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I may be lying in the gutter but i'm looking at the stars.

RosyP
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Right were to start, well I'm Rosy and I'm a 30ish slightly overweight, chain smoking, problem drinker with a big debt problem. I'm sure that description is conjouring up charming images of me, but I promise I actually look pretty normal and not like I'm going to headbutt you soon as look as you. Although sometimes I feel like Homer Simpson in a dress, both physically and mentally....
I have been a long time lurker and generally moving forward, I have flickers of lightbulb moments and have not increased my debt for several years but don't seem to have moved beyond minimum payments. I've had enough of this hanging round my neck and want it gone, for good. I also need to sort out the rest of my life but one step at a time and all.
My biggest problem is spending time on things which don't actually need to be done yet whilst conveniently forgetting things which do need to be done. I do have a real strength in planning, I can do excellent detailed, relaistic plans for what needs to be done, complete with highlighted timetables and little motivational pictures drawn with glitter glue. I also give superb advice to friends on exactly how they should sort out their lives. As they listen I assume my veneer of respectibility and success is still there! I am rubbish at following good advice myself.
Today I decided it was going to be different, no big long plans, no having to get a billion things in place first, look at what I want to do over the next few days and forget the rest. So onto the plan for the next 3 days:
Get 15 hours work done.
Menu plan for the week and pick up any food needed.
List 20 items on ebay.
Finish off my last project that is hanging over my head and is stopping me from starting new work.
Send PPI reclaim letters to Welcome and Natwest.
That is more than enough for 3 days, now I am going to get showered and dressed and not slob around in my jimjams all day just cos I don't need to go out.
To anyone that has made it through well done and good luck ;-)
I have been a long time lurker and generally moving forward, I have flickers of lightbulb moments and have not increased my debt for several years but don't seem to have moved beyond minimum payments. I've had enough of this hanging round my neck and want it gone, for good. I also need to sort out the rest of my life but one step at a time and all.
My biggest problem is spending time on things which don't actually need to be done yet whilst conveniently forgetting things which do need to be done. I do have a real strength in planning, I can do excellent detailed, relaistic plans for what needs to be done, complete with highlighted timetables and little motivational pictures drawn with glitter glue. I also give superb advice to friends on exactly how they should sort out their lives. As they listen I assume my veneer of respectibility and success is still there! I am rubbish at following good advice myself.
Today I decided it was going to be different, no big long plans, no having to get a billion things in place first, look at what I want to do over the next few days and forget the rest. So onto the plan for the next 3 days:
Get 15 hours work done.
Menu plan for the week and pick up any food needed.
List 20 items on ebay.
Finish off my last project that is hanging over my head and is stopping me from starting new work.
Send PPI reclaim letters to Welcome and Natwest.
That is more than enough for 3 days, now I am going to get showered and dressed and not slob around in my jimjams all day just cos I don't need to go out.
To anyone that has made it through well done and good luck ;-)
I hated every minute of training, but I said, ''Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.'' Muhammed Ali.
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Welcome to the boards. There is always room for one more diarist! Good luck with your list, you can edit your original post to cross out each one you do, if that helps!
Do you think it would help to post a Statement of Affairs? Or are you pretty much sorted on what your spending is? Just need to cut it back? lol
good luck with your journey
chevI want a job that is less than an hour driving away from my house! Are you listening universe?
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Morning Rosy, Well done on starting your diary & trying to sort out everything else! Wishing you luck & I'll be back!! :rotfl:xMortgage: Jun 08 £155300~Repayment Made: £4300~Remaining: Mar 10 £151000DFW Nerd 1190
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Morning,
Wishing you lots of luck on your new journey, we'll all be here along the way to support you.
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Thank you all for being so welcoming! :j
The SOA and an accurate list of my current indebtedness is going to be done next week. I'm going to do it properly this time, with absolutely everything!
Making progress on project finishing and am off to do some other work now, the cleaning can wait till later, no more putting things off!I hated every minute of training, but I said, ''Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.'' Muhammed Ali.0 -
Hi Rosy
I like the thread title !
I am brilliant at procrastination, and like you need to get things done !
There is a great cut down/give up alcohol thread - loaded with terrible jokes too
Here : http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1660931
Will watch with interest.DC.
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Thank you different corner, it is an Oscar Wilde quote and always seemed very apt to me!
I have had a good day today, I recently started reading the Rational Recovery Book by Jack Trimpey. The man is rabidly anti-aa, whilst the AA is not for me it is right for a lot of people, so I push that to the side. It is about recognising the addictive voice and is a logic based program. I woke up this morning with a stomping hangover telling myself that I would just finish off the remaining booze tonight and then start afresh tomorrow. It clicked to me that it was my addictive voice talking and booze has now been binned. That stupid little voice telling me that I can't waste it, well I can't send it back and if I drink it today I will buy more tomorrow, so it has gone. Having a nice glass of low cal ginger ale instead! :A
I'm liking the logic of the program, i've never had any truck with handing myself over to a higher power and if anyone mentions words like codependency or inner child around me then I am liable to slap them round the face with a wet fish.
I have menu planned and we popped to the shops earlier, we are planning on eating out of our stores for a while. Both to save money and also use up any bits which have been hanging around too long. The menu is looking fairly normal but I imagine it will get rather wierd and wonderful as the time passes!
I'm going to have a very early night tonight so I will be bright eyed and bushy tailed tomorrow and ready to take on the world! Tomorrow is for working and ebaying hard. If I get time I am going to start digging out stuff for a car boot sale next week, the thought of getting myself out of bed that early is making me feel a little ill. :eek:I hated every minute of training, but I said, ''Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.'' Muhammed Ali.0 -
Loving the title of your diary. Welcome to the boards and good luck with your journey. We are all here to support each other.The person who moves a mountain begins by carrying small stones.
Diet loss starting Sept 2019 0/80lbs:eek::o
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Rosy
I love self help books, something always works into my subconcious. I've not read that particular one, if it helps go for it. I did read No Big Deal: A Guide to Recovery from Addictions, it did refer to the AA quites heavily. Like you I'm not dissing it, but it's not for me.
Well done for ditching the booze ! I'm attempting an alcohol free June - longest I've gone in I don't know how many years and already I sleep better. I won't deny that I hear the bells tinkling around 6 or 7 in the evening occasionally though.
I've read many a weird and wonderful meal combination from leftover bits and pieces on the OS board so you are in good company.
Right good luck and positive vibes for tasking on the world today !DC.
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Thank you different corner, it is an Oscar Wilde quote and always seemed very apt to me!
I'm liking the logic of the program, i've never had any truck with handing myself over to a higher power and if anyone mentions words like codependency or inner child around me then I am liable to slap them round the face with a wet fish.
Fantastic attitude! :rotfl:Declutterbug-in-progress.⭐️⭐️⭐️ ⭐️⭐️0
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