will say i am being stupid and say you get these sorts of problems everywhere, and i am too scared to tell the police because the families will know its me that has reported them and this will make things ten times worse.

I really want to move from the area but im sure the council will think of a reason why i cant be moved.

Does anyone have any advice at all? I really dont know what to do anymore now, other then stay with my parents.


Kind regards


Kelly

lynzpower

Hiya Kelly- welcome to MSE :j

Hope we can help!

Sounds like a nightmare to me.

Theres a few things I can suggest .

When you say that the anti-social team will pretty much ignore what you tell them, and tell you its like that everywhere ( believe me it really isnt, sounds AWFUL ) Id say thats a fundamental issue of ASB if theres loud music and children pi**ing in the street unsupervised. There are issues of risk here that the antio socail team should be more aware of. Have you spoken to the manager of the anti social team and told him you are concerned you are not being listened to and its making you clearly very anxious. If you get no luck there, why not contact the Elected councillor whos brief will include ASB.

One aspect is that you are the adult and when groups of children mob your house, you simply have to say listen its simply not going to happen and steel up slightly. You have a quiet good reason to say, im having another baby, we need more peace & quet here. Could you be brazen and go and have a nicey word with the mums and premept it saying would you mind if your kids couldnt come over after X o clock. You have be the person who says what goes in your own home and you cant be held to ransom in your own home by a load of kids!!


Whatever suggestions come from this thread, im afraid none of them will come particularly quickly. Therefore you do need to try and gain control of waht happens in your house/ garden and try to keep your home as calm as possible, what happens with them outside your property, try to distance yourself a little bit.
Does your council do choice based lettings?

poppysarah

If she's 3 you should probably be supervising her playing out ... that's just my opinion though. I know a woman up the road who happily lets her tots step out from between parked cars in front of moving vehicles. Her choice.

Supervise the kids in the garden. Most bedraggled kids love attention from adults because they get none at home. Get them some tat from the pound shop (tennis rackets and balls) and let them take them to play in the street - say there's not enough room in the garden... (obviously don't do this on a busy street)

If the neighbours play loud music late at night you can either ask them nicely and then suffer if they decide they don't like that, or enjoy peace if they act considerately. The other option is to speak to the council if they're their landlord or not...

There's a song that says "you take the weather with you"

The bad behaviour you shouldn't have to tolerate but sometime it's easier to work with it than fight it.

kellyjelly_2

Hi there,

Yeah its hull city council, funny because i had a letter posted through the door this morning because there has been a number of complaints in the area because of anti-social behaviour.

And i am out with the children all the time, i went to put the bin out and he jumped in the garden pushed her off. I have to watch my children because there is always the chance of speeding cars or bad people out there. The parents who live down the street have child after child and just let them do anything.


You cant work with these type of people. I would just rather move and forget about them.

lynzpower

I get the feeling moving would be the magic wand!

had a look on the hull city council website and I saw this

http://www.hullcc.gov.uk/portal/page?_pageid=221,52779&_dad=portal&_schema=PORTAL

i cant open the link but theres one about council tenants transferring that might be useful.

tsstss7

kelly can you not do a council swap?

poppysarah

kellyjelly wrote: »

Hi there,

You cant work with these type of people. I would just rather move and forget about them.

Keeping a nuisance diary about the issues - big chore and you've got to speak to the council first to get it all started.

ipod_killed_the_musicshop

The first thing is move. What to do after you've moved, I couldn't possibly say on the internet.

hethmar

Google for neighbours from hell - there is a lot of support and information on there. Best of luck.

PasturesNew

lynzpower wrote: »

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had a look on the hull city council website and I saw this

http://www.hullcc.gov.uk/portal/page?_pageid=221,52779&_dad=portal&_schema=PORTAL

i cant open the link but theres one about council tenants transferring that might be useful.

As they say in chavtown, "it's brokeded", here it is mended:
http://www.hullcc.gov.uk/portal/page?_pageid=221,52789&_dad=portal&_schema=PORTAL

kellyjelly_2

:oOh what a day, I have been playing with the children in the front garden this evening to find one of the neighbours come into the garden and demand i give him a cig. (i dont smoke)

He was totally plastered on vodka and went on to shout abuse at me and call me a S*** to which my partner came out and asked what his problem was.

I have called the police but they didnt even bother coming out and phoned to say the have reported him to the local asbo team :mad:

I am so annoyed that a drunk man can come into my garden while i am playing with my children and shout abuse at me and just get away with it.


I am considering buying one of them tents that are on special offer at asda and moving far far far away.


If i dont laugh about it then ill cry :(