Can I refuse CSA off my ex?

scheming_gypsy

if he's abusive and threatened to kill the kids changing email addresses and phone numbers etc will just wind him up.
If Black Saturn wants to stop the payments to get him out of their lives then changing numbers etc isn't the best way to do it.

Prudent

scheming_gypsy wrote:

if he's abusive and threatened to kill the kids changing email addresses and phone numbers etc will just wind him up.
If Black Saturn wants to stop the payments to get him out of their lives then changing numbers etc isn't the best way to do it.

It is a very difficult position to be in. However taking steps to protect yourself is essential. Change email addresses (or can you simpy block emails from him? This would be better if you use that email addy for entering comps) and mobile number etc. The most effective thing long term is to give a complete lack of reaction and making sure he can intrude as little as possible. This way hopefully he will eventually become bored and leave you alone.

My ex was very abusive when forced to pay anything, so I understand your dilemma. If you are on benefits now I assume you won't loose much financially? If you work (or wish to in the future) £75 per week is a lot of money. But then how much is peace of mind worth? Hugs to you because it is a horrible situation. I hope you find a good solution.