Going in to see headteacher today.

poet123

The teacher should apologise, she should have checked when it became obvious your son was upset, although tbh it should have been known information if he suffered that badly in the past. You acted correctly in not challenging her in front of your son,(which must have been quite difficult under the circumstances) point that out to the head. As long as you stay calm, polite, but firm you will get your point across.

RoxieW

it should have been known information and as far as I am aware, on his record with the office. she didnt even check with them!

xxlaurissaxx

How did you get on? What did they say? I hope she apologised?!?!? Thats was terrible what she done to your son.

xx

RadoJo

In fairness, I can see how information like this can be missed when there are hundreds of children in the school and I can also understand why a teacher may think that a child is lying to get out of doing something.
However, I can't understand why this particular issue needed to be such a big deal, or why the teacher couldn't have just said 'I will check whether what you say is true, and if not there will be consequences' - that way she is covered from both angles and can always resolve the situation at a later moment with all the facts in hand.
Whilst I can completely understand that this is upsetting for you, I do think that it's a pretty small issue in the general scheme of things - she should have made more effort to find out the exact state of affiars, but it may have been one of those moments which we all have where things get on top of you that little bit more than normal. It may well be that it was someone else's responsibility to pass on the information, and her standpoint was that she would have been told if your son had special requirements. All I'm really saying is go in with an open mind - you seem to have done an admirable job of controlling your emotions thus far, so I'm sure you'll give the teacher a fair hearing too.

VeganClaire

I second asking for a care plan to be drawn up. I hope this makes the school more aware of protocalls what if it was a life threatening allergy! Think the teacher should appologise to you and your son.

Regarding ezma, my sister has it and finds eating less dairy and taking evening primrose tablets help her. For the future would it be possible to keep some suitable handwash and cream in school just incase?
Best wishes

RoxieW

Hi - thanks for the replies. Well it went well. The (new) headteacher was very nice and understanding and said that he shouldnt have been made to use the soap etc etc. She made all the right noises so couldnt really find fault with her. The teacher in question wasnt in today but she has made up a sign stating cobys requirements (not sure where it's going to go mind!). I think it was just the straw that broke the camels back regarding this particular teacher! I know it's not a massive deal - that was my point. Surely they could have just left him be while they spoke to me instead of making a huge fuss about it??
Bless him, my DS thought that when she said he'd be allergic to her if he didnt use the soap she meant that if he touched her he'd be allergic because she had used the soap??!
The head is going to have another word with said teacher I think. I doubt my son will get an apology though. :mad:

poet123

There should be no neccesity for a sign, a teacher should be able to keep the information about each childs needs in her mind, and it should be passed up the school as he moves up. I would have insisted on an apology, Children need to learn by example, and if he is expected apologise when he has done wrong, then adults need to be able to be seen to do the same, particularly those in authority.

aliasojo

poet123 wrote: »

Children need to learn by example, and if he is expected apologise when he has done wrong, then adults need to be able to be seen to do the same, particularly those in authority.

Oh if only that were the case in the real world. :rolleyes: My girl's class has a classroom assistant who asserts her authority by being loud and cutting the kids off in mid speech. Yet she expects manners to be demonstrated by the youngsters. I could cheerfully scream sometimes. :rolleyes:

OP, I'm glad your concerns were taken seriously by the head. Fingers crossed your boy will be treated a bit more reasonably from now on.

poet123

aliasojo wrote: »

Oh if only that were the case in the real world. :rolleyes: My girl's class has a classroom assistant who asserts her authority by being loud and cutting the kids off in mid speech. Yet she expects manners to be demonstrated by the youngsters. I could cheerfully scream sometimes. :rolleyes:

OP, I'm glad your concerns were taken seriously by the head. Fingers crossed your boy will be treated a bit more reasonably from now on.

Dont scream, complain, anyone in a classroom should lead by example.:D

aliasojo

I have.