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Going in to see headteacher today.
RoxieW
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Hi all
I'm sooo cross!
My oldest boy has eczema - which has been v severe at times. When he first started at the school he had to be bandaged neck to toe. We have it nicely under control now but habe had to be careful to cut out all irritants including most soaps so when he started at the school i let them know that he was ok just to use hot water for hand washing. That was 3 years ao and theres never been a problem until yesterday when his current teacher called him a liar and forced him to use the soap saying 'if you dont you'll be allergic to me.' DS was obv v upset and confused as he knows he's not meant to. He was crying and telling her that he was allergic.
The teacher told me about this after school and obv thought he was making it up until i told her otherwise, despite fact school have been informed. I was so angrsy when she told me what had happened! But i bit my tongue as didnt want a confrontastion in front of son. hubby went mad and we;'re going in to see head today.It's the last straw with this teachers bullish approach which has in the past entailed telling my son he has an attitude problem and that he needs to be 'more of a man'.
If she wasnt aware then surely she should have contacted me first before forcing him??
I'm not sure whatoutcome we want from the head apart from to vent our anger really.
Any thoughts/suggestions?
I'm sooo cross!
My oldest boy has eczema - which has been v severe at times. When he first started at the school he had to be bandaged neck to toe. We have it nicely under control now but habe had to be careful to cut out all irritants including most soaps so when he started at the school i let them know that he was ok just to use hot water for hand washing. That was 3 years ao and theres never been a problem until yesterday when his current teacher called him a liar and forced him to use the soap saying 'if you dont you'll be allergic to me.' DS was obv v upset and confused as he knows he's not meant to. He was crying and telling her that he was allergic.
The teacher told me about this after school and obv thought he was making it up until i told her otherwise, despite fact school have been informed. I was so angrsy when she told me what had happened! But i bit my tongue as didnt want a confrontastion in front of son. hubby went mad and we;'re going in to see head today.It's the last straw with this teachers bullish approach which has in the past entailed telling my son he has an attitude problem and that he needs to be 'more of a man'.
If she wasnt aware then surely she should have contacted me first before forcing him??
I'm not sure whatoutcome we want from the head apart from to vent our anger really.
Any thoughts/suggestions?
MANAGED TO CLEAR A 3K OVERDRAFT IN ONE FRUGAL, SUPER CHARGED MONEY EARNING MONTH!:j
£10 a day challenge Aug £408.50, Sept £90
Weekly.
155/200
"It's not always rainbows and butterflies, It's compromise that moves us along."
£10 a day challenge Aug £408.50, Sept £90
Weekly.
155/200
"It's not always rainbows and butterflies, It's compromise that moves us along."
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No advice, but you are doing the right thing nipping this in the bud right now. Best of luck!0
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You get teachers that can teach and can also have a good relationship with their pupils...and you get teachers who can teach, imo.
I'd be quietly fizzing if that had happened to my daughter. The fact the lad was crying should have made the teacher think twice about assuming he was lying. She should have erred on the side of caution but obviously her 'style' doesn't allow that.
A teacher gave my daughter a hard time over something that was not her fault to the point where she was crying and upset because her teacher didn't believe her. Another teacher who had been party to the incident later had a word with her and told her my daughter was not to blame and that she should apologise, which she did.
Teachers are good people on the whole but they dont always get it right with every kid. I would be complaining politely to ensure he is treated more fairly in future.Herman - MP for all!
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Hi all
I'm not sure whatoutcome we want from the head apart from to vent our anger really.
Any thoughts/suggestions?
An apology from the said teacher to both you and your son would be appropriate. But highly unlikely.
At least the teacher will know that you are not a pushover and her behaviour will not be tolerated! Hopefully she will have more sense next time she tries to bully a child into doing something.I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has had to overcome while trying to succeed. Booker T Washington
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thanks - am glad you dont think i'm over reacting as it is difficult when emotions are involved as they always are with our own children!MANAGED TO CLEAR A 3K OVERDRAFT IN ONE FRUGAL, SUPER CHARGED MONEY EARNING MONTH!:j
£10 a day challenge Aug £408.50, Sept £90
Weekly.
155/200
"It's not always rainbows and butterflies, It's compromise that moves us along."0 -
Contact the school nurse, tell them you want a care plan drawn up. Its like a legal document and they have to make sure they are aware of things like this, other wise they can get in trouble!0
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it's also really important to stay calm - you need to be in control so don't get all shouty (like I did)0
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Good luck, its so annoying espically as u have done it by the book, explain everything to the head, but may be worth asking for the teacher to be present so they know u mean business.
Didnt know about the care plan mentioned by other poster, by ask for that, its disgraceful the way some schools act.
Our school changed head about 18mths ago, and I've had a couple of runs in with him, even reported him to the education department at the council, he expects his word to be law, and everyone should be yes sir, no sir, afraid to say hes met his match with me.
One quick thought any communication you send in to school keep a copy, good luck xxxx rip dad... we had our ups and downs but we’re always be family xx0 -
As one result from this, I think you should ask the Head to ensure that all members of staff are aware of your son's problem. What if he needs first aid, and a member of staff uses a swab/plaster/ointment on him that is unsuitable ?? His eczema constitudes a disability (albeit a minor one), and the school should take due care as far this is concerned.
I am very sympathetic to your feelings. My son is 60% deaf on his left side, and it astounds me that each september, when he changes class, I have to inform his new teacher, as the information doesn't get passed on thru the school !!I try not to get too stressed out on the forum. I won't argue, i'll just leave a thread if you don't like what I say.0 -
If you think you are going to lose control, or get flustered (most people go back to their own schooling and being in the head's office was not a good thing) go in with a list of things you want to discuss written down may help youIt's taken me years of experience to get this cynical0
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thanks - am glad you dont think i'm over reacting as it is difficult when emotions are involved as they always are with our own children!
I do not think you are over reacting at all. But best to over react than to not react. If we can not look after our kids, who will?. Even if your son did not have allergies I still think the teachers actions were totally out of order.
Best of luck with your meeting.I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has had to overcome while trying to succeed. Booker T Washington
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