i am going on holiday and leaving my 16 1/2 year old daughter

jackieb

mcallister1 wrote: »

Or you may come back as my friend did to find that her 17 year old had asked friends round for a 'bring a cake' party. She was finding chocolate cake in bizarre places for weeks- and then the bill came for cable and found because she hadn't changed the password from the default, one of the 'guests' had downloaded a !!!!!! movie- at her expense of course.
Having said that, you have to take some chances in life and I have left my older kids. When I got home after a night away last week, every item they had taken out of the fridge was still on the worktop, along with every dirty dish. They had to clear it up at midnight when we got home.
If your sister can pop in, then you could be a bit stingy with the money and leave some for her to give if needed- its good experience to manage on a limited budget.

My husband's friend was left alone. He was 18 at the time. He threw a party (we weren't there) but we did visit him the next morning. I asked him what the white marks on the carpet were. He said people had been chucking eggs and he'd cleaned the carpet with Jif cream. :eek:

el_gringo_3

When I was a teenager I was as very very very bad boy. I got kicked out of college, spent most of my evenings away from my folks drunk or stoned out of my face, got in fights and generally caused an awful lot of trouble.

However, when left alone for the first time at 16 I seemed to become Captain Sensible - maybe because I realised the trouble that could be caused. I had a couple of mates round for the week, but there was never more than 6 people in the house, and I tried to make sure they brought stuff along to keep us occupied (guitars, games consoles etc). When my little sister and brother got to the same age, they took the same lead.

Basically, what I'm saying is that if your daughter has a penchant for bad behaviour - or hangs round with people that do - your house will be fine. It was always the 'quiet' ones who would look to invite X amount of people over where the trouble happened!

If I were you I'd remove the drinks cabinet and let her know that a relative will be coming round at their convienience several times during the week.

paulwellerfan

hi
just wanted to update the thread i started.
thank you all for your replies they were all helpful
any how just to let you know how it went.
Daughter was fine, as expected she spent most of her allowance within the first few days.
however there was plenty of food in the freezer for her to cook if she needed it.
turns out she did cook, proper meals as well both for her and the dog.
one night they had lamb chops and potatoes, next night she cooked all my best steak. ( she didnt feed the dog his food as she didnt like the smell).
house was also cleaner than i left it.
only down side is i have had to wean the bloody dog off jam on toast and coffee. so alls well that ends well.

SUESMITH_2

pleased it went well, when i was left at home at that age my mum and dad were v surprised that not only did i cook for me and my friend who stayed but we also tidied!

A_little_stressed!!

I say let the sister bring the money over is stages, £10, £20, £20, so it doesnt get lost/stolen/spent on booze! To be honest by the time I was 16 I had matured out of the wild parties, drugs and police involvement stage and would have been fine (well I'd actually moved out of home by 16) but at 14 OMG, that house would have been a crazed nightclub for the week!

Woodyrocks

A_little_stressed!! wrote: »

I say let the sister bring the money over is stages, £10, £20, £20, so it doesnt get lost/stolen/spent on booze! To be honest by the time I was 16 I had matured out of the wild parties, drugs and police involvement stage and would have been fine (well I'd actually moved out of home by 16) but at 14 OMG, that house would have been a crazed nightclub for the week!

The OP has been and gone and her daughter was a star by the sounds of it

A_little_stressed!!

Woodyrocks wrote: »

The OP has been and gone and her daughter was a star by the sounds of it

Sorry, didn't read that bit!

Happychappy

Just check your darling daughters facebook ? in case she has a party arranged, sure she won't, nah she wouldnt do that ? she'e a good girl ? oh my god ; ) only joking but worth a look anyway. I go to more parties at houses where the parents are away then parties where the parents are at home.

She was a good girl

debtfreein4years

glad she proven that you could totally trust her. my parents did the same for my brother when he was 19 but it turned into friends of friends turning up and the house being trashed and things of obvious value had gone walkabouts. when they go away later this year im going to be going to stay as it seems that he cant handle more than a weekend on his own.

Chris25

paulwellerfan wrote: »

only down side is i have had to wean the bloody dog off jam on toast and coffee. .

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