i am going on holiday and leaving my 16 1/2 year old daughter

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sinw wrote: »

..... oh an 6 crates strong cider for the parties

lol, 50p a can these days

hr100

annette2000uk wrote: »

Hi

I know this isn't what you're looking to hear, but i was in the position of your daughter once - many many years ago. Had some friends round, got bored went out leaving them in the house - they caused a lot of damage.

I for one would not leave my daughter unless i was 200% happy she had respectable friends.

To this day although i am partly to blame i have always felt my parents were naive leaving me.

Sorry xx

Partly to blame? You were totally to blame.

I was left alone at 16 and did have a couple of friends round, but I knew I didnt want anything stressful

Chris25

could you take her shopping beforehand and then let her cook what she'd like for the freezer? would she be happier reheating her own food?

avstar

I left my DD aged 17 just over a year ago, for the first time while we went on holiday.

She had her best friend round to stay all week as I felt better not having her alone in the house. They were both v sensible and nothing horrendous happened (other than they decided to dye each other's hair...not in the bathroom but over the wool rug in my living room...you know the rest!).

I took them both shopping with me annd they stocked up on frozen ready meals, cheese, ham, bread, crumpets, jacket potatoes...basically lots of stuff that didn't involve the oven...much better for them to use the microwave.

I also left them £20 for extras...and £50 with my mum, who rang them at 10pm every night to check where they were....(rung the housephone and not mobile!)

They had a couple of other friends round to sleep over at the weekend but it was all fine, neighbours kept an eye on them too. She loved it and was glad of the break from us I think! I'd told her she was responsible for the house and she did very well. It was a good learning curve for her.

Queen_of_NO_MATTER_WHAT

I personally wouldn't leave her with any money or leave her in the house on her own, but then I judge everyone by my own standards of being a 'wild child' teenager! (and they didn't have facebook in my day, thank god)

You know your daughter better than anyone on an internet message board, and if you feel that leaving her with £50 is the right thing to do then listen to your instincts. Me and my boyf do our food shopping for £50 - £60 a week with reasonable but not over careful budgeting, but we do cook from scratch and eat well, I'm sure I could easy spend £50 on junky food just for me in a week.

bomb_the_cherry

Yep, do what others have said - take her shopping before you go and then leave her with a bit of money just in case. Say £30?

queen_of_string

I have the strongest feeling that a week of eating junk when you are home alone for the first time at 16 is EXACTLY what you are supposed to do. Like a right of passage. 1 week of junk wont kill anyone and she might be so bored of it she might even like your cooking when you get home :-).

Any

I have to agree with some of the posts above - it's not the daughter I would worry about, but the friends. My friend left her 17 yr old daughter at home for long weekend and she invited some mates, who invited mates who invited mates - basicaly it went so far as suddenly she didn't know some of the people in the house.
PSP 2, Wii set and PC was gone and they tried to take her Hi-fi set as well, but as it was too big they left it downstairs on the end..
And my friend's daughter is one of the most sensible people I know (at her age anyway), but unfortunately once she had 30 people in the house she completely lost control.
As for money - I would leave £30 and some with your sister.

socks_uk

Jemima09 wrote: »

why don't you take her to the supermarket and get her to choose what she wants.. then just leave a little extra for treats.

Why don't you sit down at the computer and book a home shopping delivery for the order to come a day after you leave, making sure your sister (assuming she is over 18) is there to sign for it (I don't think any of the supermarkets allow someone under 18 to sign for a delivery).
It'll make her feel 'grown up' and she'll look forward to it arriving rather than having to go round the supermarket... unless, of course, she likes it! I've noticed a lot of assumptions in this thread!

kazmeister

sorry replied on the other thread